10 Ways To Handle Long Distance Online Dating

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10 Ways to Handle Long-Distance Online Dating

Julie Spira

Written by: Julie Spira

Julie Spira

Julie Spira is a leading online dating expert and founder of CyberDatingExpert.com. She’s the bestselling author of The Perils of Cyber-Dating and creates irresistible profiles for singles.

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Edited by: Lillian Castro

Lillian Castro

Lillian Guevara-Castro brings more than 30 years of journalism experience to ensure DatingAdvice articles have been edited for overall clarity, accuracy, and reader engagement. She has worked at The Atlanta Journal and Constitution, The Gwinnett Daily News, and The Gainesville Sun covering lifestyle topics.

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Dating online affords you the wonderful opportunity of casting a very wide net. By simply changing your ZIP code or being open to the possibility of meeting a potential partner who resides in another continent, true love can be found across town or across the world.

So what happens when you finally connect with a person who lives out of town, out of state or out of the country? Can you really fall in love and manage a long-distance relationship? Should you ignore emails from a potential match who doesn’t live in your state or country? Our view is that long-distance love is worth a shot, but of course we know there is a lot on the line, so think it over and weigh your options carefully!

5 questions to ask before you jump into a LDR

Long-distance relationships are not for the faint of heart, and they do take work to maintain. Both individuals have to make the commitment to bridge the distance however they can, whether it’s hopping on a red-eye flight or send daily “good morning” text messages.

If you’re thinking about getting in a long-distance relationship, you’ll need to ask yourself a few important questions:

  1. Would you be willing to relocate for love?
  2. How long will your LDR last?
  3. How often will you be able to see each other?
  4. Are you willing to drive the distance or hop on a plane?
  5. Will your relationship be exclusive, or can you date others?

Once you and your online honey decide the relationship is worth a shot, you’ll need to make a plan, not just for how to navigate the distance but how to cross it. You will surely want to turn your digital pen pal into someone you can hug and cuddle at night from time to time.

Traveling can be expensive, so communicate with your LDR on how often you can visit each other and suggest a romantic weekend away to a middle ground when the time is right.

5 ways to keep the spark alive

Here are some tips on how to have a LDR and to keep the spark alive when you can’t fall asleep in his or her arms at night.

  1. Make a point of sending daily texts to each other. Start with a flirty good morning text, and make sure to send a goodnight text.
  2. Arrange a candlelit video date. Dress up for the occasion, and toast to a glass of wine or sparkling water together.
  3. If your long-distance sweetheart is in the same country, schedule a phone call so you can hear the sound of their voice.
  4. Make time on the calendar to meet so you have something to look forward to.
  5. Send a romantic song on iTunes or Spotify to make your partner smile.

Once you’ve decided to be exclusive, take down your online dating profiles and start your romantic journey together. Don’t forget to make sure you’re on the same digital page before you change your relationship status on Facebook and agree on whether you should post photos on each other’s page.

Long-distance relationships aren’t for everyone. At the end of the digital day, if you feel a strong connection, online dating and technology can become your best friend.

Would you be willing to change your ZIP code to find love?

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