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My phone is ringing non-stop and I have been busy working with singles to create the perfect 2014 online dating profiles. The good news is that both terrific men and women are hoping to connect this winter. What’s really happening online in January?  Dating sites such as JDate reported a 10 percent increase in mobile phone usage during the holidays. ChristianMingle said they saw an increase in 41 percent of...

Your main photograph is your shop window on a dating site. If you get it wrong, people won’t even look at your profile. Here are some to avoid: 1. The cutout These are photos with your ex when you can see an arm or hand or hair of another person. Or perhaps it’s a recent breakup and this person is on the rebound. Is the message here "Others find me datable"? 2. The selfie They never look good. The arm stretch...

New research from the University of California, San Diego conducted by Drew Walker and Edward Vul suggests online daters should use a group photo with friends as their primary online dating photo. Walker and Vul believe people appear more attractive in a group than in isolation. They call this "The Cheerleader Effect.” The study states the following three criteria for suggesting group photos: The visual system...

Are you sick of the bar scene? Welcome to the most popular, high-tech singles club – online dating. Online dating is so common these days, and it’s no longer rare to meet couples that have met and even married after meeting online. This is promising, but online dating also gets a bad reputation for being dishonest and tough to navigate. Guys, it’s not as hard as it seems to find a great woman online. Check out my...

Last week I relayed the happy love story of a woman who had met her husband on Match. It was a peculiar story when you took into account what this guy looked like when she first met him. Here are some unfortunate truths about men: A man without a woman can be very lost. My sisters and I joke that if our father didn’t have our mother (or his three daughters), he would wear the same dirty T-shirt for weeks in a row,...

Posting photos on social media sites and on your online dating profiles has become one of the top favorite features for singles. Perhaps this is the reason Facebook chose to purchase Instagram for $1 billion. It’s a big number to swallow, so if you’re posting the wrong photos, you can kiss that digital hunk goodbye because he will have moved on to find another pretty face. With this in mind, it’s time to revise the...

The hot news in the online dating industry is the independent release of a Pew Research survey, which shows online dating is growing become more popular and effective for meeting new people and even finding that perfect match. According to Pew, online dating has tripled in the last five years. This data brings new credibility to an industry that used to have a big social stigma, with 66 percent of online daters...

One of the most brilliant things about online dating is that even an average-looking guy who is not loaded has a chance with super-sexy woman who might not give him the time of day in a bar. Looking for a date? Our experts have tested and reviewed numerous dating sites, with Match.com being their #1 pick. Here’s the problem: attractive women receive dozens - sometimes even hundreds - of messages in a single...

Reader Question: I am on a bunch of dating sites. For well over a year, I've had not one date. I am a very nice guy looking to have fun. What am I doing wrong? -Rob (Illinois) Gina Stewart's Answer: There are three reasons why people don’t get dates. Without knowing specifics, it’s hard to know what is going on, but look at these elements: 1. Be ready to change your profile. Photos and how you describe...

As online dating sites become more and more popular, the tendency to fib, lie or create a profile designed for the way you’ve aspired to be has become more common than those who believe in truth in advertising. As an online dating expert and coach, this truly troubles me. I’ve made a point of twisting arms and arguing with singles to be authentic. After all, won’t you want your dream dates to be telling you the...

Greetings, gentlemen! I’m the Profile Diva and I’m here to give you a woman’s point of view on how you can improve your online dating experience and attract the women you want. Whether you're looking for a long-term relationship on Match or a short-term hookup on SparkMeets, you want to make the best possible impression in your dating profile to stand a chance of ever meeting that potential match in person. Before...

When Facebook founder Mark Zuckerberg added the relationship status to the personal profiles, he probably didn't envision the cultural convention he was laying the foundation for. Today, that pesky Facebook relationship status, the one that announces to the world you are single, in a relationship, married or in a situation too complicated for words, has become something for people to obsess about. The truth is many...

Every online dater seems to love being outdoors. Check out 10 online dating profiles and I’m sure seven of them will mention their love for camping or hiking, maybe even both. Ask a single person to fill out an online dating profile and all of a sudden they transform into Yogi Bear roughing it in the woods all day. Most online daters live in very suburban areas surrounded by outlet malls and freeways. Are they...

I love technology. There is no doubt the iPhone has made dating a whole lot easier and so much more fun. Cameras continue to improve on the Samsung Galaxy, iPhones and other mobile devices. While Instagram remains the favorite social networking photo site du jour, the prevalence of selfies is increasing on dating profiles. Who is posting selfies? And are they narcissistic, funny, expected or a turn-off? Just...

They say the devil is in the details and that’s one thing online dating has plenty of: details. With so much information instantly available, details are often the fatal blow matches will use to discount you before they even get a chance to know your personality. Here are three key things about you that matches are checking out and how you can navigate them. 1. Income. Considering money is a top reason for divorce,...

I call myself (mostly to myself) "a profiler." Nope, it has nothing to do with crime solving, unless you count dating lousily (mine, many moons ago, included) a criminal act! Some might. Some should. What I’ve discovered when coaching Handel Group clients on dating is you can fairly easily sniff out people’s past in their current online dating profiles. Maybe that’s a duh. I mean, what else would be in there? But...

Forget the Seven Deadly Sins. Committing these mistakes will send you to your digital dating grave. 1. Not writing anything about yourself. This includes saying things like, “I’m an open book. Ask me anything," or "Not sure what to write here. Check back later.” Women go on online dating to get to know about men before they go out with them. If you give her nothing to help her determine whether she’ll like you,...

My male clients seem to always have a universal question: “Why are women’s profiles so mean?" "They vent about all their past problems with men. They seem like they don’t even like men. They outline a list of requirements you must meet to contact them, so I don’t contact them.” - Says a nice, good catch of a guy Women, this lesson is for you. You’re missing out on good, decent guys contacting you because of how...

Because I am a professional writer, I figured I'd be a natural at writing my profile for dating sites and apps. I tagged myself "Smart, Sassy and Sensual in Baltimore," and I told my prospective suitors all about my career, my two grown sons, my young daughter, my religious preferences, my travels, my hobbies, my degree of fluency in various foreign languages. I also admitted to my long-ago appearance on "Oprah"...

Before you venture out to the senior dating sites and apps to post your  dating profile, you first want to be prepared with a group of great photographs of yourself. You might think with the advent of digital cameras on our phones that you can just have a friend snap some photos of you to use in your profile. You can use those as secondary photos, but when you’re looking for a relationship, mature senior singles...

I’ve been reading a lot of online dating profiles by “nice guys.” They keep saying how “chivalrous” they are. They’ll open the door for their dates. They'll shower her with compliments. They're gentlemen, they say. Seriously, let’s do a breakdown of historical chivalry and how men are misguided in modern chivalry. According to Wikipedia: “Chivalry is only a name for that general spirit or state of mind which...

If you’re a midlife single looking for a modern relationship, do you have a profile up on one of the hip senior dating sites? Of course you do. However, are you experiencing the results you were hoping to find? Or are you finding baby boomer online dating isn’t quite all it was cracked up to be? The problem might not be that mature dating sites are the issue. The problem could reside in your profile. 1....

In an interview on "The Today Show," Martha Stewart once admitted she almost tried online dating but didn’t finish her dating profile. Later on, Stewart appeared on the show again to let the world know she was indeed going to join the Match dating network. It’s been years since Stewart was in a long-term relationship. She admits to wanting to find someone to date. I believe she should leave the boardroom out of the...

You’ve probably heard a downhearted male friend say, “Online dating is so much easier for women. They just have to be pretty and they’ll get a date,” or you may have even uttered it yourself. Although women may make online dating seem effortless, behind the scenes they are beavering away to make sure they find the perfect partner. With a bit of effort, you could follow their lead. 1. Women are more proactive than...

Are you online dating and feeling like the pool is getting a little tired? Keep seeing the same faces and no one feels very exciting anymore? Here are three super easy changes you can make without even typing a word. Consequently, they will also help you to find love. Is it online dating magic? No. But you did say you're ready to find some love, right? Then what are you waiting for? 1, 2, 3, GO! 1. Your age...

Reader Question: I've been divorced since 1988 and haven't really dated. I'm a very pretty woman. I have a master's, three grown married, professional children and seven grandchildren. My profile reads well. I speak three languages and I am really interested in everything. I have been on eHarmony for months but have had almost no response. What is the matter? -Rita (New York) April Braswell's Answer: I...

I met with a beautiful, young female divorcee recently. Yes, believe it or not, even they need online dating help. I was asking her about her experiences so far and she began telling me about the "super creepy" guy that messaged her. He was a man in his 40s (she's in her 30s) and his message told her how beautiful she was and how he would love to take her out. I was a bit perplexed. It wasn't the kind of message I...

What does the first sentence of your online dating profile say about you? The first impression only happens once, and your first sentence is the first thing someone learns about your personality. What you say and how you say it can determine if someone stays on your profile or clicks to find someone else. When I'm playing tennis, I often think about the quote, "It's better to be lucky than good." I say it...

It’s springtime and love is in the air, as well as on your computers and mobile phones. On March 20th, along with the arrival of the spring equinox, several singles I’ve been working with in my Online Dating BootCamp changed their relationship status to “In a Relationship” and retired their online dating profiles since the first day of spring. What’s their secret in just one week? Preparation and careful planning...

You're ready to sit and write your online dating profile. Well you're not sure you feel ready, but you know you have to do it. You take a deep breath, power up the familiar glow and stare at that blank screen. That blinking cursor mocks you, like fingers tapping on a desk, asking when you're going to write something. First of all, just like you can imagine more than one way to murder your ever-yelling...