Do Opposites Attract?

Bethany Heinesh
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You’ve heard the old saying “opposites attract.” Sure they do……if you happen to be a magnet. When it comes to choosing a partner, though, I lean more toward the idea that people do best when they are in the company of like-minded people.

This is true in professional environments, school settings and social clubs. Why should romantic relationships be any different?

I do believe there is something to be said for men and women whose extreme temperaments are balanced by their partner’s distinctive personality, and in this way, opposites do work well together.

For instance, if you’re naturally high-strung and your boyfriend is mellow, he will help calm you down while you encourage him to be more motivated about life. If you’re a shopaholic and he is a frugal Freddy, he will teach you how to be wise with your money while you show him how to live a little.

Typically, however, opposite attitudes and interests can create real problems.

For instance, if you love the great outdoors and he’s a couch potato, chances are, you’re going to be doing a lot of lonely sightseeing. If you’re a Buddhist and he’s an atheist, you’re probably going to get frustrated pretty quickly.

When it comes to the things you are passionate about, you ought to look for a partner who feels the same way. Relationships are about two people sharing a life together, which means you need to share similar interests, attitudes and philosophies.