Let's Talk First Date (Page 5)

You’re a motivated midlife single looking for love online with a fellow baby boomer single. You invested in great photographs. You plunked down your hard-earned cash and invested further in yourself by paying the membership fees at one of the better senior online dating sites. You searched for great potential dates. You were proactive about communicating with the other attractive singles at the mature dating...

When a first date goes well, you couldn't feel better. It's a high that makes dating worth it. You go away feeling excited about the prospect of seeing that person again, smiling to yourself over the things you said, the laughs you had and the looks you might have been daring enough to exchange. You might even get excited if you get a text message afterward, confirming it really did go as well as you hoped. Those...

You’re brimming with excitement as you prepare to go out on your first date with that interesting guy. The mystery and intrigue of the unknown makes those first encounters with a dating prospect exhilarating and full of possibility. But what do you do when you soon discover during your meeting with him that he’s not really boyfriend material? This scenario is one of those dating dilemmas that is often mishandled,...

“Did my first date go well?” It’s one of the most common questions I get while working with The Art of Charm. It’s an important question. A first date sets the tone for an entire relationship. If it doesn’t go right, it’s going to be harder to get subsequent dates to go the way you want them to. If it’s a smash hit, the rest of your dates are going to be a lot easier and will go a lot smoother. Still, it’s...

RIDGEFIELD, Conn. - Can we really tell if our date is having a good time? Stephany Sanderson, 33, remembers when one first date didn't go as well as she thought it had. “I went on a date with this guy who I was totally into,” she said. “I had a few too many wines and ended up spilling way too much personal information on that first date. Needless to say, he didn’t return my phone call after that. I guess I gave...

When it comes to senior dating, both men and women are wondering what is the modern singles expectation at the end of a first date? Part of it depends on which age cluster you are in. 45 years+ Over 50 mate seekers 55–early sexagenarian singles Most men born in the 1950s, 1960s and 1970s are still inclined to be chivalrous. They were raised on the behavior that a man pays for dates. Total cost of...

Even if the chemistry you are feeling on a first date is out of this world, it’s probably best to hold off on sleeping with someone (no matter how awesome he may be). Although some relationships do last, whether or not you sleep with someone on the first date, Dating with Dignity has a few smart reasons not to do it. 1. A test. Waiting to sleep with someone is kind of a loose "test" to see if you have the...

A few days ago, I spoke to a woman named Stacey who shared the story of her younger brother. He's a guy with a stable job. He's a fantastic uncle to her kids, he feeds the homeless on Wednesday nights, and he’s a perfect gentleman to friends, co-workers and even strangers. He exercises regularly, eats healthy and has no criminal record (that should give him 50 bonus points right there). All in all, he's a good guy...

Reader Question: I met this girl last summer at the fast food restaurant I was working at. Last week I asked her if she didn't have anything for Valentine's Day planned. She asked me if it was a date, and I said, "Would you like for it to be a date?" She replied with a "Sure :)" We walked around for a bit and were having almost nonstop conversations. I pulled out a bouquet of roses and presented them to her. She...

After an amazing online romance, text jokes and a few three-hour soul-to-soul phone sessions, you’re getting ready to meet that special guy for a real first date. You look in the mirror and nothing seems right. You notice the bulges around your thighs and the gap between your front teeth. What are you going to talk about? Good grief! You feel like you’re all the way back in high school. There is nothing quite as...

Reader Question: What should I answer to the guy who just wants to have sex on the first date...in case I like him and don’t want to rush? -Rose (Thailand) Dr. Wendy Walsh's Answer: Dear Rose, You should tell him clearly you are attracted to him but you do not want to have sex with him because you’d rather build a strong friendship first. Tell him people who have sex within 30 days of meeting have about a 90...

Reader Question: Should I have a first date before Valentine's Day and then a second date on Valentine's Day? Or should I wait until Valentine's Day to set up a first date? -Derek (California) Dr. Wendy Walsh's Answer: Dear Derek, Valentine's Day is kind of a “Hallmark Holiday” where people are pressured to express love. I think it can add a lot of unnecessary pressure to a first date. I mean, you don’t even...

I’ll start this with a story from my dating past. I was chatted up online by a witty, charming chap. We spoke on the phone and arranged to meet for date. Now my normal dating strategy was to meet for a coffee and a chat. However, he wanted to take me out for a meal at his favorite restaurant. I relented and agreed. We were to meet in a bar first and then go to the restaurant. I felt OK with the date until I...

For once, the guy has lived up to expectations. He was charming. You found him attractive. You even laughed out loud together. You want to see him again. The fact your first date went well is good news. But hold on a minute before you start telling all your friends you’ve found Mr. Right. These early flights of feeling are fantastic, and enjoy them. It's all real and part of the joy of life. But it may not,...

One attribute of dapper men and sartorial dressers is these men wear a cologne or aftershave that makes a favorable first impression. They wear a signature scent or might even have a selection of great scents which captivate the olfactory perception of women. Entice more of her senses with your masculine presence to increase feelings of attraction to you from her. Your scent should touch and appeal to her nose. I’m...

So let's say you met a great woman online on a senior dating site like OurTime. And after some messaging, you finally landed that first date. You were a gentleman. You asked her out, showed up on time, and paid for the first date. Good job! You’re taking proactive steps toward finding love and companionship. But maybe that first date wasn't quite what you were expecting. Truth be told, she’s an attractive and...

You two spotted each other on a senior singles site, flirted for a week and arranged to meet for a first date within two weeks of connecting. You dressed up, wearing that cute cocktail dress you bought at Neiman’s last month, and you’re looking your best. You both showed up and did your best body language flirting, but to tell the truth, there just weren't any sparks for you. He’s a nice enough guy. There’s...

Online dating is one of the best ways to meet women. You always have an endless supply of women who are looking for love.  In order to be successful at online dating, however, you need to avoid these seven key mistakes men make when they meet someone for the very first time. So let's talk today about the biggest mistakes people make in those first meetings and how you can avoid them so you can have fun dating online...

Before we cover what are some fun and engaging conversation topics for a first date for senior single women, let me first help you out with some clear instructions for one of the topics to avoid at your first meeting if you ever hope to develop your social life and go on more second dates. Don’t share photos of your grandchildren. Leave photographs of your grandchildren at home. Even if your date mentioned his...

Whether you’re meeting your lady this evening after meeting in the offline real world or you two met on an online dating site, as a senior single man, there are a number of things you want to bring with you on dates (particularly on a first date) for senior dating success! 1. Your smile. If you are new to dating again as a senior single guy, you may be feeling out of practice with dating in the 21st century and may...

You’ve got a date. A proper, full-on date. This could be the start of that perfect relationship. You could soon be writing out wedding invitations, looking at buying a house together and picking out a cute fluffy puppy to complete your happy union. You've trashed your bedroom trying to find the right outfit, the bathroom looks like it’s exploded, and you’ve spent the last three days in the gym trying to perfect that...

Reader Question: I went on a first date. He was nice, cute, and we had good conversation. Then we decided to go to the movies. On the way there, he seemed nervous. I kept the conversation going, but every so often, he would do this movement. In the movie theater, I realized it was a nervous tic (flicking his ear, twitch of the head to the left). I got a bit uncomfortable since it was every 30 to 40 seconds. He...

Guys, now is not the time to dress too casually. You’ve gone to all that trouble to join a great online dating site for senior singles. You got some great photos. You’ve posted a profile. You searched the profiles of the single senior ladies at the site and emailed a number of them. You finally asked one special lady out, maybe even two or three. Congratulations, you’ve landed a first date! You’re gearing up for...

Guys, I cannot stress to you enough the importance of looking good on a first date. Dress to impress, honey. Your date is sizing you up from the minute you walk through the door, and you don’t want to give her any reason to question your hot-guy status. What is she looking for? Any indication that you are a zero she should drop to find a hero. That’s OK — it’s always better to be looked over than overlooked! Don’t...

Like any first date, you need to first evaluate the type of person you’re going to be going out with. Here are seven types of women and great first date ideas to sweep them off their feet: 1. The sexy type. Why not think outside the box and take her to a pole dancing class? It’s a quirky way to get to know someone and get in your cardio. You don’t have to dress too sexy, just wear cute sweats and be yourself. 2....

Dating is like most things in life — practice makes perfect. And when it comes to fine-tuning your dating techniques, nothing helps more than a little real life experience. But what does that really mean? What are some specific tips lesbian women can use to improve their dating techniques? Let’s take a closer look. 1. The intro. Before the actual dating begins, you must first meet a potential mate. Introducing...

If you worry about what foods you should or shouldn’t order when on a first date, join the club! Pretty much every woman feels some level of stress looking over a menu on a first date, worrying about how their choice of entree will make them feel and whether their man will judge them according to what they choose to order. Ladies, you're already stressed about what to wear and what to say so don't feel intimidated...

Conversation is nothing more than verbal ping pong. One person serves, the other returns and the volley continues. Periodically, a new serve sets the exchange on a new course. Of course, both players need to keep their paddles up and make the effort to send the ball back to the other court. Meeting new people always presents challenges when it comes to getting the ball rolling — or bouncing. First dates, online...

It’s the 21st century. Heck, it’s dawning of the third millennium. Women have evolved to the point where they are on an equal footing with men in every way. Unfortunately, your male counterparts are not as evolved. You can break through the glass ceiling at work and be taken serious as the top dog, but when it comes to dating etiquette (like following up with your guy after a first date), you still have to dance...

American chef and food writer James Beard once said, "Food is our common ground, a universal experience." Put simply, everyone eats. And for something like a first date where food is the centerpiece, what you eat, how you eat it and where you eat it lets a woman get to know a piece of your psyche. There are virtually hundreds to thousands of restaurant choices in any given town or city. Guys, when planning a first...