Let's Talk First Date (Page 6)

Every date should be unique and fresh if you want to make it special. You can’t avoid every night club or restaurant you ever went to with a previous girlfriend, but you do need to avoid sliding a new girl into the exact same slot your ex once filled. If everything is the same except the girl, then you might be reliving your former life and missing out on the special qualities of your new girlfriend. Make it a...

So you’ve got yet another first date lined up and you’ve done all your usual preparations: Got a new haircut, splurged on a sweet shirt from Men’s Wearhouse and prepared your go-to first date anecdotes. You know, the ones where you regale your date with stories about your political know-how, sexual experiences and religious beliefs all before your drinks have reached the table? Guys, I know first dates can become...

Dating and drinking go together like, well, a horse and carriage. But how much is too much for a man to drink on the first date? Does it really affect her impression of you? What if she’s drinking right along with you? What if you can handle your alcohol? Good questions, all. There are few things that can settle your first date jitters like a nice glass of wine or other "social lubricant." But there is also very...

You know that old saying "Judge a man by the shoes he wears"? Well, why stop there? Guys, chances are when you’re out on a date with a lady, she’s judging a lot more than your shoes. And I don’t mean that in a shallow, materialistic way. But when you’ve just met someone and the conversation lulls here and there, it can be hard not to take notice of a man’s clothes and grooming habits. Compared to men, women...

Reader Question: I met a girl two months ago. She was great, lots of chemistry. We had our first date but it didn’t have anywhere near the spark like when we first met. When I saw her again, I completely fell for her and it completely ruined my confidence. How do I get that spark back without coming on too strong? -J.B. (Alaska) Dr. Wendy Walsh's Answer: Let me get this straight. When you met by chance and...

Guys, when it comes to planning a first date, heed my warning: You better get it right or you might cancel any hope of getting a second date. Planning a great first date can be a tricky proposition if you’re not a natural-born Casanova or generally romantic guy. In a sincere attempt to wow your girl with a good time, you may make the mistake of planning a bad date, one that is not conducive to a productive...

Getting a first date is a piece of cake in comparison to getting a second. The main goal of the first date is to get to know each other and see if there’s enough chemistry to bother with a second date. So what happens when you realize the guy sends your heart aflutter and you really, really want to see him again? Nothing, if you don’t play your cards right! Getting beyond the first date means blowing him away...

Every 50-year love affair begins with a first date. This first official time of being "with" a new man often contorts your mind and emotions in ways that are very intimidating and nerve-racking, leaving a woman (and her date) feeling scared and vulnerable. Still, all good things must overcome the discomfort that comes with "square one." Take some time to think about your date before it happens, realize the man is...

If you’ve recently been on more than one date that didn’t lead to a second date, something’s wrong. While there are a number of legitimate reasons a woman doesn’t follow up for a second date – reasons that have nothing to do with you  – it is usually an indication that you need a fresh approach. Usually a woman doesn’t give you a second date because she identified a red flag on the first one. Remember, when women...

Going on a first date with a man you really like can be pretty nerve-racking. Not only are you going to worry about those largely uncontrollable elements of your first date (whether you two will share good conversation, whether you’re compatible, whether things will go the way you want them to), you will also find yourself stressing out endlessly about all those little things you do have control of. And few of...

Even two people with a lifetime of experiences can hit a road block when first date jitters cause them to draw a blank on topics for conversation. So, it’s a good idea to have a few ideas up your sleeve to keep the chatter going smoothly on that important first official date. Comparing irritable bowel symptoms with Jeannie next door may be a stimulating topic at home, but you don’t want to find yourself falling...

If you’re looking for love as a senior lady, chances are it’s your second time around playing the field. But unlike riding a bike, dating is something that needs to be relearned, especially today with online dating, email, texting and video chatting. Negotiating the dating world in the 21st century can create a lot of first date anxiety for women in their 50s, 60s, 70s and beyond. Let’s look at a fictional example...

Dating from the comfort of your couch, hidden behind a computer screen and mouse, is a lot less intimidating than putting on your best duds and meeting a woman out for dinner. Here are a few tips to plan for a date after only meeting and talking online — the next step in pursuing a potential relationship. 1. Wait a week or two. Once you’ve established a connection with a woman via an online dating site, it’s...

You’ve met a great guy, you’ve communicated with him, things are going well, and you’re about to go on a first date with him! But once the good vibes wear off, you’re going to find yourself facing a daunting question: What the hell are you going to talk about on your date? Don’t worry, answering this question doesn’t need to be stressful or nerve-racking. There’s nothing written that first dates need to be...

Whether you’ve been out of the closet for six months or six years, planning a killer first date is a must. After all, you only have one chance to make a great first impression. No matter if this is a blind date or a first one-on-one meeting following an online relationship, here are five first date ideas to knock his socks off. 1. Picnic Depending on your local terrain, plan a romantic picnic with artisan cheeses,...

Being nervous before a first date is to be expected. After all, there are countless of unknown factors that accompany a first date. What if he doesn’t like you? What if you don’t like him? What if you say something stupid? Each factor has the potential to create a lifelong memory you’d do anything to forget. Yes, facing the first date requires the courage of a warrior and the can-do spirit of a fierce and fabulous...

First dates are uncomfortable. Maybe she hates the restaurant. Maybe she hates your perfume. Maybe she just hates you. Once you’ve gotten passed your parents' occupations and favorite colors, it’s easy for anyone to have to fight the urge to flee. Being gay can sometimes make dating even trickier. Before you condemn yourself to a life of cats and quiet reading, take heed of a few tips that could help keep your...

Women notoriously obsess over what to wear on any given day and on any given occasion, and this feminine concern only intensifies under high-pressure events such as dates. While some women don’t obsess over their clothing choices, and some certainly fixate on their wardrobe selections just as much as the most stereotypical fashionista, it’s safe to say the average woman worries a lot more about how she dresses on...

Judging someone’s character is difficult and certainly not something you can accomplish after one or two dates. It can take a lifetime to truly get to know someone and understand what makes them tick. Even then, do we ever really know someone? Nevertheless, there are certain cues you can look for when you’re on a date to determine at least some important aspects of his personality. For instance, if your date is...

How many times have we reflected on missed opportunities and foolish mistakes we made during our dating years and thought, “If I only knew then what I know now.” The beauty of starting over again after all these years is that now you do know all the things you didn’t know when you were young, so this time around should be smooth sailing by comparison. Still, it’s not easy to dust off the old charm and bring the...

Reader Question: My best friend tried to set me up with one of her boyfriend's friends on a double date. However, it was cancelled due to my friend's boyfriend's schedule. So we rescheduled it for a couple days later, but then we tried to do something else that same day. However, when we had that plan, the guy said he couldn't because he was making dinner. So does this guy not want to see me? (He did say I was cute...

It's funny that there are some things in life that never seem to leave us, one of which is that feeling of anxiety we all experience when we’re getting ready for a first date. After a long time of dating women and engaging in relationships with the fairer sex, a man should logically be able to take a girl out for coffee without stressing about the occasion’s outcome. However, the heart and gut are anything but...

American author and humorist, Mark Twain, once said, “Age is an issue of mind over matter. If you don’t mind, it doesn’t matter.” What Twain meant is that age is only a number and doesn’t determine how young or old you feel. Take dating for example. There’s no rule saying you shouldn’t date past a certain age. Look at Hugh Hefner. The octogenarian hasn’t slowed down his libido one bit, even going as far as dating...

So you’ve met this amazing guy. The two of you have been chatting online for over two weeks and he finally asks you out to dinner. As in, a man and a woman sitting across from a table together — in the flesh — and eating a meal. As in, not downing a pint of ice cream as you type sweet nothings from across town. Anyway, this awesome dude’s invited you out to dinner, you say yes and now you’re completely freaking...

We only get one chance at a first date, so be prepared and keep your eye on the prize the whole time. The first date may not determine if there will be a relationship, but it does determine if there will be a second date. This is the time to be a doting Prince Charming, so make sure you’re up to the task. These do’s and don’ts might help: 1. Do clean up. Show her you take this date seriously. Shower, shave,...

German author Emil Ludwig once said, “The decision to kiss for the first time is the most crucial one in any love story.” This pretty much sums up how I feel about kissing. A kiss is not an obligation — it’s not the customary way to end a date. A kiss should mean something. It should have feelings and emotion behind it. If you are looking for a gentle way of saying, “That date did nothing for me, but you seem like a...

No matter if you’re lesbian, gay, bisexual or straight, dating poses uncomfortable and unsure situations for all of us. But for a shy or timid lesbian looking for love, it can be a bit more difficult. After all, gay women have to consider more than just a wedding ring when it comes to meeting a potential partner. So whether you’ve been out of the closet for 10 years or just 10 months, here are some tips to boost your...

The second time’s the charm when it comes to dating.  First dates often begin with so much tension and worry that it’s hard to let your mind go and just have a good time. Then once the ice is finally broken, you’re both still so wound up that everything seems hilarious and you spend the rest of the night with huge smiles plastered on your mugs. The first touch or kiss from a new guy carries an amazing tingle, just...

Guys, if you’re wondering how to get a girl to kiss you or you're waiting for her to make a move, you may be waiting a mighty long time. Most women, me included, have been instructed that a man is supposed to initiate the first kiss. When it comes to dating advice, I continue to instruct other women to wait for a man to kiss her, because it’s just the natural order of things as they pertain to dating and...

Swedish Golden Screen siren Ingrid Bergman once said, “A kiss is a lovely trick designed by nature to stop speech when words become superfluous.” There are members of American society who think a woman initiating a first date kiss means she’s “easy.” On the same token, a man who does the same is seen as “aggressive.” This slice of the American pie is stuck in the dark ages. It’s completely acceptable to kiss on...