How Can I Take More Initiative in My Dating Life?

Bethany Heinesh

Written by: Bethany Heinesh

Bethany Heinesh

Bethany has ghost-written hundreds of dating articles in the last 10 years for relationship experts all over the United States.

Edited by: Lillian Castro

Lillian Castro

Lillian Guevara-Castro brings more than 30 years of journalism experience to ensure DatingAdvice articles have been edited for overall clarity, accuracy, and reader engagement. She has worked at The Atlanta Journal and Constitution, The Gwinnett Daily News, and The Gainesville Sun covering lifestyle topics.

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Guys, if you are looking for someone special and you haven’t found her yet, it’s time to kick your efforts up a notch. Trust me, there is a woman out there looking for you and counting the days until she finds you. This may be hard to believe, but you are some girl’s perfect catch. You may not realize it, but you are exactly what some woman is looking for. You are her dreamboat, her Mr. Perfect, her soul mate. Now, all you have to do is find her.

This will require you to take some initiative in your dating life, but I know you’re up for the task. There are three fast and easy ways you can immediately step up your game and take an active part in finding that special lady you’ve been searching for. One way is to join your favorite online dating site, build yourself a rockin’ profile with great pics, communicate with your matches and start scheduling dates. Another is to pass the word. Tell your friends, co-workers and relatives you’re on the lookout for a great gal to take out for dinner and drinks. Trust me, you’ll be booking dates in no time.

Finally, you need to get out there. Go to places you enjoy like church, a pool hall, the gym, whatever. Keep an eye out for single women you find attractive. Don’t be shy. Introduce yourself and make conversation. Before you know it, you’ll be securing plans for coffee.

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