15 Best BDSM Dating Sites (100% Free to Try)

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15 Best BDSM Dating Sites (100% Free to Try)

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For some people, dating isn’t about about flowers, chocolates, and wine — it’s about whips, handcuffs, and blindfolds. So today we’re talking about 15 leading dating sites that cater to the BDSM community. As Urban Dictionary describes it, BDSM stands for bondage, dominance/discipline, submission/sadism, and masochism.

While the people you meet on these sites may make you feel the exquisite pain that you’re looking for, your wallet won’t be punished in the process.

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BeNaughty

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BeNaughty kicks off our list because it’s one of the longest running hookup sites (founded in 2000), it has a large audience (13.3 monthly visitors), signing up is free, and it uses SSL encryption to protect its users. Singles and couples are welcome to create a profile, browse for and receive matches based on their preferences, and flirt and communicate in a number of ways.

Meeting people for some kinky fun is what Adult Friend Finder is all about, and it’s been that way since the free site launched in 1998. You’ve got people who are into BDSM, threesomes, swinging, cheating, one-night stands, fetishes, and so many other sexual activities. Just upload your information and photos, and then get to know your matches through instant messaging, videos, group forums, and private emails.

FriendFinder-X — you can probably get the gist of this site by its name. Here, you can find turned-on friends for X-rated encounters, and you won’t have to pay anything to do so. All FriendFinder-X asks for is your gender, relationship status, the gender you’re interested in, location, email address, and username, among other things. Then the ball is in your court.

Lesbian women often struggle on mainstream hookup sites and apps because those platforms often don’t know how to meet their needs, and that’s where LesbianPersonals comes in. You no longer have to worry about being matched with dudes (even though you specified that you’re lesbian) or deal with annoying messages and unsolicited dick pics. You can comfortably and confidently browse through the millions of lovely ladies until you find one (or two or three) who catch your eye.

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MenNation

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Not only does MenNation cater to gay men, but the casual personals site also caters to bisexual men, queer men, trans men, and men who just want to explore their sexuality. You don’t have to put in payment information to fill out a profile, upload several photos, view and like profiles, receive match suggestions every day, and flirt through a variety of features.

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Fetster

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Fetster is where your fetish fantasies can come true. Don’t feel self-conscious about expressing yourself because this is a judgment-free environment. In addition to creating your own profile, Fetster also allows you to create groups and forums for conversation, blog posts, and videos. As the site says, “At Fetster, we have a Fetster pledge that each member is available for play, to meet, and single or in an open relationship — rather than fakes, scammers, or married people cheating, lying, or selling videos.”

URL: https://www.fetster.com/

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BDSM Date

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BDSM Date focuses on connecting you with sexy strangers in your area, and you have millions of men and women of various ages (all 18+, though), genders, sexual orientations, ethnicities, backgrounds, and cultures to choose from. Browse by type of encounter, roles you want to play (or want someone else to play), and so many other things — it’s totally free.

URL: https://bdsmdate.com/

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ALT

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ALT is a great option for those who enjoy living alternative lifestyles, including a BDSM lifestyle. The site has been facilitating sex dates for 20+ years and has grown to more than 600,000 active monthly users. ALT offers a free membership as well as member blog posts and links to other alternative sex communities online. Signing up only takes a minute or two, and you have quick yes-no questions as well as more in-depth questions to answer.

URL: https://alt.com/

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Match BDSM

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Match BDSM is the self-proclaimed “best bondage and submissive dating site,” and the site promises if you join (which is free), you’ll have thousands of local singles and couples to talk to. It’s also free to send flirts and IMs to show interest as well as add people to your Favorites list. Something we recommend you do as soon as you log into Match BDSM is check out the site’s Online Safety Tips section on the Help page, which offers advice for both the online and offline components of your sexual encounters.

URL: https://www.matchbdsm.com/

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FetLife

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Created in 2008 by kinksters for kinksters, FetLife likes to think of itself as a dating site as well as a social network (like Facebook but for fetishes). The desktop version as well as the Android app are both free, and you can access a ton of search and communication tools. FetLife has over 6.5 million users, making it one of the largest sites in this niche.

URL: https://fetlife.com/

BDSM Dating Only has been listed among the most popular BDSM dating sites on many reviews sites. The team says, “We offer easy access to a wide range of BDSM dating services. You can be a part of the active blog community, go through interesting magazine articles; enjoy masturbatory video streams, chat rooms, and instant messages.” If you have any problems, the customer service team can be reached via phone and email 24/7.

URL: https://www.bdsmdatingonly.com/

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Bondage Pal

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“Ropes but no strings” is Bondage Pal’s motto, and the site promises all of its members are real, every feature is actually 100% free, and it’ll only take you 60 seconds to become a member. In addition to the dating portion of the site, check out Bondage Pal’s comprehensive blog section, where you can read articles about all kinds of kink topics and learn more about the ever-changing community.

URL: https://bondagepal.com/

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BDSM Singles

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BDSM Singles provides new users with a free trial, including live webcam shows and Rapid Match (which is kind of like Tinder where you swipe right if you like the person and left if you don’t), to really get a feel for the site before fully joining. The site welcomes people who are straight, gay, lesbian, bisexual, trans, and queer. The site’s other demographics include 67% male members, 33% female members, and 86% of users are between 35 and 55.

URL: https://www.bdsmsingles.com/

MY BDSM Hookups says its mission is to “bring together local mistresses and men who want nothing more than to become slaves.” If that sounds like something you’re interested in, sign up — you’re automatically given a free account that won’t expire. My BDSM Hookups is headquartered in the United Kingdom, and the team can be reached through snail mail, telephone, and the site’s contact form.

URL: https://mybdsmhookups.com/

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BDSM Passions

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BDSM Passions is where you can find friends, dates, swinging relationships, NSA relationships, hookups, and almost any other sexual encounter you can think of. According to the site, some members have even fallen in love, so don’t leave that out. BDSM Passions doesn’t charge for registration, browsing, match recommendations, and communication (e.g., private messaging, group chats, and forums).

URL: https://bdsmpassions.com/

These Sites Will Make You Hurt So Good

BDSM may not be for everyone, and that’s OK with the community. You can stick with the flowers, chocolates, and wine — they’ll stick with the whips, handcuffs, and blindfolds. For those looking to explore their sexuality and find kinky play partners, all you have to do is start working your way down this list.