5 Reasons Shes Not Out Of Your League

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5 Reasons She’s Not Out of Your League


Written by: Tripp


Tripp is an expert international dating coach for men. Learn the most practical and top seduction skills in his free e-book, "10 Simple & Unknown Dating Tips to Increase Attraction," at www.trippadvice.com.

Edited by: Lillian Castro

Lillian Castro

Lillian Guevara-Castro brings more than 30 years of journalism experience to ensure DatingAdvice articles have been edited for overall clarity, accuracy, and reader engagement. She has worked at The Atlanta Journal and Constitution, The Gwinnett Daily News, and The Gainesville Sun covering lifestyle topics.

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It’s a common saying these days. All your friends are whispering it in your ear: “She’s out of your league.”

My first advice is not to hang out with these discouraging friends of yours. Secondly, she’s not out of your league.

In fact, she’s extremely obtainable. Let me explain.

1. We all have flaws.

Imagine it now:

You walk down the street to get a cup of coffee and you see your dream woman walk past. A goddess.

She’s has long legs, a busty top and hair that reaches the small of her back.

You’re forgetting one thing. She’s human just like you.

Well, isn’t that obvious? Not when you’re blinded by her beauty!

She gets sick. She goes #2. She has drama. She has debt. She has knee problems. She has flaws just like you and I.

On planet Earth, we all come from the same DNA. If you fail to see that, then you fail to recognize she’s no “better” than you.

2. It’s about confidence and value.

If you can display confidence and value to a beautiful woman, then you can have her eating out of the palm of your hands.

Easier said than done, I know. But, as a man who has approached hundreds and hundreds of women, I know what women want (and it’s no secret).

A woman is looking for a man to be there for her, care for her, be in control and provide.

A woman wants a man who isn’t afraid to take on the world head on. A woman desires the most confident man in the room.

If you can be that guy, then you’re more than halfway there.


“I want you to stop assigning numbers

to girls. People are not numbers.”

3. She wants you just as much as you want her.

Remember when I was talking about displaying value?

If you can find the value in yourself, then you have to believe me when I say, “She wants you!”

Value is not about money. Value is about how you live your life.

  • Are you exciting?
  • Do you take risks?
  • Are you passionate about your career?
  • Do you see the beauty in everyday things?
  • Do you see the true beauty in her beyond her looks?

If you can say yes to most of these questions, then you’re a man of value and you should approach her! She wants you.

4. It’s easy to be attractive.

Here’s a little secret gentleman: It doesn’t take much work to look attractive. If you just take care of a few things, then you can easily enter her league.

Chop off the messy hair, get a shave, wear clothes that fit, whiten your teeth, get contacts, fix your body language and project your voice.

If that seems like a lot, then break it down into easier steps, because you can get all of those done in a month!

As far as body type, just make sure you’re fit. If you’re overweight or extra skinny, then head to the gym.

As you can see, the lazy ones won’t get the 10s. The ones that work hard will.

5. There are no leagues.

From this day forward, I want you to stop assigning numbers to girls. People are not numbers.

Instead, you will have two categories: I’m interested in her and I’m not interested in her.

Literally, that’s all I want you to think about the next time you want to talk to a girl.

Assigning numbers will mess with your head and continue to make you anxious and depressed about her “being out of your league.”

There are no leagues! Not anymore.

The next time you see that pretty girl walking by, pop a mint and say hello. You have nothing to lose.

Have you ever dated a girl you thought was “out of your league”?

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