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As one of the OG dating apps, eharmony has turned millions of online matches into long-term relationships since 2000. But joining a platform with such an established presence in the digital dating world may feel intimidating, especially as it pertains to putting together a personal profile.
The prompts you select, the questions you answer, and the pictures you choose to share on your profile can make or break your matchmaking experience. That’s why it is best to take on the task feeling as informed and confident as possible. These expert tips can help you do just that.
Let’s start with some questions and prompts that come up in the eharmony questionnaire, and we’ll provide some example answers to get you inspired.
I love this question because it gets straight down to business. It’s always best to feel out dating intentions and values from the get-go on a dating app.
If you’re looking for a hookup buddy, your answer could look something like:
“A chill, laid-back personality. Ultimately, I’m not looking for anything serious and would like to find someone who’s down to be casual.”
Or, perhaps, you’re looking for a date for your upcoming office Christmas party. In that case, a prompt such as this would be a perfect place to make that intention very clear:
“The ability to small talk and have fun with a group of strangers.”
However, if you’re searching for the real deal, (like a majority of eharmony users) you could use this opportunity to talk about the dating values that mean the most to you. Personally, I would stick to three then add a little flare of personality at the end:
“Compassion, trust, and sense of humor. (You don’t have to like the movie Superbad as much as me, but it’s definitely a huge plus).”
At the end of the day, getting what we want out of a relationship is why we download a dating app in the first place, so why beat around the bush?
It’s one thing to bond over working in the same industry or having similar career goals, and another thing entirely to enjoy doing the same types of activities once you’re off the clock. This prompt is an opportunity to showcase your hobbies, interests, and passions in ways that give your potential matches a peek into what it might be like to share a life with you.
An example answer could be:
“Enjoying nature. I enjoy post-work walks, hikes on the weekends, and outdoor sports games. I’ve also been hoping to get into pickleball, so if you’re looking for a partner, I promise I’ll give it my best shot.”
Talking about your hobbies can let singles know you’re the outdoorsy type who’s looking for a partner with a similar appreciation for nature. Plus, it incorporates a potential date idea at the end (which is always a bonus).
But maybe you’re on the reserved side and have a lust for the quiet life. Someone with these characteristics may say something like:
Your responses should, of course, be tailored to your specific interests and passions, but what they should all have in common is authenticity. The more you can be upfront and honest about who you really are, the better your chances of finding someone who genuinely matches your energy.
The parental figures, mentors, or heroes in your life tell a profound story about the kind of person you are. Answering this prompt from a place of integrity and truth is an effective way to share that story with your fellow singles — a couple chapters of it, anyway.
As with all answers in your profile prompts, I urge you to be honest and vulnerable here. Ditch the desire to paint a picture of a personality that isn’t true to you. Speak from the heart. My mom, my theater professor, or my high school basketball coach are perfectly acceptable responses. Just make sure to provide some personal information to back it up.
Unless, of course, you’re taking the comedy approach. In that case, answer “SpongeBob SquarePants” or “the sassy bat from Anastasia” all you want. I’m sure the right person will get a kick out of it.
As much as dating apps are about presenting the best, most desirable parts of your personality, it’s also fun to get a little weird with it.
The person you match with may very well end up spending many hours of their time with you, so it’s better to put the strange quirks and habits on the table from the jump. Plus, in the end, sharing more personal details makes you more personable, and maybe even more relatable! We’re all freaks in our own way, after all.
Some examples of answers to this prompt could be:
These habits don’t have to be bad, they just have to be real! And, preferably, interesting. Every piece of information you share helps the eharmony algorithm do its thing.
eharmony does a great job of providing you with interesting, engaging, and exploratory prompts to help share your personality online. But sometimes you just want a “Make Your Own Sundae” profile, so you can sprinkle in your own toppings.
The “little more about me” prompt one allows you to do exactly that. Use it as a way to add in some tasty miscellaneous info, facts, or stories that get into the nitty gritty of you in ways that the other prompts or questions haven’t yet.
A couple of examples of interesting responses are:
Remember: This is a miscellaneous category. Have fun with it, but make sure every response serves a purpose!
The eharmony prompts (if answered thoughtfully) do a great job of giving potential matches an idea of who you are and what you’re looking for, but they can’t do all the work for you. Creating an attractive profile is vital to a successful dating experience. Online daters should be strategic in the pictures they post. We recommend prioritizing quality, diversity, and authenticity to boost your matchability.
The term “catfish” was initially used to refer to someone who takes on another person’s identity to make connections online, but the definition has since evolved. Now, catfishing can also refer to someone who chooses photos or edits their photos in a way that can be misleading to dating app users.
Catfishing can involve cropping pics, editing them, or — one of the most notorious dating app tricks — selecting outdated photos.
We get that maybe you’ve put on some pounds, lost some hair, or gotten out of touch with your inner fashion guru since college, but the reality is that your secret won’t be a secret for long. Whoever ends up going on a date with you is going to find out, so you might as well be honest from the get go. The right person for you is going to love you in all your post-university glory (as they should).
When it comes to selecting the pics that are going to attract the most users, our advice to you is this: Save the grains for the rice bowl. In other words, avoid low-quality, grainy photos at all costs. Why? Because they’re boring (and genuinely irritating) to look at. Few things make you look like a scammer or a catfish, quite like a blurry, low resolution photo where you can barely make out your facial features.
Those attuned to the online dating world (and especially to apps like Tinder, Hinge, and Bumble that offer “swiping” features) know that they have thousands upon thousands of singles at their fingertips. Don’t give fellow singles any reason to dismiss your profile and wait for the algorithm to present them with a new round of candidates. Pick as many good quality, up-to-date photos as you can (eharmony allows twelve) and trust that your next match is right around the corner.
Singles join dating apps to find their long-term love, their next FWB, or a plus-one to their best friend’s wedding — not to play a game of Eeny, Meeny, Miny, Moe. In other words, ditch the group pics!
As I mentioned earlier, the game of swiping is fast and furious. Make someone feel like they have to pause to search for your face in a picture and they’ll be onto the next profile before you can say Vin Diesel.
But, if you feel like you absolutely must post a group picture, my advice is to save it until the very end of your picture reel. That way, by the time they reach it, the person on the other side of the screen will have a pretty good idea of what your face looks like.
I’ll admit I’ve found myself in a pot-calling-the-kettle-black situation here, as I am a fiend for a good bucket hat and sunnies combo (such is the way of the curly girl). However, I’m well aware of the effect it can have on the dating app user experience, so I’m here to join you in ditching this tricky — albeit stylish — habit.
As much as I know that a hat and a nice piece of eyewear can take your look from a 7.5 to a solid 10/10, I also know that there’s a time and a place for these accessories. And a dating app might not be on that list.
Believe it or not, users looking for their next match want to be able to see your face. Clothing items such as hats and sunglasses have a pesky little habit of getting in the way of that.
This doesn’t mean that you can’t include pictures of yourself with these accessories at all. You could simply save them for the very end, ensuring that any users perusing your profile can get familiar with your face before you hit them with a Vogue-worthy OOTD.
Consider your eharmony dating profile a complete personality sampler. It provides you with the chance to showcase the various components of your complex existence to any and all single onlookers.
For example, maybe you’re an introverted plant-lover who plays hard metal shows on the weekends and attends comic book conventions once a month. To give your potential matches a glimpse at what it may be like to date and/or spend time with you, you could share a picture of you tending to your backyard garden, a couple of photos of you crushing a guitar solo on stage, and a snap of you posing in your latest Wolverine ensemble.
Whatever your interests and passions may be, your next partner wants to know them all!
As much as creating your online dating profile can be a time-consuming process, the features of your profile are ultimately there to serve you. With well-thought-out prompt responses and carefully-selected photos, you can embrace the opportunity to paint a picture of the kind of person you are, as well as the kind of partner you’d like to find.
Let’s always remember: Authenticity is where true connections are built. Be honest with your answers and pictures — rather than fluffing them up or manipulating them — and the right people will come your way.