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10 Signs He’s Commitment Oriented

Dr. Wendy Walsh

Written by: Dr. Wendy Walsh

Dr. Wendy Walsh

Known as America's Relationship Expert, Dr. Wendy Walsh is an award-winning television journalist, radio host & podcaster, and the author of three books on relationships and thousands of print and digital articles. More than 1.5 million people follow her sage advice on social media. She holds a Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology and teaches in the Psychology Department at California State University Channel Islands and has been the host of "The Dr. Wendy Walsh Show" on iHeart Radio's KFI AM 640 since 2015. Walsh is also a former Emmy-nominated co-host of "The Doctors," as well as former host of the nationally syndicated show "EXTRA." She was named a Time Magazine Person of the Year in 2017 after speaking out about harassment at a major news network.

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In today’s dating culture, it’s not easy to find a guy who’s ready to settle down – the kind who calls you up for more than a booty call.

The good news is there are sure signs of a guy who’s ready to commit, and it’s not to hard to decipher him from a bunch of other dudes looking to get the milk for free.

Here are 10 signs you should keep him on your radar if you’re interested in a long-term relationship:

1. His parents are still married.

This means he has a good example of what a committed relationship looks like. And it’s likely his parents’ marriage has taught him to value commitment.

2. He’s older than 27.

The average age of a first marriage for a guy is 27. Usually guys approaching 30 are sick of hooking up and are finally ready to settle down.

This isn’t always true, but his brain has finally matured by this point. It’s almost a sure bet he’s mature enough to commit.

3. His peer group is getting married.

He doesn’t want to be the only single one while his friends have significant others.

If his friends are all still single, chances are he’s not going to change his lifestyle and be the black sheep.

4. He’s college educated.

Research shows educated people are more likely to marry and less likely to divorce.

“He doesn’t see you for a long-term relationship if

he doesn’t acknowledge you’re his girlfriend.”

5. He’s religious.

Religion tends to increase an individual’s values in marriage and having a family.

These guys are more likely to settle down and stay in it for the long haul than those who aren’t religious.

6. He lives in a so-called red state (politically conservative).


are usually the quickest to marry when comparing reds and blues. They tend to value marriage and family before education and career.

7. He has a secure job.

A secure job means he can provide and protect, whether it be a girlfriend, a wife or a family.

A secure job usually indicates this guy has got it together and is reliable and responsible.

8. He has had at least one long-term girlfriend.

By long-term girlfriend, I mean more than one year.

It should be a red flag if your potential partner is in his mid-20s and hasn’t been able to settle down for more than one year.

The more short-term partners he’s had, the harder it will be for him to stay committed.

Previous relationships have a huge influence on future relationships, so if he couldn’t commit in the past, probably not much has changed.

9. He has a good relationship with his mother.

But make sure the relationship isn’t too close.

If he treats his mother with respect and values their relationship, he probably respects women in general and looks for the same characteristics in a future wife that he sees in his mother.

Yes, men date women like their mothers, so if you don’t like his mother, you probably won’t be sticking around too long.

But watch out for a man who is too close to his mother. Mama’s boys can have a hard time letting go of Mom and fully committing to a girlfriend.

10. He refers to you as his girlfriend.

You should be his “girlfriend” rather than “the girl I’m dating right now.”

He clearly doesn’t see you as potential for a long-term relationship if he doesn’t acknowledge you’re his girlfriend. Run while you can!

Ladies, what signs do you see in the man you’re dating that signal he is commitment oriented?

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