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I met this guy a couple weeks ago and we immediately hit it off. He’s 20 and I am 18.
We agreed we would stay as friends with benefits because I will be leaving in two months for a while. For some reason, he keeps revisiting the idea of just being friends, saying he likes me but it makes him put a wall up.
I told him it would be fine if we just stopped talking so he wouldn’t get any further feelings because he doesn’t want to date, but he keeps saying he doesn’t want to stop talking.
Why does he send me mixed signals? How can I figure out what he really wants?
When you describe your relationship as friends with benefits, I assume you mean sexual benefits. And because you are the one leaving town, I get a sense you are the one who structured the relationship this way.
He, on the other hand, didn’t have much of a choice. You’ll be leaving, even if he wanted more. In fact, I suspect your ticket out of the relationship was the very thing that attracted both of you.
It’s a way to test a relationship knowing that either one of you can have an exit door at the two-month mark.
With modern relationships being so fragile yet so pressured to have sex, people often look to dip their toe in as a way to avoid a painful breakup.
But the bottom line is sex creates feelings. He is sending you mixed signals because he likes you! He is in fact telling you the “friends with benefits” charade is the wall he’s putting up.
My advice: Don’t mess with this guy’s heart if you don’t want a real relationship. If you do, bring it up and be very clear about your needs.
The elephant in the living room seems too big for either of you to ignore.
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