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Does being out affect your ability to get dates? It sure does. And it affects your ability to keep a date coming back.
Being an out lesbian is not for everyone. There are lots of women who stay in the closet because of their family or their job or their church.
You can still get fired in 29 states for being lesbian. It’s sad but true nonetheless.
For many women, young or old, coming out is about living your truth first and foremost.
Coming out also means taking a chance on losing the connection to the people you love.
More than 40 percent of homeless youth are LGBT and have been thrown out of their homes by their parents.
That statistic alone says there are big consequences to coming out, and you should think carefully about if or when you take this step.
As a teen thinking about coming out, you need to consider what your parents’ reaction will be.
If they’ll be supportive, then it might be the right time. If you’re parents won’t be supportive, perhaps it’s best to wait until you graduate from high school before telling them.
You’ll be better prepared to be out on your own and often transitioning to college is a great time to explore your gayness.
Being a teen and living at home is a far different story than being an adult and out on your own.
“You need to know that being in the closet
is detrimental to dating on many levels.”
If you’re an adult and in the closet, it’s not up to me to tell you when you should be coming out, but I can tell you it’s a dating problem.
I’m totally out of the closet and dating a lesbian who is in the closet is like going backward in time.
I have to pretend with your family or friends I’m your straight friend. Or I have to pretend I’m your queer friend but you’re straight.
Either way, I have to pretend to be something I’m not. I have to remember to lie for you and do it over and over.
The whole point of coming out is I’m not pretending to be straight anymore. I’m not lying. I’m not hiding. I’m not afraid.
If you’re in the closet and still hiding, your fear is going to create some problems.
As a closeted lesbian, you have a whole group of people and situations you’re hiding from.
When you’re out in public with a date, you’re worried about being seen instead of being able to totally enjoy the moment.
As a closeted lesbian, your story about staying in the closet makes sense to you, but it probably won’t make long-term sense to a lesbian who is all the way out.
She’s not going to want to go back in the closet.
I see these relationships now and again and they don’t last.
The woman who is out becomes resentful. The woman who is in the closet gets more anxious as time goes by. And so these relationships don’t work most of the time.
Again, it’s not my job to tell you to come out. You have to make that decision, but you need to know being in the closet is detrimental to dating on many levels.
How has coming out affecting your dating chances?
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