When Should We Talk About Monogamy?

Bethany Heinesh

Written by: Bethany Heinesh

Bethany Heinesh

Bethany has ghost-written hundreds of dating articles in the last 10 years for relationship experts all over the United States.

Edited by: Lillian Castro

Lillian Castro

Lillian Guevara-Castro brings more than 30 years of journalism experience to ensure DatingAdvice articles have been edited for overall clarity, accuracy, and reader engagement. She has worked at The Atlanta Journal and Constitution, The Gwinnett Daily News, and The Gainesville Sun covering lifestyle topics.

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Typically, monogamy is the end goal most women have when it comes to dating. Although there are plenty of women out there who engage in alternative lifestyles, generally speaking, most of us want to be with one man and we want him to be with only us. I, like most, consider myself a one-man woman and expect the same in return. I may be a rare breed, but I have never cheated because being in a committed relationship is serious business.

So when it comes to the topic of monogamy, I consider myself a traditionalist. Fidelity is a natural state for women, and most of us are dying to hear that’s what you want, too. When you feel you are ready, and not a minute before, let her know what’s on your mind. The monogamy talk should be quick and to the point. If you’re feeling like you want to be her one and only, tell her:

“I just want you to know, I think you’re fantastic, and I’m really enjoying our time together. I’d like us to be exclusive. What do you think?”

There is no set amount of time that needs to pass before you have this conversation. You might feel this way after three dates or three years! Either way, listen to your instincts. You’ll know when it’s time.

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