Steps To Create A Lesbian Dating Profile

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5 Steps to Create a Magnetic Lesbian Dating Profile (Feb. 2024)

Pamela Gort

Written by: Pamela Gort

Pamela Gort

After two long-term relationships and five years of dating, Pamela Gort, The Lesbian Love Coach, spent years synthesizing the most effective and relevant dating and relationship practices into five easy steps called “Find Her and Keep Her" specifically tailored for lesbians. Using her warm, funny, direct coaching style, Pamela guides single lesbians to fall in love with themselves so they can attract and keep conscious, lasting, and loving relationships.

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Your dating profile can be viewed as a calling card for potential love interests. Both have real estate to be used to “market” you. Do not waste any of it.

If you are serious about meeting a woman online, make sure you utilize all the elements of the dating app to attract the attention of potential matches. Be intentional about your profile’s content and photos. And choose your dating app wisely. 

Plenty of online dating sites and apps offer the perfect opportunity to find your next match. You can use general apps like Zoosk, Elite Singles, or eharmony — or you can go with lesbian-only apps like Her and Pink Sofa.

Dating apps employ matching algorithms that draw compatibility conclusions based on your profile, so be sure to fill in the sections honestly and completely to increase your chances of finding a great match. I suggest you consider some of the following lesbian dating profile tips to create something that could pop you up higher in the rankings.

1. Stand Out & Get Noticed

Step one is to get your dating profile noticed by the lesbians you desire. Luckily, attracting the right person has never been easier than it is today.

If you want to get noticed online, make sure that your profile is attractive and engaging. This means that you should include a good picture, a specific profile description and a unique headline. You should also be active — always respond to messages and reply promptly. The algorithm will favor your profile if you are an active and responsive user.

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Remember that digital dating is all about visuals and fast swiping.

Use your profile to show off your personality and what makes you special. It should be original and memorable. It should also tell other single women what you are looking for — do you want a serious relationship, a new friend, a one-night stand? Be honest about your intentions to find women who want the same things.

What you write in your profile should create an image of who you are and what you love to do and how you live your life. Avoid all the clichés “walks on the beach,” “glass of wine,” “watching movies” and get specific with descriptions like “early morning runs on secluded beaches,” “sipping Pinot Noir while sprawled on a blanket watching shooting stars” so you stand out (you get the idea). Put her in the picture with you and make her feel something.

Avoid any hints of negativity or stories of past drama. Keep your profile upbeat and positive. You don’t need to go into detail about your past relationships early in a new relationship.

2. Choose a Good Photo Lineup for Your Dating Profile

You must have a photo on your dating profile. Even if it’s optional, is it NOT optional. Start by deciding the image you want to convey. Are you a serious professional, an active athlete, a traveling adventurer, an avid reader, a home chef or a pet parent? Once you define your vibe, make sure that comes across in your photo choices.

These days, lesbian women need a great photo to succeed in the online dating world. With all of the different online dating websites and apps available, it’s important to put your best foot forward with your photo. Think witty, insightful, and charming. 

There are many factors to a good profile photo. Where is it taken? What time of day is it? What kind of camera was used? I recommend choosing a dating profile photo which shows you in a flattering but authentic light. The best way to find the perfect photo is to experiment with different poses and styles until you find one that suits you best. Don’t forget to test your lighting. You can hire a professional photographer, or you can ask a friend to help take some snapshots while hanging out.

The best way to pick a dating profile photo is by following these four steps:

  1. Make sure the photo is recent and matches how you currently look
  2. Consider what kind of person you are looking for in a partner — would they be attracted to these photos?
  3. Choose a photo that will show off your personality traits while still being appropriate for a dating site
  4. Make sure you’re smiling and look friendly!

Ideally, post a minimum of four photos: straight-on headshot, full body, and two showing you taking part in an activity or with pets. Caption your photos with witty, interesting comments or questions to spur engagement. If there are other girls in your photo, make sure you are quickly and easily recognizable. Avoid pictures of you wearing sunglasses or covering your face. 

Some other good tips for your profile pics: No mirror selfies, boob shots, bad lighting, blurry images, pet-only pictures, or photos with an ex cropped out.

The profile picture is how you can get a swiping woman’s attention. Make sure your chosen photo(s) can stand out in an album and make a woman want to know more about you.

3. Have a CTA (Call to Action) in Your Profile or Photos

A call to action is a way to get the right lesbians to take the next step. It’s a way of showing them what you want and expect of them. It can be as simple as asking them for their number or telling them that you were thinking about grabbing a drink after work on Friday night.

The most successful dating profiles will have a CTA somewhere. For example, you could have a photo of yourself holding what looks like concert tickets with the caption “I’m not looking for someone who sits at home. I want someone who is up for some in-person music.” If you love snuggling at home with your puppy, let any potential lady friend know you’ve reserved a spot on the couch for her too. You can make it as specific and provocative as you wish — yes, that means arousing interest or desire.

Bottom line: When people see your photos or read your profile, they should know what to do next if they are interested.

4. Keep Your Profile Updated

Updating your online dating profile is important because it is the first impression all those wonderful, eligible lesbians will have of you. It should (hopefully) encourage them to message you and make a new connection.

Online dating profiles are like digital self-portraits. They should represent who you are and what you want in a partner. Your carefully worded profile can show your best side to new people. Having an outdated profile may lead to an awkward interaction or even rejection. If it looks like you created your profile long ago and left it to sit, some lesbians may wonder why you haven’t found someone, or they may question your intentions.

Your dating profile should reflect where you are now — and that means you’ll have to keep it updated as you swipe for matches and show the online dating world the real (and current) you!

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Having an updated profile signals that you are a person who puts effort and thought into your image.

Updating your profile regularly will also prompt the match algorithm to work better for you. Top dating sites like and Elite Singles use algorithms to pair members based on their profile compatibility. That means sites connect profiles that share similar interests.

Consider approaching your dating strategy as you would approach a job hunt. You would never use an old, outdated résumé, would you? Just like your professional résumé, your dating profile is a constant work in progress. Keep it fresh, and replace photos as new events happen in your life. This can boost your profile’s ranking a little higher and get you seen by more online dating users.

Updating your profile will not only make it more attractive to potential matches, but it will also show that you are committed to finding love.

5. Put Your Strategy into Action

Plan out a strategy for your online dating experience. Do you plan on swiping and messaging every day or every week until you get a match? Are you going to take on multiple matches at a time, or will you focus on one person and see how that relationship progresses?

It’s not enough to make a dating profile and wait for women to come to you. You have to be persistent and take initiative. Let’s talk about how this can be done in an effective way.

I recommend setting aside time every day to message 10 lesbian or bisexual women who seem like a good match for you. Read their profile, and then leave a compliment or ask a question about something particular to that person. Whatever you do, do not just text “hi” or “hey” unless you want to be ignored. Are you testing the waters? That strategy does not work because competition is stiff online.

Open up the conversation with light humor that prompts a response. For example, “Your fun-loving nature really shines through in your profile” or “I am definitely taking you to Chuck E Cheese on our first date!” Have fun with it.

Sending frequent messages will help you become more visible in the search results too. It will increase your chances of getting replies and make your dating profile more competitive. After exchanging a few messages, ask for a phone or video chat. If she refuses, move on. If things go well, ask for an in-person date.

The More You Put Into Your Profile, the More You’ll Get Out of It!

Keep your dating profile positive. Don’t warn off men or couples looking for a hookup because that may only attract them or cause them to be more persistent. Remember, you can always block the weirdos, creeps, or scammers. Report the behavior if it’s particularly egregious — as in, using hate speech, asking for money, or making threats — or just ignore the person whenever they reach out.

Online dating has its fair share of bad apples, so lesbians should rely on their intuition and avoid engaging with someone who sets off red flags. If anything seems off, it most likely is. Don’t fall for photos that seem too good to be true without getting confirmation it’s not a catfisher! Arrange a video date or phone call to confirm your lesbian date is being genuine.

If she’s asking you for money because she hasn’t been paid yet and she wants to come see you, run the other way. This too is a scam, and it has worked over and over. This is often the story told by supposedly deployed military chicks. Ask your friends to help you vette these claims. Yes, there are occasional unpleasant sides to online dating, but it can help us find relationships and love.

If you already have a lesbian dating profile, you can incorporate these tips to revise and perfect it. If you’re new to online dating, follow these guidelines to increase your chance of success. These best practices and tricks can help get your dating profile noticed by the right lesbians. A profile that gets noticed seems like a tall order, but it’s not impossible.  You can create the perfect dating profile to find the one who will sweep you off your feet.

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