Let's Talk First Date (Page 7)

Swedish Golden Screen siren Ingrid Bergman once said, “A kiss is a lovely trick designed by nature to stop speech when words become superfluous.” There are members of American society who think a woman initiating a first date kiss means she’s “easy.” On the same token, a man who does the same is seen as “aggressive.” This slice of the American pie is stuck in the dark ages. It’s completely acceptable to kiss on...

Comedian Rodney Dangerfield once joked, “I drink too much. The last time I gave a urine sample, it had an olive in it.” Sure, most of us like our cocktails. In fact, I’m drinking a dirty martini as I write this post. But I’m in the comfort of my own home, and I’m not trying to impress any future baby makers. So ladies, how much drinking is acceptable on the first date? Well, let’s look at a few different...

Blind date. Two of the most feared words in the English language. Why? Because they represent one of the most feared encounters in the human experience. I don’t know about you, but just hearing the words make me shudder. Of course, so do the words “the gym” and “fat free,” but I endure the pain that comes with both. Why should blind dates be any different? Before I hop up on my soapbox and make my case for blind...

You went on a first date with this really great girl. It went amazing. Now, it’s time to plan the second date. This is when you’ll find out if it was beginner’s luck or if there really is a spark between the two of you. In essence, the second date is actually just as important as the first one. So don’t screw it up. Guys, here are some tips to help you plan a second date any girl would be wild about. 1. Be...

Yes, going on a date can be a frightening experience. Feeling anxious, nervous — even nauseous — is completely normal. There are a number of ways to calm your nerves before a date, however, so you can go out feeling your most confident, ready to have a good time. While I always advocate alcohol in moderation on dates, I also know a little wine can really take the edge off. I’m not talking about swigging back an...

Is there anything more common than having a friend who wants to set you up with someone they know who is “perfect” for you? These dates may not always end as perfectly as everyone hopes, but they aren’t all bad either. Before you agree to your next blind date, take a look over the following pros and cons to decide whether the potential upsides outweigh the potential downsides! Pro: Your friend knows you well,...

There really is no way to candy coat this one. Ladies, having sex on the first date is an absolute no-no. It’s not “wrong” per se, but it shows a man that you don’t have enough self-respect or self-restraint to wait until you’re in a committed relationship to make whoopee. This isn’t the ‘60s – there’s no longer such a thing as free love. These days, you have to worry about HIV and AIDS, Hepatitis B, Gonorrhea,...

Nothing puts a spark into a relationship like that magical first kiss. Still, it’s hard for a woman to know if it’s too soon. Is it appropriate to kiss on the first date? Is it OK for a girl to make the first move? How should she go about it? What is the man going to think? Slow down. Unless you’re still in high school, kissing on the first date is perfectly acceptable, though not required. Just keep a few...

Good news! She was enchanted by your great smile and boyish charm, and you landed that first date. Now the game plan is to turn that first date into a second one. Of course, a great date is the best way to get the next date, but never lose sight of the fact women live by instinct, comfort and feelings — not by going through the motions of a date that looks good on paper. 1. Set the mood. The magic must begin the...

Franklin P. Jones, an American humorist, once said, “You are what you eat. For example, if you eat garlic, you’re apt to be a hermit.” Most dates involve food. Whether it’s a picnic lunch, dinner at a fancy restaurant or hot dogs at a ballgame, a meal out is often times the centerpiece of a date. And because food is really an excuse to sit down with someone and get to know them better, there are do’s and don’ts when...

First dates are intimidating events, to say the least. In fact, first dates are often more frightening and stressful than any other moment early on in a relationship. Even the fear and tension surrounding approaching men doesn’t come close to the discomfort most people associate with first dates. After all, by the time you get to a first date, you are suddenly dealing with very real stakes. There is a budding...

We’ve all been at a restaurant with a date having a terrible, horrible, no good, very bad time. This is most likely to happen on the ever–feared, usually awkward, crapshoot of a first date, but it’s also been known to happen from date two on up. Picture it: You. Him. The Olive Garden. The only thing keeping you sane is the glorious, bottomless, never-ending basket of buttery garlic bread being brought to the table....

There are a lot of women who struggle with being shy and wish they could be more outgoing. They find it almost impossible to do away with their perpetually bashful disposition, however, and often carry their shyness to the extreme. For a man, I imagine this can be quite frustrating. Getting a woman to come out of her shell and interact with you can be very difficult, especially if she is naturally timid or...

We’ve all been there – the dreaded first date and a bad first date at that! If you’ve found yourself in a situation where you realize the person isn’t the one for you, you can politely end the date. There’s no sense in wasting either of your time if you get a red flag early on. Remember, it is wise to meet someone at a public place for a first date. That way, you can leave in your own car if you so desire. There’s...

First dates are like first impressions – you only get one time to do it right. When most of us think of the first date, we typically envision a meal or coffee being involved. This type of one-on-one interaction leaves a lot of room for conversation, which, of course, is the whole point. But it’s nerve-racking nonetheless! Being prepared with some basic conversation topics can really help move a conversation along...

Who doesn’t like to look their best on a date? I mean, if the point of dating is to spend time with someone you’re attracted to in hopes of forming some kind of lasting connection, of course you’re going to put your best self forward. But are you sure that’s what you’re doing? What does your dating wardrobe say about you? Wanting to find someone who loves your for all of your amazing qualities is a given, but...

Sorry, guys, I’m old-fashioned and I still say the guy should pay on the first date. Even if she asks you out and promises to pay, when the check comes, surprise her and insist on taking care of the bill. This is not to say you should have to pay for every date. I do not believe a man should have to break the bank to get to know a woman of interest. She should pay on occasion, too. But, you will win some serious...

Body language! I can’t stress it enough. You will know when it’s right to kiss for the first time if you pay attention to your date’s body language. Guys, if a girl’s rolling her eyes at every joke you’ve told and her legs are swung away from you, don’t go in for the kiss. If your date has been giggling and smiling all night, touches your shoulder or hand lightly and continues...

Men and women should always structure their first dates with this worst-case scenario in mind. Instead of committing to a long night of dinner and a movie with someone you aren’t sure you’re attracted to, arrange for a short and casual date where you meet for coffee or a drink. If you feel attracted to your date after getting to know each other for half an hour, then you can continue on and grab food, see a movie...

The answer depends on the girl’s age and experience and also on the level of romance and chemistry you developed during the course of your first date. It’s important to pay attention throughout the date so you can pick up on signs that will help you know the answer. Here are a few guidelines that might help: • Did you already discuss or set up a second date, or did she say you should see or do something...

There are cardinal sins when it comes to first dates — things so inexcusable a second date will never see the light of day. Then there are the things that seem like permanent deal-breakers but after further analysis, could be forgiven. How do you know when to break ties forever? And how do you know when to give it another go? We’ve compiled a rundown of three first date faux pas and a little insight into the...

So you’re on your umpteenth first date in the last month and instead of responding to your date’s questions in an exciting and charming way, you catch yourself repeating your go-to answers like a bored teenager practicing a Shakespearean monologue for English class. It’s true first dates can become repetitive, especially if you’ve been single and looking for a while. But there are ways to break up the monotony...

In today's dating scene, it's not uncommon that more girls are wanting to take control and call the guys after a date. If you had a great time and can't wait to tell him, I recommend texting him after the date to let him know you got home OK and you had a lot of fun getting to know him. Leave it at that. But after a couple of days, if he hasn't called you yet, you can call him to let him know you were thinking...

Ways to fix things: duct tape, Gorilla glue, staples, twine, nails, screws, rope, paper clips and “I’m sorry.” For a man who has made a string of first date blunders, there are ways, but no guarantees, to try and make up for it. Let’s look at a few different scenarios and then offer words of wisdom on how Prince Charming/the frog can bounce back after screwing up. Scenario: You got drunk, talked about an...