What Separates Real Men From The Wannabes

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What Separates Real Men from the Wannabes?

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Are you interested in being a man of solid, upstanding character? You should be.

These are the kind of men who deserve and attract the kind of women who will make their lives wonderful in the long term, rather than a living hell.

If you want to attract a wonderful woman in the long term, you want to be a man who has a solid foundation to his worldview.

You need to be a man whose word is his bond. You have to be a man who does what he claims he believes in, even when nobody else is looking.

You want it to be evident to everyone around you exactly what kind of man you are, instead of it being subject to interpretation depending on what crowd you are running with.

There is no doubt about it.

If you were interested in relying on shortcuts, tricks or underhanded techniques to take advantage of women, you would have quit reading this article.

That is all good, of course. After all, getting a hottie to like you and spread her legs for you is one thing. But finding a beautiful, sexy woman who has strong character in her own right and who you actually like as a fellow person is another.

A wise man who sticks to gorgeous, sexy women will not end up ruining his life.

I have a challenge for you today:

Is your character really as solid as you think it is? Are you where you would really like to be?

Some men are all about having upstanding character and they mean perfectly well. Those men can be cowards.

When you get down to it, the force of cowardice trumps any power their character can ever muster. This is because it is hard to have true integrity when fear holds the ability to bring the whole house of cards crashing down at any given time.

For some guys, it is as simple as shying away from seeing the doctor, even when they know something is wrong. Just like anything else, they need to man up and get it taken care of.

It might be they do not return calls from people who might bring tough or challenging news.

Other guys chicken out until another man disrespects their girlfriend or wife or their personal safety is at stake. Instead of defending his wife’s honor, he simply attempts to brush the whole incident off as if it were nothing. He tries to convince his significant other of the same.

Still, other men do not waver until a big, potentially expensive decision needs to be made. Only then do they run away and put their heads in the sand with the hope it will go away on its own.

What is the real problem here?

That is pretty simple to define.

Character is one of the big four traits that ignite high-quality femininity. But masculinity is another one.

When you lack courage, your masculinity comes into question.

That is damaging enough by itself. If you are a man who paints himself as having character, that directly means you must exhibit consistency.

When you turn tail and run during tough situations, you lack consistency.

A woman will not be able to tell where the boundaries of your courage are. Therefore, she does not know if she can trust you at precisely the time she feels the need to depend upon you the most.

At that point, your ability to make her feel safe and comfortable is neutralized.

You are not confident in the most challenging situations. Therefore, she follows your lead and loses confidence in you.

“Stop coming up with excuses

and do what needs to be done.”

See the domino effect at play there?

Before you know it, every aspect is compromised in your life because you allowed cowardice to loom large over your character.

Do you want to cure this problem? It is easier said than done because you are going to have to take a deep breath and man up a few times here and there.

I promise you it will feel good to be the man you already know you should be, following through on your own principles of character.

Before you know it, you will have formed a new habit that will earn you greater respect wherever you go. The only situation you will not experience this respect with is when you are dealing with men of low character.

I do have a reliable indicator for you of when cowardice just might be standing in the way of our character as men.

That is when we find ourselves making excuses. Those excuses are the weapons cowardice uses to infiltrate your foundation as a man.

Here are possible excuses:

  • “Well, I would do the right thing, except I couldn’t because…”
  • “On any other day I would have done what’s right, but today I had to do something else instead.”
  • “Oh, I would have approached her and asked her out, but she probably has a boyfriend anyway.”

Even the act of approaching women you know you would love to meet is a matter of staying true to your character.

Do you truly believe you should be meeting more women and thrilling them by being in their lives or not?

Stop coming up with excuses in tough situations and get down to the business of doing what you know deep down needs to be done.

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