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|Hayley Matthews • 9/30/16|
The Short Version: Janis and Carly Spindel are a mother-daughter matchmaking duo with a combined 25+ years of experience in the industry. The tenacious and passionate Spindel women offer high-end services for thousands of busy, professional singles who are serious about finding a long-term relationship. Thanks to their hands-on, no-nonsense approach, Janis and Carly have been responsible for more than 2,100 marriages, earning them the nickname “the Rolls Royce of matchmaking.”
“I’ve been a people person my entire life. I can talk to anyone, anywhere, anytime,” Janis Spindel said enthusiastically on a recent phone call. And it’s definitely true.
Throughout our conversation, Janis is welcoming, candid, and funny, telling jokes, sharing stories, and asking me questions about myself as if we hadn’t just met. Her daughter Carly was the same way when we talked the following day.
It’s like the Spindel women have this sixth sense about people — who they are, where they’ve been, where they’re going, and what they want in life. It’s what makes them two of the best matchmakers in the business.
Their drive, dedication, and persistence are also contributing factors to their success. The mother-daughter team, who’ve been doing this for a combined 25+ years, is responsible for over 2,100 marriages.
With the men as the clients and the women as the members, Janis and Carly focus on serious, boutique-style matchmaking, providing upscale services that help busy, successful, commitment-oriented singles from all over the world find the right person for them.
Janis and Carly are like two peas in a pod, yet somehow they’re also like night and day. They’re both hardworking and take no excuses from their clients and members, but there are also noticeable differences in their matchmaking styles — the biggest being Janis is more old school, while Carly takes a more modern approach. The Spindel ladies complement each other, which is also a plus for their diverse clients.
While Janis and Carly mostly work individually, they’ll often join forces when they come across two people they just know would be perfect together. When asked what it’s like being around each other almost all day, every day, unsurprisingly they both used the word “fabulous.”
“We’re together 24-7, which sometimes is fabulous and other times it’s be careful what you wish for,” Janis laughed. “We have a lot of different thought processes because she’s in the younger generation. That’s an advantage because lots of people are better off with her and others are better off with me.”
“Oh, it’s fabulous. I would say we have 96% fun, and then there’s that 4% where, being the typical mother-daughter, we do butt heads a little bit. It’s great to have a mentor as a mother and businessperson,” said Carly, who’s affectionately called “Mini Janis.”
What they never butt heads on is that they’re passionate about helping men and women who are successful, kind, attractive, and, most importantly, want a serious relationship, not a million hookups or dates.
“It’s not about quantity; it’s about quality. It’s not about getting dates every night; it’s about meeting the right person and falling in love and having the right connection and chemistry and commonalities and everything else,” Janis said.
The Spindels work with 300-350 single men every year, ranging in ages from 27 to 87+ and living all over the world. While their careers vary (from hedge fund managers to entrepreneurs to celebrities to politicians), what they have in common is they’re tired of things like online dating and being set up on by their friends. These men are ready for the real deal, and they’re ready for it now.
That’s where Janis and Carly come in. Once a potential client reaches out, Janis will either set up a simulated date (e.g., lunch or dinner and drinks) or Carly will set up a casual meet-up. Then they’ll spend several hours with him getting to know what kind of woman he’s looking for and if he’d be a good fit for the company. If it is, then the introductions will start.
“The result is we get to know who the men are and what they’re looking for, and if we think they’re realistic with their expectations and we think we can deliver that, then we’ll take them on as a client,” Janis said.
Janis and Carly firmly believe in giving their clients options, which is why they personalize the process depending on the man’s needs and budget. Their packages include:
Currently Janis and Carly have 40,000+ female members from the U.S. and various international locations, such as Fiji, Australia, and South Africa, in their database. And they admit that they’re picky about who makes the cut. Above all, they’re looking for women who possess the four Bs: beauty, brains, body, and balance.
To be accepted as a member, an application is filled out and a meeting is set up with Janis and/or Carly. Prices start at $250 for a small group session and go up to $1,250 for a private meeting with both matchmakers. If there are good vibes all around, introductions and invites to signature events will begin. Women can also access concierge services, including suggestions for professional makeup artists and popular spas.
While Janis and Carly are the head honchos, there are several other people who play key roles at the company — including Janis’ husband and COO Allen, Image Consultant Lauren Solomon, Portrait and Event Photographer Brian Marcus, and Dietitian Tanya Zuckerbot.
Another crucial part of the team are the 45 matchmaking recruiters who scout the country for more fantastic women to join the database.
Janis and Carly pride themselves on providing a high-end service, and they understand that it might not be for everyone. they still offer a lot of . Their weekly podcast is especially valuable for women because it covers topics like where to meet men and common dating mistakes to avoid, with the tips coming directly from their clients.
Their books (e.g., Janis’ “Get Serious About Getting Married” and Carly’s “”Top Places to Meet Successful Marriage-Minded Women”) also provide a wealth of information about topics like creating attraction, turning a date into a relationship, and planning the perfect proposal.
If you’re looking for quick hitters, check out their blog for helpful articles like “Date Someone Who Makes You Better,” “Why Being in Love is the Best Feeling in the World,” “10 Things Your Girlfriend is Thinking But Won’t Tell You.”
When it comes to love, Janis and Carly are naturals at reading people, figuring out what they really want, and helping them find it. Over the past two decades, they’ve been the cause of thousands of success stories — with the closest one to Janis’ heart being Carly’s, who just got engaged to a wonderful man she met through one of their members.
“We are big believers of networking, and we’re big believers that with new women come new men. Someone’s ex could be your next,” Janis said.
For Carly, she simply loves helping people find love.
“My most favorite story is someone who’s never been married, a little older, given up on love, and then we introduce them to a great person they never thought they’d meet, they fall in love, and get married,” Carly said.
Those are our favorite stories, too, as well as those about the people who make it happen, like Janis and Carly. And we can’t wait to hear more from them as the years go on.