Bespoke Matchmaking Caters Exclusively To Gay And Lesbian Clients

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Bespoke Matchmaking™ Caters Exclusively to Gay & Lesbian Clients For More Focused Connections

Hayley Matthews

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Hayley Matthews

Hayley has over 10 years of experience overseeing content strategy, social media engagement, and article opportunities. She has also written hundreds of informational and entertaining blog posts. Her work has appeared in numerous publications, including Bustle, Cosmo, the Huffington Post, AskMen, and Entrepreneur. When she's not writing about dating news, relationship advice, or her fantasy love affair with Leonardo DiCaprio, she enjoys listening to The Beatles, watching Harry Potter reruns, and drinking IPAs.

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The Short Version: Dating can be a time-consuming process when searching for a lasting relationship, especially online. Many times, looking through dating profiles on website after website can feel like a job in itself. This is true whether we’re gay or straight, but dating in the LGBT community comes with its own unique set of challenges. Bespoke Matchmaking focuses exclusively on gay and lesbian daters — often busy professionals — who want a more personal, effective way to find lasting relationships. Through one-on-one consultations, personality assessments, and feedback sessions, Bespoke builds tailored solutions for its clients in an effort to produce true connections with compatible partners.

We live in a world where many of us are controlled by our mobile apps, jobs, rush hour traffic, and tight deadlines. For those of us who are single, the sheer busyness of it all can really put a damper on our social lives. Having a demanding career can limit the time available to pore over profiles on dating websites, go out on dates, and, ultimately, find a quality partner. It’s a time-consuming and impersonal process for any single individual, regardless of sexual orientation.

Navigating dating websites, social networks, and public meeting spots can be especially tiresome for career-minded gay and lesbian daters. Of course, there are bars and dating websites that cater to LGBT communities, but meeting someone who’s interested in making a serious connection can still be challenging.

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Bespoke Matchmaking eliminates the pitfalls of online dating by meeting and getting to know clients personally. The firm exclusively focuses on the gay and lesbian community, helping busy professionals who are serious about getting into committed, loving relationships connect with one another. Bespoke attracts a client base that understands the importance of investing in their own well-being, which includes their love life, and who want a deeper connection to their relationship journey than a web browser.

Bespoke’s clients are commonly financially secure, emotionally available, and looking for exceptional partners. The company’s approach to dating is highly customized, with one-on-one interaction at every step. Bespoke provides a far different experience than online dating by employing a skilled team of matchmaking professionals who work with clients on a very personal level to get to know their needs. Their goal is to help create stories that end with a true, long-term connection.

Private Consultations & Personality Tests Reveal True Matches

Bespoke’s thorough process begins with a complimentary in-depth interview conducted by a matchmaker who gets to know the client’s specific dating criteria. These interviews can be anywhere from one to two hours or more depending on the client’s needs.

The interviews are strictly confidential and designed to narrow down what clients are looking for in a partner. Clients are then assigned to their own professional matchmaker who guides them through the process of meeting their first match.

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The Bespoke Matchmaking process is thorough and includes feedback after going on a date.

Other steps include a personality assessment test, relationship counseling, and private consultations. Once a client has begun to meet with dates, they’re asked to provide feedback in order to help consultants improve future matches — another critical step.

The entire process is geared toward greatly increasing the chances of a match with the right person by keeping the client’s needs in clear focus.

Helping Gay & Lesbian Daters Overcome Their Specific Challenges

Dating in the gay and lesbian community has historically involved dating websites or chance meetings at bars or nightclubs. Those outlets tend to be unreliable and lend themselves to one-night stands and casual flings, both of which can get old very quickly. Bespoke helps gay and lesbian daters meet in a new kind of environment — one where clients initiate positive change and do not define themselves by their sexuality.

Bespoke overlooks the typical stereotypes associated with gay and lesbian daters and instead focuses on the needs of each individual client. This is done in a very nurturing way in an effort to help clients find the lasting, committed relationships they’ve been looking for.

The firm attracts single and selective clients who are cultured and intelligent and who are mostly busy professionals. What’s common among all clients is they are serious about meeting the right person. Their focus is on finding relationships for their clients that work, and stheir success stories speak for themselves.

Executive Matchmaker Carol Sugar-Burke Dispenses Advice Through “Ask the Expert”

After working for major corporations and dealing with high-level executives, Bespoke’s Executive Matchmaker, Carol Sugar-Burke, discovered her real passion was working with people. So she decided to pursue a career as a matchmaker. Now, in addition to being the Executive Matchmaker at the firm, she delivers advice to users and clients in Bespoke’s Ask the Expert section. Here, she addresses everything from coming out to overcoming shyness.

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Bespoke’s Executive Matchmaker, Carol Sugar-Burke, left the corporate world to work with daters.

Ask the Expert features personal queries from daters in the LGBT community, answered in a Q&A format. Users have access to archives of Ask the Expert advice so they can understand what challenges other LGBT daters are facing and learn what Carol has to say about these challenges.

It’s a great way to connect with her and for users to get to know more about their peers in the dating community.

Bespoke Matchmaking: Fostering Personal Bonds Rather Than Online Exchanges

Dating in the gay and lesbian community has always come with its set of challenges, but with Bespoke, these challenges don’t have to be accepted as the status quo. When clients have busy professional lives, on top of everything else, it’s great to have the support of a professional team who really cares about their very specific dating needs.

Bespoke’s highly personalized process to dating gives serious gay and lesbian daters a place to meet with matchmakers who truly care about their needs. This is in sharp contrast to what happens online or while bar-hopping — two worlds where dating frequently ends with a casual fling at best.

Thanks to the executive team of matchmakers at Bespoke, so many creative, charismatic, successful singles in the LGBT community have the support that they need to help find “The One.”

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