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Dr. Frankie Bashan is a renowned relationship coach and dating expert. She is a licensed clinical psychologist with nearly two decades of experience working with couples and individuals and specialized training in the field of trauma. Dr. Frankie is the CEO & Founder of LittleGayBook.com, which focuses on personalized matchmaking for lesbians and bisexual women, and has successfully connected couples across the United States for the last 16 years. Dr. Frankie has appeared as a love expert on MTV's "Are You the One," and she's given a TED Talk on fluidity.
Dr. Frankie's Top Posts
24 posts • Last Updated 6/1/26
Clients frequently come to me with questions about polyamory and ethical non-monogamy: how it works, whether it's right for them, how they should approach... Read More »
Open relationships seem more popular than ever. Many of us know people who are dating non-monogamously, and if we don't, we're watching reality TV shows... Read More »
If you're diving in for the first time, dating apps can be hugely intimidating. Anxiety about dating apps is a very common theme for my... Read More »
"No unicorn hunters!" You may have seen this written on dating app bios — and indeed, I've seen clients come to me dejected because they feel like... Read More »
Maybe you've always been interested in ethical nonmonogamy but have never had a chance to try it. Maybe you've become newly intrigued after getting to know... Read More »
First dates are rarely anyone's favorite part of dating — they can be awkward, tedious, and hard to schedule — but they're part of the package if you ever... Read More »
In my practice, I support clients through a range of dating and relationship challenges — and sometimes someone is working on fully understanding or... Read More »
For all the questions I field about queer and LGBTQ+ dating — how to find a compatible partner, how to deal with homophobic family, how to meet other queer... Read More »
No matter how well-regulated and wise you are and no matter how much therapy you've had, the end of a relationship is one of the hardest emotional... Read More »
No matter how old or how experienced we are with dating, whether we've been out as gay for 20 years or two months, it somehow never gets easier to tell... Read More »
Taking the first step is almost always the hardest part — maybe that's why first dates feel so challenging. It can be exhausting to take the risk... Read More »
When you find that woman you are interested in, you want her to be interested in you too, right? And, if you two happen to hit it off and you want to... Read More »
Want to start meeting, having sex, dating, and getting into relationships with butch lesbians or lesbian tops? You’ve come to the right place. You may... Read More »
Dating is supposed to be fun and exciting, so let’s be honest: Sometimes you just don’t want to do the same old, same old dinner-and-a-movie or coffee... Read More »
After your wife gets up to use the restroom, you find yourself feeling an unexpected sense of relief. Until that moment, you had not noticed that the time... Read More »
You finally found her: your perfect lesbian girlfriend. She is easy to be around, fun, attractive, and really into you, too. You sometimes catch yourself... Read More »
We have all been there: A certain someone has caught your eye. For whatever reason, you can't stop thinking about them. The problem is that they are... Read More »
How do you find a good girlfriend? That is a great question. I am having flashbacks to a movie that is so old, most of you have probably never heard of it.... Read More »
My guess is that, if you're reading this article, then you're probably not getting much love and affection from your girlfriend these days. Long gone are... Read More »
No relationship is perfect. If two people stay together long enough, they're bound to face times of struggle or periods when things just feel "off."... Read More »