Is It Time To Have Sex With Your New Lesbian Girlfriend

Lesbian Dating

Is It Time to Have Sex with Your New Lesbian Girlfriend?

Mary Gorham Malia

Written by: Mary Gorham Malia

Mary Gorham Malia

Mary G. Malia, founder of Gay Girl Dating Coach, is a certified singles coach, strategic intervention coach and author of the book "The Gay Girl’s Guide to Avoid the 14 Dating Traps." She’s known as the leading resource and expert for lesbians who want to move past the barriers to finding love and lasting relationships.

Edited by: Amber Brooks

Amber Brooks

Amber Brooks is a dating and relationship expert who has penned over 1,800 lifestyle articles in the last decade, and she still never tires of interviewing dating professionals and featuring actionable advice for singles. She has been quoted by the Washington Times, Cosmopolitan, The New York Post, and AskMen.

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Wow, that’s a big question isn’t it? It’s sort of loaded with nervous tension and excitement.

It really is exciting when you meet a lesbian you are attracted to and she feels the same about you. It just doesn’t happen often enough.

When that chemistry finally shows up, it’s hard not to just jump into bed.

As a dating expert and coach, I don’t tell my clients when they should have sex for the first time.

You are adults. You can buy alcohol and guns and drive cars at speeds in excess of 100 miles per hour.

Life is full of rules already, so do we need one about when to have sex.

The next thing I recommend is to ask a better question. Asking better questions gets you better answers and better results for your life.

10 better questions to ask:

  1. What would happen if we have sex and then don’t like each other?
  2. Would I be OK if we had sex and never saw each other again?
  3. If I have sex with this woman and it’s a lousy experience, what am I going to do then?
  4. If I have sex with her, am I afraid I’ll instantly fall in love with her?
  5. If I have sex with her, what are the chances I’ll lose my mind, rent a U-haul and move in?
  6. Am I concerned because I want to please everyone else or myself and this woman?
  7. What will I do if she decides she’s more into me than I am into her?
  8. Are we ready to get that intimate and personal?
  9. Is this taking our relationship to another level I’m ready for?
  10. What if it’s the best thing that ever happens to me, and why would I want to wait for that?

“When having sex, it creates a real

energetic connection between both of you.”

As you can see, with different kinds of questions, the answers start to have more meaning and can go in a lot of directions.

An important fact lesbians have to deal with when having sex is it creates a real energetic connection between both of you.

Your bodies release the hormone oxytocin when you have an orgasm and that creates a chemical connection.

That’s what creates those crazy U-haul stories — that oxytocin connection.

So when is it OK?

Whenever you’re ready to deal with the consequences, go forth, set up a sexy personal ad, chat up a woman, and have sex.

Hopefully it’s all fabulous. If not, you’ve already decided how to deal with it, right?

Don’t let society, friends, or even your own self-doubt get in your head about this. Have sex if you really want to, and don’t if you don’t.

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