Let's Talk Signals (Page 2)

Renee Zellweger explained it to Tom Cruise in "Jerry Maguire" with, "You had me at hello." Many of us have experienced love at first sight. According to a recent DatingAdvice.com survey, 57 percent of Americans believe it can happen. There are many reasons we meet someone and later proclaim, "It was love at first sight." You be the judge of whether these factors behind the love at first sight phenomenon reflect...

Reader question: I met this gorgeous girl about a month ago. She's very nice, but she would take three days to respond to me when we first started talking. She hasn't texted me first at all. She responds when I text her, but she would also take forever to respond. I saw her online on Facebook and she doesn't say anything, so I'm confused. Why do I get the feeling she isn't that interested anymore? -Mario...

Reader Question: I've got a bit of a crush on a co-worker. I talked with her about getting lunch. Unfortunately, we both had different times on our calendar, and I ended up being more than an hour late. A few weeks later, she invited me and two other guys from the office out to drinks with her (and her friends). I, unfortunately, had to decline because of a business meeting. Then I asked her out to drinks and...

I always tell my clients to act intuitively without being too blatantly obvious. 1. Be your own sly sleuth. Being playful is better received than saying conventional and cheesy pickup lines. Body language is huge and be cognizant of it. Is he touching your knee or shoulder from time to time? Are you reciprocating his effort? If you are really feeling good chemistry with this man, maybe sit beside him instead of...

No one likes rejection, but men really don’t like it. Maybe that’s true for women, too, but seeing that I am a man, I can speak from experience. I, for one, feared rejection so badly that it kept me from dating more often. I recall in sixth grade having a crush on Charmaine Hutchins during science camp. I told my friend George to tell Charmaine I liked her, but I gave him explicit instructions that if she guffawed...

Reader Question: There's this woman I've been seeing the past few weeks whom I like, but I don't know if she likes me back. I've told her I like her and she shows all the signs: stares at me, touches me when she talks, etc. She says she wants a relationship and doesn't want to date. On top of that, we've had sex four times and every time it gets more emotional. How do I know if she likes me or is just using...

Reader Question: I've known this woman for seven months. I've developed feelings for her. I'm just not sure if she feels the same or only sees me as a friend. We text all day and every day. We spend a lot of time together in person. I am four years younger than her and she has expressed multiple times that she wouldn't be with someone younger than her. Yet she tells me I come off as very mature to her. Should I...

The first language you learn as a human being is body language. You learn to read your mother’s facial expressions and the facial expressions of every person who shows up to stare at you. You use this first language all of the time, even though it’s mostly unconscious. It’s how you know someone is unhappy. Yeah, that look on her face. Exactly, that look on her face. To really leverage the value of reading body...

Although I often talk about how to tell if a guy is into you, today’s article is going to focus on the opposite: how to tell if he’s not actually into you. Let’s get straight to it: 1. He’s not around you. This is probably the number one tell-tale sign that lets you know if a guy is into you. If he’s not into you, then he won't want to be around you. When a guy is attracted to a woman, he will act in many different...

Reader Question: There is one guy who I see at the gym when I am there. I got up to walk to the bathroom and he was checking me out. I decided to flirt back to see where it will take me. When I came home from the gym, he followed me on Twitter, which I think is odd, but after I flirted back with him, I assume he has a thing for me. Should I flirt with him more ? -Liz (Michigan) Rachel Dack's Answer: Hey...

You should go for what you want, right? It’s a simple question, but the answer needs a little bit more explanation in the dating world. When it comes to persistence with women, there are two different scenarios guys usually fall into. There is the guy who keeps trying and the girl doesn’t respond or asks him to go away, and then there is the guy who keeps trying and gets the girl. What makes these guys different?...

Reader Question: I met my ex on a dating website. We were together for three months. He told me he is drifting apart from me. He said “I don't feel like having a girlfriend and I don't want to date anyone.” Last week, we hung out and he still paid for my dinner and slept over. We still acted like we were a couple. However when I texted him, it seemed like he didn't want to talk to me. I know he texts other...

You’re in love with her. You can’t stop thinking about her, but she broke your heart a year ago. You drive yourself crazy every day, wondering to yourself what you could have done wrong. You had everything. You had so much fun together. As time goes by, you start to feel a little better about things.You start to get yourself back together as a man. But guess what happens? You run into her one day. You end up having...

Reader Question: There is this guy I like but who is too shy to talk to me. I friended him on Facebook and he accepted. I text him but he hasn't texted back. He doesn't act shy with other girls but me. Is he interested, or is he just shy? -Kelly (North Carolina) Gina Stewart's Answer: There is only so much you can do for a guy who is acting shy to get him to make a move. That said, you’ve done about as...

Reader Question: Last April me and my boyfriend broke up. After some time of not speaking, we started communicating again. He started telling me he missed me and he loves me. I know I still love him, but when I asked if there was ever a possibility of us dating again, he said no. When I tried to tell him I couldn't be just friends, he said he wants me in his life. Now after I have built up the strength to...

Reader Question: I met this girl at a show a couple of months ago. She said she had just gotten out of a relationship and wasn't ready for one, which was fine at the time. Two months later...we have sex often. We act like we're a couple. Everything seems to be going perfectly. I brought up the subject and she tells me she is still not ready for a serious relationship. We ended up in a slight argument about why...

Reader Question: I have this guy friend who I have known since middle school. I am now 26. We dated for a short time in high school. In college, we hooked up a couple of times. We are both newly single and have seemed to be talking and flirting more. I have always had feelings for him. I have never expressed them to him. How do I know if there are feelings from him or not? Is this something I should just leave...

When you have a hot date or are meeting someone for the first time where there might be romantic potential, you need to know how to make a great first impression. Most people make a first impression within the first second of meeting you. Princeton University psychologist Alex Todorov flashed participants a one-second video of two political candidates. In only one second, participants were able to predict within 70...

If I were fully able to answer that question every time a man has sat and wondered, I’d be a multibillionaire and herded through the streets as the greatest mind since Sir Isaac Newton. It’s a topic men have spent their lifetimes trying to figure out. In the world of dating, this is something the male species should spend lots of time analyzing and evaluating in order to become successful. To be able to read and...

I’m an introvert, but I’m so curious that I can’t help but go out of my comfort zone to ask questions. In my latest guy interviews, I needed to find out why men want to stay friends. I pushed myself to go outside of my box to get the answer and interviewed guys aged 25 to 35. In total, I talked to about 10 guys. After I realized they were all saying pretty much the same thing, I decided I could stop. The night of...

It’s a pretty important skill to be able to identify receptive women at a bar. There have been many times when I have walked into a bar, spotted the most receptive women and ended up making out with them within less than a minute of saying hi to them. There are two aspects to spotting receptive women in a bar. The first is knowing the signs and the second is having the reference experiences to be able to be more...

Reader Question: I've been talking to this girl for a couple of months. She says she's not ready to date right now, but when she's ready, she wants to be with me. We've been fighting a lot recently about nothing. I didn't hear from her for a week, so I gave in and sent her a message. We hung out and everything was fine until I dropped her off. Then we started fighting again. She won't talk about stuff to...

Reader Question: My best friend and I decided to tell each other how we feel and we had sex. He told me he wanted to have a relationship in the future but now he doesn't. He said he really cares for me and he sees me as his wife and mother to his kids. Should I be worried about him not wanting to be with me now? -Stephanie Gina Stewart's Answer: This guy didn’t just sleep with you. He mind-fucked you. It's...

When I first began dating after my divorce, I met "John" on an online dating site. We had a great first phone conversation, discovering we shared many common interests and a similar outlook on life. He set up our first date for two weeks away. I couldn’t wait! I got a bad feeling in my gut when John didn’t reply to my email (claimed to have never received it) and didn’t call when he said he would (another excuse)....

How do men fall in love? What makes a man fall in love? One thing is certain: Men don’t fall in love the same way women do. So what’s the difference between how men fall in love and how women fall in love? We will break it down for you. 1. Men want to feel needed. The day a man doesn’t feel needed is the day a relationship loses a lot of its energy. This is rooted in our primal desire to be protectors, to be the...

For us men, it’s often hard work to spot the body language signs of a woman whilst we’re interacting with her. On the other hand, women have a natural way of noticing proper male body language, and they’re also naturally attracted to the men who convey it. They have an easy time picking up on vibes that prove if a guy is actually attractive purely by how his body is communicating. This may seem a little...

Reader Question: I met a man last year on Match.com. We have been on and off since April mainly because he runs hot and cold. He acts like he is a boyfriend 60 percent of the time, but we have had no label. We talk about everything but his feelings. I even feel like he may love me at times, but I also feel I can't get to know him. Every time I break it off with him, because he starts acting distant after spending...

Reader Question: How can I tell if a woman is losing interest in me? -Cameron Gina Stewart's Answer: She stops including you in details - details about what happened in her day, in her dreams, in her future plans. She stops asking anything about you and equally avoids details about you. You hear from her increasingly less. No counseling or psychotherapy advice: The Site does not provide psychotherapy...

Probably the most common question I get here at DatingAdvice.com has to do with confusing signals sent from a romantic interest. Both men and women alike send cryptic messages about their level of interest, especially in the early stages of dating, that can make a suitor downright jittery. They might even wonder if they should proceed or not. First off, know this: Every great love affair begins with anxiety about...

Old courting rituals made it quite easy to tell if a guy was interested. He sacrificed a fair amount of time, energy and money and he didn’t play games. Unfortunately, today men and women alike are rejecting traditional dating rituals (some needed a reboot anyway) that helped in deciphering a hookup from a long-term commitment. In some ways, we threw the baby out with the bathwater, as a loss of traditions also...