10 Ways To Keep A Relationship Interesting

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10 Ways to Keep a Relationship Interesting

Rachel Dack

Written by: Rachel Dack

Rachel Dack

Rachel Dack is a licensed clinical professional counselor (LCPC) and relationship coach specializing in individual and couples psychotherapy. Rachel's areas of expertise include relationships, dating, mindfulness, anxiety, depression and self-esteem. To connect with Rachel or to learn more about her psychotherapy and relationship coaching services, please follow her on Twitter, Facebook, and Instagram. Buy her book "Sexy Secrets to a Juicy Love Life" on Amazon.

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The beginning of a great relationship is often characterized as fun, interesting and exciting.

The initial spark and romance brings excitement about long-term potential as you enjoy in new experiences together and learn about each other.

As some of the newness wears off and you get into a groove as partners, it is only natural that your relationship will change and grow. All relationships go through stages, phases and transitions.

The hope is you and your partner increase feelings of closeness and security as your relationship develops, leading to close emotional connection and love for one another.

All relationships experience conflict.

Intense work hours, busy schedules, kids, exhaustion and medical or mental health issues can all get in the way and create distance.

The key is to minimize the long-term effects of outside sources interfering with time and closeness and view the distance as temporary.

In turn, finding ways to spend enjoyable time together, keep the spark alive and grow together versus apart are key to lasting love and commitment.

Even with limited funds and busy schedules, keeping your spark alive is absolutely possible if you keep it a priority.

Without spending a lot of money or planning extravagant dates and vacations, there are many ways to maintain closeness, love and excitement.

So how can you keep your relationship interesting while standing the test of time?

1. Spend quality time together and talk daily.

If you are worried about becoming too busy or feel forgetful, it may be useful to schedule it on your calendar.

Making time for date nights is also valuable in keeping a fulfilling relationship.

2. Participate in meaningful dialogue and communicate.

Keep it interesting by going deeper than mundane “How was your day?” conversations and create give and take in your communication.

Communicate effectively daily (if possible, even for 10 minutes) and remember to listen to your partner and understand him more fully. Compassion and understanding go hand in hand with love.

3. Surprise each other.

Be creative in how you show admiration and affection. Sending thoughtful text messages or emails, planning a surprise, cooking a romantic dinner or leaving a nice note on your way out the door are all great ways to say how you feel and show him you care.

4. Have sex regularly.

Research shows having sex is helpful in decreasing stress and is also linked to other important health benefits.

Sex is an important part of intimacy and bonding in relationships and is also known to make you feel more sexy and attractive.

“Keep love on your

side by creating balance.”

5. Flirt and show your partner you are attracted to him.

Take on a playful tone, snuggle and show affection and interest.

6. Have your own life.

Keeping your identity will allow you to grow as a person, be less dependent on your partner to meet your needs and take healthy space in your relationship.

Relationships are more rewarding when both individuals have their own hobbies, friends and outside relationships (as well as friends together). Also keep your own support network, as it is crucial to your own health.

7. Resist the need to plan everything.

Throw in some spontaneity and adventure to keep your romance alive. You can still plan specific date nights, but hold off on planning every detail.

For example, if you tend to eat at the same Italian restaurant in town on date night, branch out and try something new.

8. Keep up with hygiene and grooming.

These practices are important in making sex more appealing and maintaining the attraction you felt toward each other at the beginning. It also keeps you feeling confident.

9. There is always more to learn about each other.

Make an effort to support your partner in achieving his own goals, visions and passions. Be grateful for all your partner does for you and be reciprocal in supporting each other.

Make a point to experience new things together to succeed as a couple.

10. Have a sense of humor.

The ability to laugh together makes the tough stuff easier and brings further closeness. Humor is helpful in balancing out the stresses in life and naturally brings happiness into your relationship.

While accepting that life brings ups and downs and relationships go through new stages, make it a mindset and practice to keep things interesting and to enjoy the ride.

Keep love on your side by growing together, communicating well, gaining new experiences and creating a healthy balance of separateness and togetherness.

Not only will your relationship thrive, but you and your partner will experience the rewarding benefits of intimacy and lasting love.

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