Let's Talk Intimacy (Page 8)

The issue of hurried sex was best depicted in an episode of “Sex and the City,” which is the average woman’s Holy Grail of relationship shows. Carrie begins dating Aidan, a new man in her life. After each date, he always walks her to her door, gives her a brief kiss and goes home, and she finds it incredibly weird that he doesn’t ask to come in. Carrie repeatedly asks herself what is wrong with her that Aidan...

German author Emil Ludwig once said, “The decision to kiss for the first time is the most crucial one in any love story.” This pretty much sums up how I feel about kissing. A kiss is not an obligation — it’s not the customary way to end a date. A kiss should mean something. It should have feelings and emotion behind it. If you are looking for a gentle way of saying, “That date did nothing for me, but you seem like a...

Romance is a very different thing for men and women. It should come as no surprise, then, that a list of favorite male love songs is unlike a list that women might come up with. The thing about love songs is that they all tend to glorify the woman. Men either come out as whipped worshipers or bums or they are entirely absent. And when a woman sings a love song for a man, like “Wind Beneath My Wings” or “You Light...

What can you do if your man doesn’t initiate sex as often as you’d like him to? Even though you may feel you fill a more submissive role in your relationship’s bedroom tussles, as a woman, you have within you the power to get yours anytime you want, anywhere you want it, however you need it. Constantly seduce your man. Seduction isn’t an isolated action. Within a healthy sexual relationship, seduction constantly...

Every man knows the basic rules for romancing his lady. Flowers, chocolates, thoughtfulness, love notes, a candlelight dinner, and the list goes on. Basically, men can romance a woman by treating her like a woman. But what are the rules or methods you can use to bring a little romance into his life? 1. Don’t romance him the same way. The way to romance a man is to not treat him like a woman. You must appeal to his...

You've sprinkled flower petals, you've lit candles, or you flipped the little switch on the fake LED candles, if you're fire safety conscious. Boys 2 Men is playing. You've got that feeling. It's time for some sexual healing. Until you're lady says she has a headache and would rather just go to bed. Before you wait up for the Dr. Ruth call-in show, here are a few things to consider. 1. She's “fine.” It's one of...

Knowing how to kiss the guy you're dating and turn him on seems like a no-brainer. Logic dictates if a man finds you attractive, then he should be turned on every time you kiss him. But as we all know, this just isn’t the case. There are times when your kiss doesn’t seem to light much of a fire within your man. There are times when your man seems like there are a half dozen other things he’d rather be doing in the...

Ladies, one of the most important elements of romance, at least in my estimation, is the kiss. There is something magical about a meaningful, passionate kiss. Being a dynamite kisser is essential to any relationship, especially in the early stages. A bad kiss is a real turn-off, even for a man who thinks you’re hot. If he kisses you and hates it, he may never want to see you again. Seriously, smooching is something...

Sex is like rain. When you’re in a drought, it’s hard to think of anything else, and when a gentle rain falls every night, we don’t give it a second thought. When everything is in balance, we can attack all of the aspects of work and life with vibrancy and vigor. The importance of a good sexual relationship should not be under estimated. Great sexual chemistry has the capacity to satisfy us on a physical,...

Kissing is one of the absolute greatest pleasures in life. Like anything that’s worth doing, it’s worth doing well. Practice makes perfect, and you can’t practice kissing by yourself. Being relaxed with the girl and the situation is the first step to a great kiss. Your girl — even a new girl — can imagine herself in your arms kissing you or she wouldn’t want to date you. So calm down. She likes you! The second...

Guys, when it comes to sex and a new relationship, sex should be the furthest thing from your mind. Talking, listening, spending time together with your clothes on, and getting to know her as a person should be priority. Too often men get together with a new woman and rush the sex. This complicates things tremendously and can even be dangerous. Good sex clouds good judgment, and men are incredibly susceptible to...

We live in a fast-paced world where everything is moving more and more quickly, with people growing more and more impatient. The world seems to be saying, “Hurry up and move it or you’ll get run over!” This is especially true when it comes to sex and intimacy. We are inundated with messages that suggest sex is supposed to be fast and easy and intimacy should come quickly and with little effort. There are no set...

So you’re a little bit country and your boyfriend’s a little bit rock ‘n’ roll, and your differences have gotten to the point that if you hear another Metallica song, you’re going to lose it. How do you overcome this? How can you spend more time together and actually enjoy that time. Find balance. If your boyfriend spends every Saturday watching sports, make an effort to enjoy it, too. Ask him to teach you the ins...

Back in the day, teenagers used to go to drive-in movie theaters to “park,” which provided the perfect opportunity to engage in a passionate make-out session. Such an encounter included little more than hours and hours of kissing, and if the guy was lucky, a trip to second base. Generally speaking, drive-ins have almost completely vanished, and it seems the make-out session went with them. Why, I wonder? Making...

As warm and fuzzy it may feel to be in a committed relationship with the guy you love, one thing us girls often miss is the butterflies and weak-in-the-knees feeling we got at the start of the relationship. Remember the first kiss you shared? You were sitting there wondering when it might happen, and your heart jumped into your throat every time he so much as leaned in your direction or licked his lips —...