How Do I Get Over My Shyness?

Kara Pound

Written by: Kara Pound

Kara Pound

Kara Pound is an award-winning journalist based in St. Augustine, Florida. She holds a bachelor's degree in journalism from Flagler College. Her work has been published in INKED, Natural Awakenings, Design Aglow, Memphis Flyer, Jacksonville Magazine, E/Environmental Magazine, and dozens more. Check out some of Kara's work at

Edited by: Lillian Castro

Lillian Castro

Lillian Guevara-Castro brings more than 30 years of journalism experience to ensure DatingAdvice articles have been edited for overall clarity, accuracy, and reader engagement. She has worked at The Atlanta Journal and Constitution, The Gwinnett Daily News, and The Gainesville Sun covering lifestyle topics.

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Nobody is born with confidence. Like riding a bike, writing in cursive or baking a chocolate-raspberry torte – it is a learned skill. For men, being shy can spell disaster on the dating scene. Most women prefer men who exude confidence and voice their opinion. So guys, how do you get over shyness – especially shyness that’s affecting your ability to meet the girl of your dreams?

Overcome shyness with confidence. Find something – a few things – you love to do and become good at them. Whether it’s rock climbing, playing the guitar, making short films or archery, having hobbies will instantly give you things to talk about when striking up a conversation with a girl. Who knows, maybe you’ll even end up having one or two of the same hobbies and an instant connection will be made.

Another way to overcome shyness is to feel good about yourself – physically and mentally. Not that you need to obsess over the placement of every little hair, but it helps to feel confident about the way you look. Hit the gym, buy a new outfit and get that unibrow waxed. It will do wonders for overcoming shyness.

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