Let's Talk Signals (Page 7)

Amber Brooks

By: Amber Brooks

Editor: Lillian Castro

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Sherlock Holmes can probably use his deduction skills to tell if your date is a keeper or not. But we can't all be the greatest detective to ever live, especially in the case of love.

So we're here to help you take off those rose-colored glasses and see your dates clearly, even with feelings in the mix.

The following articles dive deep into the anatomy of human behavior and social cues. Learn how to decipher and send good verbal and nonverbal cues, whether you’re dating casually or in a committed relationship.

Get advice to interpret and understand romantic interest, mixed signals, and emotional availability. Learn to read body language, tone, eye contact, and other subtle cues so you can assess your connections from the right frame of mind.

We give you the skills to spot inconsistencies in behavior and recognize when someone may not be ready for a relationship.

We have guides that also touch on dating safety, abuse, infidelity, and how to detect whether something’s amiss in your relationship. Guard your heart and remove the complexities of dating with help from our experts.

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181.
I’m in Love with This Girl. How Can I Speed Up the Process?
Dr. Wendy Walsh

Dr. Wendy Walsh

Reader Question: I have been hanging out with this girl for about month and a half now. I literally met her the day after she left her recent ex-boyfriend. Since then, we have been hanging out with each other almost every day. Every so often (mainly when she has been drinking), she will do something flirty, but other than that there is no physical intimacy with each other. I lost my patience with her at one...

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182.
Is He Talking to Me Because We Are Close Friends, or is He Interested?
Dr. Wendy Walsh

Dr. Wendy Walsh

Reader Question: I have been friends with this guy since I was 10 years old. Since high school and now into college, we started talking more. Ever since he broke up with his long-time girlfriend, he's been talking to me a bit more. For the past couple weeks, he's been messaging, texting and Skyping a whole lot more than usual. I was wondering if he was just talking to me because we are close friends, because he...

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183.
Why Would He Send Me an Email After Being Divorced for a Week?
Dr. Wendy Walsh

Dr. Wendy Walsh

Reader Question: My ex-husband sent me an email that said I was a great woman, he loved me deeply and I would always be on his mind. He said he was ashamed of himself for letting someone like me go. Why would he send me this after being divorced for almost a week? -Cindy S. (Texas) Dr. Wendy Walsh's Answer: There are three possible psychological reasons for his show of love to you just one week after the...

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184.
He Has Started Speaking to Me Less. What Happened?
Dr. Wendy Walsh

Dr. Wendy Walsh

Reader Question: I was seeing a guy for a couple of months casually last summer. He fell for me quite hard. I liked him loads too but then (very stupidly) ditched him and got back with my ex. About a month ago, I split up with the ex. Now I’m chatting with the summer guy a lot again, and I've been staying at his house on the weekends. He is still very bitter about what I did. He has now suddenly started speaking...

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185.
How Do I Know He’s Interested Without Asking and Seeming Needy?
Kara Pound

Kara Pound

Reader Question: I’ve seen this guy a couple times and he sends me pics of himself (partial nude). He seems interested when we talk and Skype, but he never has time to actually see me. I don’t want to waste my time if he's not interested, but how do I know without asking and seeming needy? I kind of like him. -Lynn P. (Florida) Expert's Answer: Hey Lynn, I’m curious when you say you’ve "seen" this guy a...

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186.
I’m Attracted to My Friend and She Wants to Move in. Does She Want More?
Dr. Wendy Walsh

Dr. Wendy Walsh

Reader Question: There is a girl I've known for more than 15 years and we are really good friends. I've always been attracted to her but we have never been romantic. Lately, we've been spending a lot more time together, and it seems like there is a little bit of sexual tension. Now she wants to talk about moving in together. Is this the signal that she also wants more? I've never told her I wanted to be more than...

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187.
7 Things I Learned About Dating in High School
Nick Slade

Nick Slade

Everything you need to know about dating you learned in high school. Sure, there may be some refinements that you pick up along the way to make the experience a little better for you and your date, but the basic ingredients are there. 1. Girls don’t bite.We all start out with a lot of fear when it comes to approaching that luscious, irresistible girl who never leaves our thoughts. But part of what we like about her...

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188.
She No Longer Greets Me When I See Her. Is She Mad at Me?
Dr. Wendy Walsh

Dr. Wendy Walsh

Reader Question: I have become friends with a younger woman at the restaurant where she works. Recently, she always seemed to really be glad to see me when I came in, hugging me and making sure she served me. I suggested a very low-key date late at night so we could talk without her getting interrupted by her work. Despite me being obviously nervous asking her, she said sure. I text her and she returned it saying...

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189.
I Like This Guy A Lot. Should I Ask if He’s Available?
Dr. Wendy Walsh

Dr. Wendy Walsh

Reader Question: What do I do if both of us are interested in each other and several weeks pass by and I haven't seen him at work? He plays hockey on Wednesday nights at 10 p.m. Do you think I should go there by myself and find out if he is available to hang out afterward? I like him a lot, and I don't think he knows it. -Kathleen J. (Illinois) Dr. Wendy Walsh's Answer: How do you know that both of you are...

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190.
What Does it Mean if My Boyfriend is Not Responding to My Calls and Texts?
Kara Pound

Kara Pound

Reader Question: What does it mean if my boyfriend of two and a half years is not responding to my calls and texts? When I did get a hold of him, he would tell me that he would call me later. It has been two weeks of me being ignored. He is away at an internship in South Carolina right now. A year ago, we almost broke up. He has never been a phone guy, but he would always text me the next day saying sorry or he...

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191.
He Cancelled Our Plans. Does This Guy Not Want to See Me?
Nick Slade

Nick Slade

Reader Question: My best friend tried to set me up with one of her boyfriend's friends on a double date. However, it was cancelled due to my friend's boyfriend's schedule. So we rescheduled it for a couple days later, but then we tried to do something else that same day. However, when we had that plan, the guy said he couldn't because he was making dinner. So does this guy not want to see me? (He did say I was cute...

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192.
If I Want to Contact Her, How Long Should I Wait?
Nick Slade

Nick Slade

Reader Question: I met this girl three months ago. She was very nice to me and we had a great time. Suddenly she called saying she didn't want to rush into a serious relationship. Because of that, I pulled myself out. Sometimes she asked me to go out, sometimes I asked her. Every time I hang out with her, I treat her as friend who cares. We hold and hug each other the whole night. However, she fell in the club...

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193.
Should I Write Her an Apology Letter, or Should I Let it Go?
Nick Slade

Nick Slade

Reader Question: A gal I really like asked me for my number but has not called yet. It's been about three weeks. Part of me sensed that she was annoyed when asking for my number, maybe because I had not asked for hers. I guess I handled things all wrong. I don't know why I didn't ask her for her number. I am not good at talking on the phone maybe that's why. Should I write her a letter or just let it go? -C.W....

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194.
She Never Contacted Me Again. What Happened?
Nick Slade

Nick Slade

Reader Question: I joined a dating site and a girl found me and said I was hot and she wanted to meet me. She lived four hours away, so she came to sleep at my home and enjoy the next day. Well, we had great sex and a great day. She said it was one of her best dates. Well, she never contacted me again after a week of many texts and calls. I felt a connection. What happened? -Brad S. (New Hampshire) Expert's...

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195.
Should Men Always Initiate Sex?
Nick Slade

Nick Slade

Ideally, it is usually best for men to make the first overt advance that triggers the sexual act. It allows a man to feel manly and lets the woman retain her value and reputation as a lady. That said, most guys are pretty lousy at picking up the signals you send us, and we prefer to err on the side of gentlemanly behavior if we’re not sure that permission has been given, especially if it’s the first time for a new...

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196.
Has He Met Someone Else?
Nick Slade

Nick Slade

Reader Question: I met a guy and we've been dating for more than a month. We seen each other five times, but we're in touch all the time. Throughout the month, there was only one day we didn't chat with each other. We spent a couple of nights together cuddling and talking about plans, the future and about how good it is to spend night together before he went on a business trip to India. Before he flew away, we...

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197.
Should I Hang Out With Him?
Nick Slade

Nick Slade

Reader Question: In high school I had a crush on this guy. Lets call him Fred. My friends told Fred that I liked him and long story short he liked me, too. He asked me to prom, and I was SOOO happy. But later on, I didn't want to go to prom with him. It wasn't anything personal. I just wanted to go by myself. There was also a bit of peer pressure because all of my friends hated him. I was a little bit of a jerk...

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198.
Do I Have Feelings for This Guy?
Kara Pound

Kara Pound

Reader Question: I've been seeing this guy for a while now. Well, I say "seeing" but we just meet whenever we're out and one of us feels like it. We never make an effort to see each other or anything. We have been friends for about two years now, and on New Year's this year, he was being so sweet and asked if he could kiss me. It was adorable. We're just very casual. He is such a player so he meets other people...

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199.
Does This Girl at School Like Me?
Kara Pound

Kara Pound

Reader Question: There's this girl at my school that I like, but I'm confused as to where her mind is at. Here are a few things she does: She always compliments me, on both my looks and intelligence. She tells me about her personal life. (We talked about each other's past relationships the other day.) We have a smooth conversation when we talk in person. She remembers things I tell her. She cares about...

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200.
Should I Approach Him First?
Nick Slade

Nick Slade

Reader Question: Back in seventh grade, I used to know this guy from an exchange. We became friends but lost touch once the program was over and never talked again for the last five years. Lately, I've seen him in town a couple of times (nothing but eye contact) and soon after at a club where he was super nervous but actually came up to talk to me. We had a really awkward chat, and he tried to compliment me, told...

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201.
What Can You Learn About a Woman From Her Friends?
Bethany Heinesh

Bethany Heinesh

Remember the old adage, “Birds of a feather flock together”? Well, it’s great advice and completely true. You can tell a lot about a woman by the friends she hangs out with. For example, if your girlfriend’s posse is comprised of drunken college girls who go bar hopping — and bed hopping — every weekend, you might want to sit up and take notice. If her friends are a bunch of bookworms who love to study quantum...

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202.
What Does Your Playlist Say About You as a Dater?
Bethany Heinesh

Bethany Heinesh

You can tell a lot about a person by what kind of music they listen to. I can remember several guys who ran me off when they told me they were in love with songs that said things like, “I’m a creep. I’m a weirdo,” or “I am just a worthless liar.” Today, I pay very close attention to the lyrics people think are worth singing because it gives great insight into how they perceive themselves. It also speaks to their...

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203.
7 Signs Your Relationship is Over
Nick Slade

Nick Slade

Do you have that nagging feeling that the wheels are gradually falling off of your relationship and the bridge over the abyss ahead might give way on the next pass? There are some signs you can look for to warn you of danger ahead. Then it’s up to you to decide if it’s time to tuck and roll away at the next opportunity or to put on your handyman hat and make things better. 1. She keeps her hands to herself. Has...

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204.
What Your Playlist Says About You
Sam Stieler

Sam Stieler

Whether the music we listen to shapes how we feel about love, or whether how we feel about love shapes the music we listen to, is a moot point. To know how a man feels about love, you often don’t need to look any further than his playlist. So what does your playlist say about how you feel about love? 1. "In Your Eyes" by Peter Gabriel. Maybe you have a lot of fond memories for the classic John Cusack flick, "Say...

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205.
How to Know He is Boyfriend Material
Kara Pound

Kara Pound

Before you start running around town shouting from the rooftops “So-and-so is my beau!!!” first figure out if he’s boyfriend material. As far as most women are concerned, boyfriends are really just future husbands. Here are four signs that the guy you’re into is boyfriend (ahem, possible love of your life) material. 1. He has personal relationships with depth. One way to see if this new guy is boyfriend material is...

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206.
Is She Interested?
Kara Pound

Kara Pound

Reader Question: I have currently built up a crush with a colleague at work. We've been working together for more than six months now and we are quite close. Over the weeks, other colleagues have seen us together and often ask her if there is something between the both of us, indirectly. It puts her off and maybe annoys her. It annoys me, too. She's very cute and there are others who like her. But I know we have...

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207.
Am I Still in the Friend Zone?
Bethany Heinesh

Bethany Heinesh

Reader Question: OK, so I met this guy online and I gave him my number. When I asked him what he was looking for, all he said was a friendship. He already knew I was sort of into him, so I told him that was fine and I wouldn't cross any lines. Now he talks to me every night until I fall asleep. He told me he would make time for me, and he said he didn't have time for a girlfriend. He said he was excited about...

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208.
Does He Like Me?
Bethany Heinesh

Bethany Heinesh

Reader Question: Hey, I met this guy and we have been friends for a year now. I just recently broke up with my boyfriend and started talking to my friend more. Well, he finally gave me his number. We text but it is always me initiating the conversation. He does keep the conversation going and answers with long answers. We also hung out at a lake once. I'm scared that I may seem too clingy if I'm always texting him....

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209.
How to Know You’re in Love
Sam Stieler

Sam Stieler

Love may be wonderful, but it is also slippery to define and difficult to identify with any assurance. A man can feel like he’s fallen in love with a woman the moment he sees her, and then not want to spend any time with her just a single week later. Men can feel very sure three months into a relationship that he’s with the woman of his dreams, only to realize six months into the relationship that the love wasn’t...

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210.
Does She Like Me?
Nick Slade

Nick Slade

Reader Question: I have been friends with this girl for a while. She broke up with her boyfriend. We have been texting a lot - like 200 messages a week. I keep getting mixed signals from her, and I really like her. Should I go for it? But I don't want to ruin the friendship either. We also hang out, and I think she looks for me in the halls. -Ivan S. Bently (Kansas) Expert's Answer: Hi, Ivan. Thanks for...

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Amber Brooks

By: Amber Brooks

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Amber Brooks is the Editor-in-Chief at DatingAdvice.com. When she was growing up, her family teased her for being "boy crazy," but she preferred to think of herself as a budding dating and relationship expert. As an English major at the University of Florida, Amber honed her communication skills to write clearly, knowledgeably, and passionately about a variety of subjects. Now with over 1,800 lifestyle articles to her name, Amber brings her tireless wit and relatable experiences to DatingAdvice.com. She has been quoted by the Washington Times, Cosmopolitan, The New York Post, and AskMen, among others.

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