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How to Rekindle the Dwindling Spark in Your Relationship Part 2

Marni Battista

Written by: Marni Battista

Marni Battista

Marni Battista, founder of Dating with Dignity, has professional training in dating and relationship coaching as well as training in the Core EnergyCoaching Process from the Institute of ProfessionalExcellence in Coaching (IPEC).

Edited by: Lillian Castro

Lillian Castro

Lillian Guevara-Castro brings more than 30 years of journalism experience to ensure DatingAdvice articles have been edited for overall clarity, accuracy, and reader engagement. She has worked at The Atlanta Journal and Constitution, The Gwinnett Daily News, and The Gainesville Sun covering lifestyle topics.

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For most couples, there comes a time when you realize the passion may have gone from your relationship. Here is part two of Marni Battista’s fresh ideas for how to keep your relationship thriving.

If you missed part one, check out How to Rekindle the Dwindling Spark in Your Relationship.

3. Maintenance, maintenance, maintenance.

Things as little as leaving a love note for your partner before you leave for work, sending that romantic text message, giving him a passionate kiss before he goes to work (versus the usual peck on the lips), buying a sexy new bra or pink power panties or scheduling a date night that involves something in which you share a new experience together (e.g. not movie and dinner) helps you make space in your lives (and in your brains) for each other.

A thriving, passionate relationship doesn’t happen by accident. For an extra bonus, set an alarm on your phone to “remind” you to do something extraordinary for your partner at least four days each week.

Whether it’s sexting him, sending an “I am thinking about you” text or buying his favorite cigar for no reason, creating an intention and then taking action can make sure you actually implement your plan for love.


“Feeling good about yourself makes it a whole

lot easier to give more in your relationship.”

4. Timing is everything.

If you find yourself feeling frustrated or you need to talk to your partner about your relationship, time it right.

Don’t ambush him/her right when he/she gets home from work, and don’t rehash or overanalyze yesterday’s events every day.

Allow each other to ease into the rest of the day and make sure you understand how both of you best reintegrate into the relationship.

For an extra bonus, schedule a conversation at night (it can actually be fun!) where you can have a nonjudgmental forum to express to each other any frustration AND what’s working in your relationship.

Make it a hot chocolate night at a local coffee shop or a stroll on the beach, and you’d be surprised about what can come of a planned talk.

5. Take care of your physical and emotional self.

Self-esteem greatly impacts the success of your love relationships. Feeling good about yourself makes it a whole lot easier to give and receive more in your relationship.

Maybe you’re both feeling low self-esteem because work has been rough, or perhaps one partner needs a little motivation in the fitness or diet department.

Taking challenges on together, setting goals as a duo and rewarding each other for reaching individual goals can be a wonderful bonding experience.

Loving “me” will help lead you to loving “we.”

For an extra bonus, sign up for a crossfit gym and plan to go once a week, do a yoga class every Saturday or simply agree to a nightly walk around the block after dinner.

Releasing endorphins together leads to more intimacy and more shared experiences, which is a great way to inject new life into a relationship that needs a boost.

Which of these tips is your favorite way to rekindle the romantic spark?

By Marni Battista, founder and CEO of Dating with Dignity. Connect with her on Google+.

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