I’m driving around in my car when the new dance tune “Summer” by Calvin Harris blasts out of the radio.
“When I met you in the summer, to my heartbeat sound, we fell in love…” the lyrics go.
The Memorial Day weekend marks the beginning of the wonderful summer season. The sun is out in full force, as are all the men with their shirts off. You know you sneak a peek!
Everyone’s out and about. There’s an energy this time of year that’s ripe for falling in love, so what’s your plan for maximizing your dating efforts and landing yourself a hot boyfriend this summer?
If you’ve been procrastinating and are ready to break out of hibernation, now is the time to get invigorated and really start living!
There are lots of single gay guys (just like yourself) interested in meeting someone new for the possibility of dating and mating.
This isn’t the time to be passive.
Very rarely does love come knocking on one’s door, and it’s important to devise a game plan for how you’re going to take advantage of the season and make this summer your year for successful dating.
While there’s no magic formula for landing a boyfriend, as dating is more art than science, there are some tell-tale activities you can pursue that will increase your prognosis and give you a sense of control over your own dating life.
Here are some things to consider:
1. Take care of yourself in and out
Nothing is sexier than a man who takes care of his mind, body and soul.
Whether this means you work out more at the health club, stimulate your mind by taking an interesting class, meet with a counselor to work through any emotional issues or for personal growth or to tap into spirituality, this will help give you a sense of balance and health that many find attractive.
This also can give off a magnetism stronger than any pheromone.
2. Get visible and say yes more often
, but you won’t meet him unless you mix and mingle in a variety of social circles and experiences.
The more socialization opportunities you pursue, the greater your odds are of meeting new and interesting people, including other possible dating prospects.
When we become jaded with dating, it’s easy to isolate and/or reject invitations to do things with people.
Force yourself to become involved in a variety of activities this summer.
You’ll soon find your feelings of engagement and enthusiasm begin to piggyback off of this behavior.
Also by making new friends, you never know what kind of connections you could make.
3. Know who Mr. Right is
You’ve got to do your homework before throwing yourself out there.
Picking potential boyfriends by relying on chemistry and attraction alone is not always a wise strategy.
Do some prior planning by creating a vision for your future and identifying your personal requirements for a life partner and relationship.
By using your non-negotiable needs as a guidepost for screening potential dates, you’ll have more success aligning yourself with more compatible partners and save time and energy.
4. Plan your summertime calendar
By spreading yourself around a variety of dating venues, you’ll avoid becoming too dependent on any one setting (i.e. online personals).
Check out what’s going on in your community throughout the summer months and start scheduling commitments to attend these events.
Gay pride events, parades, street fairs, volunteer opportunities, sporting clubs, festivals and gay social networking sites are just a small handful of ideas. Endless possibilities abound.
5. Become your own Mr. Right
Since we don’t have control over what other guys will do, it’s important to channel your energies into making yourself as whole and dateable as possible for your own personal growth – you win either way.
Take stock of those areas of your life you feel you need to work on more, whether it be self-esteem, assertiveness, flirting, boundaries, shyness, etc.
By devoting time to strengthening these parts of your life, you’ll be enhancing your quality of life and secondarily making yourself more ready for a relationship when it comes along.
