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Mason Glenn

Mason has had a long career in the matchmaking industry and has spent his time helping high-caliber clientele in Los Angeles select eligible matches. He specializes in working with gay men. Mason has the ability to read people based on their personality traits, relationship history, and biological thinking process. His training, personal experience in the field, and intuition play a key role in his making of lasting love connections. Currently, Mason is an acclaimed published author and is in the process of strengthening his career in content and brand strategy. His latest book, "Getting Ahead of the Gayme: Man First, Gay Second," can be purchased through Amazon, iBooks, or Google Play, and is available at select major book retailers.

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These days, it’s easier than ever to meet gay guys online. With the evolution of technology, social media, and online dating, we now have tons of options for finding potential suitors and the perfect match. And the most popular dating sites and apps have become go-to flirting zones.

We highly recommend using a dating platform to meet people and make a date with someone who’s compatible with you.

Whether you’re looking for a casual hookup, a hot date, or a long-term relationship, here are our top 4 choices for meeting guys online:

1. Online Dating Sites & Apps

Online dating has become the norm

for meeting people. Over half of American singles have tried online dating at some point, and there’s a good reason for that. Not only does online dating put you in front of millions of singles, but it’s also easy, affordable, and fun. Plus, gay singles can personalize it to their dating wants and needs.

Below are our top picks for the best dating sites and apps for meeting gay men. We’ve also broken them up by those that are good for relationships and those that are good for hookups, so you can easily find exactly what you’re looking for.

Best Dating Sites & Apps for Relationships

If you’re looking for a relationship, you’ll have a lot of success with these dating websites. Our online dating experts have tested and reviewed each one, and they all have vast and diverse user bases, free trials or accounts, helpful features, accurate matchmaking systems, and intuitive apps for easy on-the-go searching. is welcoming to all singles and has more users (1.7 million paid members alone) than any other dating site, meaning it has a high percentage of gay and bisexual men as well.


Relationships: Friends, Dates, and Relationships

Match System: Browse by zip, age, appearance, more

Our Experts Say: “Match has a massive and extremely active gay user base, as over 1 million gay, bisexual, and curious men use the site to find dates and partners...” Full Review »

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Founded in 1995, Match has been around longer than any other dating site or app, and it is responsible for the most dates, relationships, and marriages than any other online dating service. When it comes to putting your love life in someone else’s hands, Match is #1 in our book.

OurTime is a fantastic choice for gay seniors who want a simple way to find love and companionship. It’s free to join OurTime, and gay singles can identify as a man seeking men to narrow their options in the dating pool.


Relationships: Dates and Relationships

Match System: Search by profiles by zip and more

Our Experts Say: “OurTime is a fantastic option for gay, bisexual, and curious single men age 50 and up, as the site's user base is very active...” Full Review »

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The OurTime site sees more than 1.4 million visits a month, is easy to use, only takes a few minutes to join, and lets you search for potential matches using filters for age, gender, location, and appearance. All of these components make it a leading senior dating site for gay singles.


For tech-savvy gay singles who know their way around a computer, laptop, iPad, iPhone, or Android device, is the way to go. This top dating site and app has over 40 million members of all ages and orientations, and they’re always willing to meet someone new.


Relationships: Fun Dates, Serious Relationships

Match System: Search and get match recommendations

Our Experts Say: “Gay, bisexual, and curious single men love Zoosk because it's quick, easy, and really successful...” Full Review »

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Zoosk’s integration with social media sites like Facebook make online dating at home, during your commute to work, at the gym, or anywhere else feel effortless, and their one-of-a-kind Behavioral MatchmakingTM algorithm pairs you with like-minded people.

BlackPeopleMeet is a go-to dating site for black and interracial daters of all sexual orientations. With a free trial offer and more than 1.4 million visits a month, you can create a profile and start browsing gay singles on BlackPeopleMeet right away.


Relationships: Deep Relationships or Just Casual Dates

Match System: Search by location, age, more

Our Experts Say: “BlackPeopleMeet is a go-to dating site for gay, bisexual, and curios black and biracial men, and it has a free membership option...” Full Review »

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From “Today’s Matches” to icebreakers to live chat, BlackPeopleMeet has numerous features to make finding the perfect match fun and quick.

Best Dating Sites & Apps for Hookups

If long-term relationships aren’t really your style (no shame in that!), then you should seek out the best dating sites and apps for hookups. We’ve picked out a couple good online dating sites and sex apps for gay men.



spearheaded the dating app craze in 2009. It’s available in 192 countries, has become one the largest gay dating apps in the world, and gained popularity because it’s addictive and has that instant gratification we humans love.

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Grindr has become the most popular gay hookup app in the world.

Grindr is a great platform for exploring your sexuality, figuring out what you’re attracted to, and hooking up to your heart’s desire — provided you are safe and have honest conversations with your matches about what you want.

It’s rare that those hookups become something more over time, but you never know when one of your matches could be someone worth dating in the long run (or maybe just your next workout buddy).

BeNaughty is the most well-known hookup-only dating site. Not only is BeNaughty an active site (13.3 million visits a month), but you can search for other hookup-minded singles by gender, age, location, online status, and more, allowing you to narrow down what you want.


Relationships: Hookups, Chats

Match System: Search by encounter, location, and more

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BeNaughty is an affordable and fun dating site (with its naughty virtual gifts and erotic photo contests, to name a few things) that makes it OK to express your desires, so feel free to be yourself.


is a great way to get offline and try an activity that you may not do on your own. Most of the time you can even connect with the administrator of the group or another attendee via instant messages to start the conversation.

Even if the activity is fairly platonic, it’s important that you practice putting yourself out there. is amazing at creating more extroverts from introverts. And, remember, it’s always best to talk to someone with a common interest rather than create a random topic hoping to win the instant connection lottery.


is a worldwide platform for LGBT events and recommendations on the best local restaurants, bars, and more and is a fusion of Yelp!, Eventbrite, and Facebook. With this platform, you can create a profile, scan profiles of other members attending the events, and even message them directly. It’s almost like a “see you there” kind of thing, and this is something you can do from the comfort of your own home until you find the outlet that feels most comfortable to you.

Screenshot of has lists of LGBT events, and you can create a profile and message the other attendees.

The event catalog ranges from drag queen bingo night or non-profit volunteering, to seminars on HIV or an invitation to one of the most well-known gay circuit parties. You get what you make of these events, and there’s a plethora of options that will tickle your fancy in some way.

4. Social Media

I recently had a conversation with a business contact of mine who said someone randomly Facebook messaged him, and years later that message turned into a budding romance and now a commitment in matrimony. Sometimes taking a chance can do you some justice.

If you come across a profile you like while casually browsing on Facebook or Instagram, you don’t have to do much sorting, do you? Birds of a feather do typically flock together, so you are bound to find someone with similar interests via most social media sites out there. You may want to check out Facebook Dating to make a match on your favorite social site.

There are also many high-quality dating apps like Hinge that connect you with friends of friends from the Facebook interface and give you a ton of dating options.

You Can Always Meet Gay Guys Online & Offline

In today’s digital-obsessed world, the easiest way to meet gay singles is to get online, and while social media sites like and Facebook are great options, online dating is the avenue that will put you in front of millions of quality guys.

We’ve given you our top recommendations for meeting gay guys online, so take advantage of the free trials or accounts and find the dating site that suits your style and needs the most. The main thing to remember is to always be open to any and all possibilities. Good luck!

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