Julie Wadley Offers a Black Woman’s Perspective on Dating and Relationships Through Her “While We Wait” Podcast

The Short Version: On the podcast “While We Wait,” Matchmaker and Dating Coach Julie Wadley gives her unique perspective on topics like romance and sex. The podcast’s concept grew from the idea that women are supposed to sit back and wait for the perfect man to come into their lives. Instead, Julie believes that women — especially bold, beautiful black women — need to turn the tide. Podcast episodes feature conversations and tips on how modern women can live their best lives while preparing to meet that special someone. The feedback Julie has received about the podcast, which is available on SoundCloud, has been glowing.

Julie Wadley, Founder of the Eli Simone Matchmaking Agency, knows how to connect with brilliant and beautiful black women because she relates to them.

Her agency focuses on helping women who feel like they have it all — including successful careers, friendships, style, and a supportive family — but still something is missing. They want to find that special someone with whom they can share their experiences, and they want to feel the passion and purpose that makes life especially rewarding.

As Julie worked with women as a matchmaker and dating coach to transform their lives and prepare them for finding love, she noticed a troubling trend in society.

Matchmaker and Dating Coach Julie Wadley has a podcast for women titled “While We Wait.”

Julie thought that the widespread notion that women were supposed to sit back and wait patiently for the right man to come along was ridiculous. So, she decided to start a podcast aimed at overcoming that idea, and she called it “While We Wait.”

“The podcast was born out of the many conversations that I’ve had with clients and my matchmaking colleagues. It is based on the misconception that women have been told to wait until their ‘Prince Charming’ comes along,” she told us. “Unfortunately, that’s not good enough anymore. Women shouldn’t put their lives on hold, waiting for someone to come along.”

Through the podcast and her matchmaking agency, Julie encourages listeners and clients to live their best lives as they prepare themselves for a lifelong partnership. For those women who have everything except lasting love, Julie sees no reason why they can’t have both.

Each of the hour-long episodes, which can be found on SoundCloud and Julie’s website, focuses on a question or concern that many women face in the modern dating landscape. Often, Julie receives feedback from listeners or recognizes common issues from her coaching clients that become topics for her podcast. That guides her to invite guests who can discuss solutions to those issues in an empathetic way.

For example, one episode focuses specifically on how black women can balance independence and relationships. It can be difficult for women who have their own lives and careers, and who are powerful and independent, to share their time with men. It’s a common misconception that those women are simply intimidating, but Julie said no woman should dull her shine to attract a man. If anything, that shine should be what attracts the right partner.

One testimonial on her website sums up that idea of balance.

Julie’s podcast covers a wide variety of dating and relationship topics.

“Julie and I worked together for a brief period; however, through her ‘diamond in the ruff’ coaching techniques, I was fortunate to gain the insight needed to be better equipped for a more balanced journey in this thing called life,” wrote S.D.

Julie brings that same style, philosophy, and unique perspective to her podcast. She said that when she first started recording the podcast, she wasn’t even sure anyone was listening.

But soon, the feedback was “phenomenal,” she said.

“It wasn’t until I was on a short hiatus that friends, clients, and even strangers asked when I was going to post new episodes,” she said. “I’ve received emails, social media messages, and calls from all over the country telling me how much they love the ‘real’ conversations.”

Although Julie is best known as a successful matchmaker and dating coach based in Charlotte, North Carolina, she said she’s begun to expand her practice as more people approach her. And many listeners are attracted to her style.

She said one woman in the Midwest would meet with her girlfriends to listen to the “While We Wait” podcast and then have a discussion, similar to a book club. While listening to those episodes, the woman realized how she was holding herself back from getting what she wanted and deserved.

“She said that I helped her see how much her actions impacted her relationships and that she had the power to turn those around,” Julie said. “I was incredibly flattered by that.”

The woman ended up becoming one of Julie’s clients, and, within six months, she met someone special.

“While We Wait” often inspires people to seek out Julie’s matchmaking services.

Julie encourages women to schedule a consultation to discuss her customized services. She works with her clients to determine their ideal relationship — even before they begin dating — to understand their compatibility with potential partners.

That can help women avoid wasting time thinking they can make a situation work when it is clearly not suited to them. She also helps her clients improve their self-esteem and regain their inner power, so they never feel rejected. Instead, her clients understand that they can actively choose their partner — rather than sitting around waiting for the right one to find them.

Other clients may need help with social and dating skills, including finding places to meet their ideal match. It can also be challenging to set clear boundaries while flirting successfully. That’s why Julie devotes podcast episodes to those topics.

Julie said her coaching business and podcast took off in 2019, and she’s expecting even more success with listeners and clients in 2020.

“People knew me as a matchmaker and did not have any idea that I also did dating and relationship coaching. Now I have more coaching clients than ever, and I absolutely love it,” she said. “Not that I don’t enjoy matchmaking, but there is nothing better than having people reach their own ‘aha moments’ and grow from there.”

Julie likens the experience to “teaching someone to fish” rather than just providing them with fish. She said she’s looking forward to branching out by adding more speaking engagements to her schedule, as well.

“Speaking, in any medium, is something that I truly enjoy,” she told us.

Of course, while sharing advice and discussion with fellow successful women, Julie is also always on the lookout for men she can match with her clients. Men who are single, successful, and ready for a long-term, monogamous relationship can send their information privately through her website. Those men may be invited to members-only events where they can connect with some of the most eligible black women in the country.

Those men may also be interested in hearing a woman’s perspective through Julie’s podcast. They may find the episode titled “The Truth About Men” particularly informative.