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Everyone's first gay sexual experience is different. It could be a private chat on a  gay hookup site, or it could be a spontaneous makeout session or oral sex with a friend. People usually say, “I’ve known I was gay my whole life.” This may be true for some, but it doesn’t necessarily happen to every gay guy.   I didn't know I was gay my whole life, per se, but I’ve always known I was different and...

I have learned to understand and manage my (once extreme) jealousy since my partner and I opened up our relationship, which is why I wanted to provide some information on how to manage jealousy. Even if you are in a monogamous relationship, it is important to have a handle on how you manage and express your jealousy. Hopefully these ideas are helpful to you, too. 1. Accept jealousy as a common emotion. It's...

Wow, that’s a big question isn’t it? It's sort of loaded with nervous tension and excitement. It really is exciting when you meet a lesbian you are attracted to and she feels the same about you. It just doesn’t happen often enough. When that chemistry finally shows up, it’s hard not to just jump into bed. As a dating expert and coach, I don’t tell my clients when they should have sex for the first time. You are...

This is an exclusive study conducted by DatingAdvice.com, which surveyed respondents over the course of three weeks to reflect an accurate representation of the U.S. population. Is the saying “Two’s company, three’s a crowd” really true? Actually, it looks like some Americans think three’s company, too. According to a study conducted by DatingAdvice.com, 19% of Americans say they’ve had a threesome. The results...

How hard a couple works at sexually satisfying each other may help keep their desire burning in the long run. Conducted at the University of Toronto, a study found couples with a higher motivation toward fulfilling their partner’s needs have higher overall levels of desire from day to day. Published in the May issue of Social Psychological and Personality Science, the study involved 44 men and women ranging in ages...

Something everyone wants to know about is sex with more than two people, also known as threesomes and moresomes. If you are part of a couple and are interested in adding a third (or fourth or more) for some sexual hotness, make sure you are communicating with your partner about your desires and interests. For a broader discussion about opening up your relationship, see my other related article on that topic. You...

Can listening to a new song excite you just as much as a sexual encounter? A study, which was published in the journal Science, found hearing new music activates parts of the brain at levels comparable to those displayed when someone is anticipating sex. Researchers studied 19 participants, who listened to 60 song excerpts broken down into 30-second clips. MRI scans were performed on the subjects as they listened....

This is an exclusive study conducted by DatingAdvice.com, which surveyed respondents over the course of three weeks to reflect an accurate representation of the U.S. population. Most people remember the scene from “When Harry Met Sally” in which Meg Ryan faked an orgasm in a deli to prove she could make it look like the real thing. As it turns out, men in real life may be just as good at faking it. In a sweeping...

You really like a woman and want to take things to the next level physically, but you're scared to make a move just in case she doesn't feel the same. Guys, has this ever happened to you? Looking for some adult fun? You'll meet tons of women ready to hook up on NaughtyCharm. Here are six signs a woman just might want to have sex with you after all! 1. She Comes Over Generally speaking, we all know...

Similar to how people have long gauged their wealth against the riches of others, a new study suggests there's a correlation between happiness and a self-perceived, better-than-average love life. Published in the February edition of Social Indicators Research, the findings suggest happiness levels may be linked to feeling more sexually successful than others. Conducted by Tim Wadsworth, an associate professor of...

“Teen Mom” star Farrah Abraham recently made a sex tape with the reigning king of porn, James Deen. The sex tape has become a rite of passage for Z-grade television stars, but what about the average dude looking to capture his own sex life on video? I’m going to cover the ins and outs of getting your girl naked and crazy on camera with you. 1. Bring her into your porn life. Are you still watching porn alone?...

Sex among girls and boys ages 13 or younger may not be as common as public perception would have you believe. A study conducted by the Guttmacher Institute in New York found less than 1 percent of women said they were 11 years old the first time they had sex. Another 1 percent said they were 12 years old when they first had sex and 2 percent said they were 13. Unfortunately, the majority of sex among the young...

At some point, the threesome became the gold standard for male sexual fantasies. Two beautiful women and you — what’s not to like? While many men daydream about a fantasy life with two women, fewer are able to bring this dream to fruition. There are basically three ways a threesome happens: 1. You and your girl add a third wheel 2. You hook up with a couple random strangers 3. You become a third wheel in someone...

How common is it for the average American man to pay for sex? A study coming out of the University of Portland found 14% of American men have paid for sex and 1% of those men had done so in the previous year. What’s more, the study found nothing statistically abnormal about the 14% of men who reported hiring a prostitute at some point in their lives. However, the study did find common trends among the 1% of men...

How easy is it to identify the sexual roles of a gay couple? According to a study, all you need is a picture. Published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior, the study found the average person, whether they’ve had gay sex or not, can easily identify sexual roles between two gay men in a relationship, even based on minimal information. Researchers asked participants to identify whether a man was the top or bottom in...

As a talk show host and one of the faces of The Art of Charm, I speak to thousands of guys every year, many of whom entrust me with their darkest secrets, demons and insecurities. One of the most common fears, by FAR, is a woman will not think he's good in bed or he won't be able to please his wife or girlfriend. Of course, if you're a two-pump chump, can't get it up or think the labia is a country in Africa,...

According to a University of Michigan study, when gay couples make, and stand by, sexual agreements, they are helping prevent the spread of HIV and other sexually transmitted diseases. However, the study found only 57% of gay couples acknowledge that they have a sexual agreement and nearly half of the couples break their agreement. Researchers said many men are afraid to admit they broke their agreement, which may...

Let's talk about sex! Want all your sex questions answered? Our 10 Best Sex and Dating Experts can help you out. These men and women know all the tips and tricks to having a satisfying sex life. Emily Morse BEST OF Bragging Rights: Practices what she preaches A sex and relationship...

When you’re putting yourself out there on the dating market, it’s important to know your relationship goals. Do you want a long-term, committed relationship? Are you happy to have a quick fling? "If you scored high on the long-term strategies, you likely have a secure attachment style." No matter your goals, it’s important your relationship goals are in line with your sexual strategies. The biggest...

According to a study coming out of the University of Kansas, 28% of men and 67% of women fake orgasms, but they fake it for different reasons. Researchers studied the sex lives of 281 undergraduates (180 men and 101 women) and found men and women fake orgasms depending on the scenario. "Men were more likely to fake it when they were feeling bored or wanted sex to end." Both men and women are most likely to fake...

Reader Question: I'm a 62-year-old widower. I was married for 31 years. It's now four years after my wife's passing. I am anxious to begin dating again, but my concern is I was born with a micro penis. I am reluctant to go through the embarrassment and rejection all over again. Any advice for me? -Steve (Florida) Dr. Wendy Walsh's Answer: Dear Steve, I know men really, really get concerned about their...

According to a study published in the Journal of Research in Personality, the more a woman wants sex, the higher she raises her standards when dating. Coming out of Bar-Ilan University in Israel, the study found women with high sex drives were much more selective about who they’d choose for a short-term relationship than women with low sex drives. By contrast, men with both high and low sex drives preferred...

One common gay dating dilemma revolves around whether to have sex on the first date or not. This has often been a controversial subject among gay men, with opinions being  split right down the middle. There’s not necessarily a right or wrong answer, as these types of scenarios are rarely ever black and white. The decision to “hit the sheets” after having a superb first date before the night is over is a personal...

Does building a great body naturally lead to a great sex life? According to an interesting study, your level of fitness and your body image play a big role in how satisfied you feel between the sheets. The study, which was published in the Electronic Journal of Human Sexuality, found fitness level and body image account for 44% of women's and 21% of men's sexual confidence and satisfaction. While both men and women...

So you're feeling pressured to have sex in the gay world? Here are some things to consider: Being picky Delaying the game "Will he call me tomorrow if I give him the goods?" "Will I get labeled a 'ho' if anyone finds out?" In the gay dating world, the pressure to have sex is very high. Gay men don't play around and will tell you right away what they want. If you don't give it to them, then they'll find...

How much do Facebook “Likes” reveal about a person? Researchers at the University of Cambridge found they were able to determine a user's sexual orientation, gender, intelligence quotient, political and religious beliefs, and substance use with 80% accuracy. The study reviewed 55,814 user “Likes” and used this data to make startlingly accurate predictions about each user’s personality traits and personal...

Reader Question: I have liked this guy since September. We hooked up once on a random night but continued talking. I partied with him and his best friend who I ended up hooking up with because the guy I like was acting so cold. Now I'm killing myself thinking I ruined everything. Should I apologize? -Chanel (Calgary) Dr. Wendy Walsh's Answer: Dear Chanel, Darling girl, you can’t take back a...

Research found having children can negatively impact a couple's relationship, especially a couple’s sex life. The study found four out of 10 new mothers and fathers find their partner less attractive after having children, while more than 60% of couples stated they had more fights and less sex after childbirth. After having children, 28% of couples reported having sex once a month, 5 percent reported having sex...

How common is hooking up among college and high school students? According to research studies, 60 to 80 percent of American college students and 61 percent of sexually active high school students have had some sort of hookup experience. The research, which is soon to be published in the book "The End of Sex: How Hookup Culture is Leaving a Generation Unhappy, Sexually Unfulfilled, and Confused About Intimacy,"...

Can daily sex make you smarter? That depends on how long you’ve been with your partner, according to a study coming out of the University of Pavia in Italy. The study found daily sex increased nerve growth in the brain, which is linked to both increased memory and increased mental alertness. Researchers also found individuals who were in new relationships where they recently fell in love with their partners...