How To Get A Guys Attention

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How to Get a Guy’s Attention

Nick Slade

Written by: Nick Slade

Nick Slade

Nick spent 20 years in the dating scene before marriage. He has always been the guy friends would come to for advice on relationships, and he developed a knack for giving helpful insights. After college, Nick was a disc jockey for a few years, when the love generation was still alive, so Nick has a lot of relevant experience to draw from when it comes to every aspect of dating, falling in love and screwing things up. He holds Bachelor's degree in humanities and a slew of master’s credits in journalism. Nick is a news junkie and tries to keep up on the latest non-fiction when he has time. He has published two books on how to win at dating and relationships.

Edited by: Lillian Castro

Lillian Castro

Lillian Guevara-Castro brings more than 30 years of journalism experience to ensure DatingAdvice articles have been edited for overall clarity, accuracy, and reader engagement. She has worked at The Atlanta Journal and Constitution, The Gwinnett Daily News, and The Gainesville Sun covering lifestyle topics.

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It takes bait to attract a fish — the hook itself isn’t that appealing. It takes bait to attract a guy’s attention too, and the best bait of all is, well, everything about you. You definitely have what it takes, but before you can get him hooked on your love and compassion, you have to use what you’ve got to get him to notice you.

1. It all begins with the face.

You have a beautiful face, but a smile and some gentle eye contact makes you a hundred times prettier and a force that will arouse a man’s manly instincts. Remember, we’re talking about attraction, not love. Nature arranged it so we are attracted to each other physically first.

That said, you will stand out to a particular man because of the story your eyes tell. Don’t look away when he looks at you, if you want to get his attention. Flick your hair a little and let a small, gentle and comfortable smile grow on your face. Then you can blink and turn your head away while your eyelids are down.

Your eyes and your smile are what humanize you, feminize you and hypnotize him. You have now initiated and established a link with a man.

2. Body language.

Experts tell us that 90 percent of what we tell others is accomplished through nonverbal communication. If you want to get a man’s attention, you have to send sensual and sexual signals. No, nothing too overt.

You’re a girl, so you are sexy by nature. You can’t just rub your crotch on his leg (although that would probably work), so you have to find more subtle ways to send the message.

Toss your hair when you look at him. If you have your elbow on the table, make sure it is the elbow farther away from him so it seems you are letting him in. Cross your legs toward him instead of away, even if you are not at the same table — yet.

Open body language is important in putting him at ease and making you seem available and receptive. Men are attracted to women who are interested in them.

The way you walk, a tilt of the head, the way you touch your face — every move you make is a potential source of interest and attraction for him. To a man, you are the embodiment of love, sex and everything that is good in the world.


“There is nothing more attractive to a man than

an approachable, sexy, charming, happy woman.”

3. Clothing.

Your most alluring fashion accessory is your skin. Wear fashionable clothing that showcases it in all of its velvety smooth splendor. Arms, legs and cleavage are among men’s favorite parts.

Wear something that highlights your narrow waist and wider hips, if you really want to get his juices flowing. Your shape and silhouette is a natural trigger for a man’s attention.

Heels accentuate the look and allure of any leg, and they make a woman seem confident and powerful when she moves. Add a little lip gloss and men will want to top you with strawberries and eat you with a spoon.

4. Speak!

It’s not so hard to do. You do it every day. Most women do it a lot. Just say hello and introduce yourself.

If you already know each other as co-workers or fellow students, it should be even easier. You’ve been flirting for a while now, so just tell him you really think he is looking extra sharp tonight, or that you didn’t know he cleaned up this well.

Whatever it is, it will force him to notice you. Call him by his name, if you know it, and say his name a few times during your conversation. This will breed comfort and familiarity.

The longer and more often you can open that link between your eyes and his, the stronger the connection will become and the more familiar, real, accessible and desirable you will become.

And when you are speaking to him, be sure to use the power of your touch on his arm or cheek, and move close into the intimate zone so he can feel you occupy and share his space.

5. Confidence and happiness.

Don’t put one arm behind your back, grab your other arm near the elbow and sway back and forth. It may have been adorable when you were six, but it’s not so good now. Smile, have fun, and look like a woman who enjoys her life and really likes herself.

A man doesn’t want to be a babysitter or spend time with a whiny, clingy little girl. He wants a real woman who can challenge him and be his equal in every way. He is drawn to the joy and happiness she exudes.

Let your big personality out — you know, the personality you use when you have three girlfriends over and you’re the queen of the house. Be important and be happy if you want his attention.

Women are born actresses. You don’t have to be confident to act confident. And the more you let yourself go into the role, the more comfortable and confident you become.

It’s also a fact that a smile will release endorphins and actually make you a happier person…so smile a lot! Confidence and happiness begin with how you portray yourself, and then they become alive in you through practice.

As I said at the beginning, men are attracted by everything about you. Be aware of your feminine superpowers. Love who you are. Be the woman who is worthy of any man.

Let him prove that he is worthy of you. There is nothing more attractive to a man than an approachable, sexy, charming, happy woman.

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