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Brian holds a doctorate degree in human sexuality from the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality, a master’s degree in clinical social work from Western Michigan University, and is a Board Certified Diplomate & Sexologist through the American Board of Sexology. He has been working in the field for more than 33 years as a private practice psychotherapist and runs an international coaching business for gay men that focuses on dating, relationships, and sexuality, and also has experience teaching in higher education. He is a member of the National Association of Social Workers, Relationship Coaching Institute, The International Association of Coaches, and The American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists.
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107 posts • Last Updated 5/14/26
Barring any significant trauma history, attachment wounds, or mental health challenges, many men have a fairly stable sense of self by the time they reach... Read More »
Starting conversations on Match.com as a gay man requires a different approach than messaging on swipe-based apps. Match is built for relationship seekers,... Read More »
Probably one of the top goals people set to improve their lives is committing to going to the gym to focus on losing weight or building the physique of... Read More »
Introducing your partner to your family for the first time is a big step in the evolution of your relationship. For some, it can be an exciting... Read More »
Nothing is more frustrating and painful than when you’re moving along smoothly in your new relationship and everything seems to be going perfectly well,... Read More »
While a first date can be exhilarating and exciting, it can also be fraught with anxiety. When our nervous systems detect a threat (even something as... Read More »
Ben sat across from Dave at the fancy restaurant where they were meeting for the first time to have a romantic candlelit dinner after weeks of... Read More »
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What’s a single gay guy to do when he lives in a rural area that lacks a vibrant gay community? It’s hard enough finding a quality dating prospect in a... Read More »
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In a merciless gay community where you’re labeled “over the hill” after the age of 30 (and even younger in some circles!), it can be extremely challenging... Read More »
The Swiss psychiatrist and psychoanalyst Carl Jung wrote in his 1921 classic “Psychological Types” about the personality traits of introversion and... Read More »
Sex can obviously be a very important part of a relationship as it enhances the quality of life and reinforces bonding with your partner. Sex can help... Read More »
Nothing creates more excitement (and anxiety) than meeting a guy who stimulates you mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and sexually -- especially when it... Read More »
Dating can be challenging enough, but when you struggle with anxiety, it can make your search for Mr. Right feel virtually impossible. There’s good news... Read More »
One of the most torturous aspects of dating is when you think you've found Mr. Right, and then the relationship ends. Sometimes this happens abruptly, and... Read More »
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One of the most important dating tips is to spend quality time with yourself, reflecting on your personal requirements for a relationship. It’s best to... Read More »
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The dating landscape can be a difficult one for single gay seniors looking for love. Singles at gay bars and clubs tend to glamorize youthful, boyish looks... Read More »
Many gay men lament the challenges they have with meeting dating prospects and maintaining those relationships once established. It’s one of the primary... Read More »
While navigating the gay dating world, you’ll likely face a few dilemmas. Dating is an art, not a science, so devising creative solutions to these... Read More »
Perplexing dilemmas abound when you’re single in the gay dating market, and perhaps one of the most common head-scratchers is when you, as an out gay man,... Read More »
"How do I tell if a man is gay?" It's a common question I receive from gay men, whether it's coaching clients or friends, and I sympathize with their... Read More »