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After two long-term relationships and five years of dating, Pamela Gort, The Lesbian Love Coach, spent years synthesizing the most effective and relevant dating and relationship practices into five easy steps called “Find Her and Keep Her" specifically tailored for lesbians. Using her warm, funny, direct coaching style, Pamela guides single lesbians to fall in love with themselves so they can attract and keep conscious, lasting, and loving relationships.
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21 posts • Last Updated 6/8/23
When two women come together in a romantic relationship, it's a beautiful thing. The journey to official status can be exciting, nerve-wracking, and filled... Read More »
Lesbians in a committed relationship may experience a wide range of stressors, including some unique to lesbians, that can impact their relationship.... Read More »
Myths and stereotypes abound around every major group of people, including lesbian and queer women. Lesbian relationship stereotypes often come up in pop... Read More »
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Lesbians make up roughly 7% of the population. Although I have often heard the number is 10% -- and I like this more. Just know that there are over 20... Read More »
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Meeting lesbians online can be scary and intimidating. It can also be fun and exciting. Having confidence and taking the right approach will get you... Read More »
If you are looking for fun, exciting, and interesting outdoor dating ideas for lesbians, then this is the article for you. We have compiled a list of 20 of... Read More »
Most successful people -- CEOs and top athletes, for example – work with a coach to help them achieve more in their daily lives. Coaches help their... Read More »
Valentine’s Day is a special day that represents a celebration of love for everyone, including us lesbians. We want to celebrate our love whether we’re... Read More »
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There are so many ways to break the ice with a woman who captures your attention. First let me ask – how committed are you to finding love or at least... Read More »
Conversation starters are crucial for any good date. They help you break the ice and get to know your date better. It can be hard to know what to... Read More »
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Your dating profile can be viewed as a calling card for potential love interests. Both have real estate to be used to “market” you. Do not waste any of it.... Read More »
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Whether you’re hoping to meet someone while socializing in your hometown or pursuing matches online, dating can be especially challenging for us... Read More »
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The dating world can be a scary place for introverts. Introverts are usually not looking for a quick hookup or to meet someone at the bar. It can be... Read More »
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I know dating is hard. You can't read a stranger's mind, and you don't know if she is attracted to you or not. When it comes to dating someone new, there... Read More »
It’s not uncommon for people to have some difficulties when it comes to their in-laws. Having differences of opinion with a partner’s parents may seem like... Read More »
It’s time to jump into dating and spring forth because love is in bloom! You can still date virtually, of course, if you want to stay super safe. But if... Read More »
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My girlfriend of eight months dropped the breakup bomb on me on the phone a week before Christmas. I was devastated, numb, and disappointed. So many... Read More »
Before I was willing to admit to myself that I was a lesbian, I recall having many crushes on straight girls because I didn’t know any lesbians. I lived a... Read More »
Most of us have been there: You're in a struggling relationship, and you start weighing the options to leave or stay and keep working on it. The reality... Read More »
We all know that feeling before a first date. You’re both excited and nervous, and every decision — from what we choose to wear to the location we select... Read More »