Let's Talk Attraction (Page 7)

What in God’s name did 26-year-old Guess model Anna Nicole Smith see in 89-year-old businessman J. Howard Marshall? Probably the same thing 26-year-old pin-up girl Crystal Harris sees in 86-year-old Playboy mogul Hugh Hefner. You’re thinking it’s the age, right? The whole May-December thing. Well, look at Coco Austin and Ice-T (I guess that’s more of a May-August thing). What do these men and women have in...

Drops in testosterone indicate men are naturally wired to avoid pursuing their friends' romantic partners, according to a study. Coming out of the University of Missouri, the study found men’s testosterone levels actually drop when interacting with their friends' wives. Researchers said high testosterone levels correlate with increased sexual aggression. Conversely, low testosterone levels correlate with lowered...

How does confidence affect a man's dating life compared to appearance? A study by the University of Texas at Austin found the more attractive a man thinks he is, the more women he thinks want to sleep with him, regardless of whether he actually looks as good as he thinks. Conversely, women seem to have a better sense of their looks. Researchers found attractive women knew they were attractive and less attractive...

Friendships between men and woman are often fraught with difficulties when attraction enters the picture. However, research shows male and female friendships become even more unbalanced when existing romantic relationships are taken into consideration. The study, which was conducted by the University of Wisconsin-Eau Claire, consisted of 88 pairs of male and female friends. Researchers split the men and women up...

You’ve seen the average guy with the hot woman and wondered, "Why is she with him?" And you probably envied him and thought, "Now why can’t that be me?!" News flash to all single men out there: You do not have to be the hot, good-looking guy to win over a beautiful woman! As a matchmaker and dating coach, I have interviewed thousands of single women and, believe it or not, women are actually much less superficial...

Research reveals ovulation may cause women to think attractive but unreliable men will make good fathers and life partners. Published in the the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 33 female participants, at both the high and low points of their fertility cycle, were randomly assigned to view pictures or biological profiles of either a "sexy man" or a "reliable man." Researchers asked these women to...

A series of studies conducted by the University of Glasgow found women with concerns about health and disease prefer men with macho facial features, deeper voices and muscular bodies. Benedict Jones and his researchers wanted to study the ways in which pathogen disgust might influence a woman's preferences in men. Pathogen disgust refers to sensitivities about health and disease. Previous research has found that in...

Since I’ve already discussed how I recommend senior single men to dress for a first date, here’s some help for their single midlife counterparts. Motivated singles want to date other quality singles. How you show up dressed for your first date communicates this immediately to your mature date. Are you sending the right signals to him? Whatever your politics may be, I have to cite Hillary Clinton for making it...

According to a study published in the Journal of Research in Personality, the more a woman wants sex, the higher she raises her standards when dating. Coming out of Bar-Ilan University in Israel, the study found women with high sex drives were much more selective about who they’d choose for a short-term relationship than women with low sex drives. By contrast, men with both high and low sex drives preferred...

Do you find yourself in the friend zone often? How many times have you met a woman, became interested in her and asked her out, only to find yourself hearing her tell you these words: “You know you're cool, but I just can't see us as more than friends.” It's driving you crazy, isn't it? You take her out to dinner, spend some money and go in for the kiss, but she pushes you away. She doesn't want anything more than...

The days are getting longer, the temperature is rising and soon millions of people will begin a summer romance. Why is this so? Isn’t it just as common to snuggle and fall in love beside a warm fire on a cold night? Yes, it is, but the search for that cherished mate begins months before. Science tells us why. The Earth’s biological cycles can affect our physiology and our behavior. Seasonal change can be linked to...

According to a study, women choose romantic partners based on their financial security. In a recent study by the University of Queensland, researchers found women who were financially insecure preferred feminine-looking men, stating they felt the feminine men would make better providers and more committed partners than the masculine men. Researchers used software to make online dating profile pictures either more...

We coach thousands of people every year in their relationships, and one of the most popular questions we get from the ladies is, “How do I keep my man into me and not be another cheating statistic?” As two straight male experts, the ladies are always eager to step into our complex male brains during our live events to uncover the answer to this great question. Below are some of our top tips on how to keep your...

Women today hold high hopes for their dream man: "He’s smart, wealthy, athletic, sensitive, good looking, funny…" The list goes on and on and on. But, the truth is, it is impossible to find a human who is the full package. It's more like he has one dominant trait and a couple other delicious pieces in his personality. Here are a few general schemas of men. Most likely his dominant trait will fall into one of these...

Let's get open and real today. I'm going to ask you a question, and you're going to give me an honest answer. What is your eye contact like? Do you even know what your eye contact is like? Are you aware the eyes are the way to turn a woman on? Do you also realize the more powerful your eye contact is, the more quickly you’ll turn her on? Most guys suck at eye contact. When most guys approach a woman for the...

Since the beginning of time, people have searched for the most perfect aphrodisiac, some magical substance that will enhance libido and take erotic passion to new heights. Sadly, nothing has been proven to be truly effective, except for one tiny psychological trick I’m about to explain. A true aphrodisiac must stimulate sexual desire, not just because of some biological event. And anyone who manufactures a...

According to a study, good-looking men and women often have more control over the amount of commitment and sexual activity in a relationship. Elizabeth McClintock, a sociologist with the University of Notre Dame, found physically attractive women are more likely to form exclusive relationships than sexual relationships and are more likely to have less sexual partners. They are also less likely to have sexual...

Reader Question: I am in love with a woman I work with. I'm 24 and she just turned 31. She knows I'm crazy about her. I want to tell her I love her, but I can’t because I can tell it is not what she wants to hear. The main problem is she is a lesbian and has been since she was 24 or so. I respect that, but my head and heart knows what it wants. What should I do? -Erik (Minnesota) Dr. Wendy Walsh's...

A study on online dating found political affiliation is just as important, if not more, as education when it comes to choosing a mate. Researchers from the Stanford Graduate School of Business and Yale University found having shared political beliefs with matches increases messaging rates between 9.5 and 10.8%, which is nearly the same produced by shared educational levels at 10.6%. The study also found men and...

Men and women might have more in common than we tend to think, according to a gender study. By reanalyzing data from 13 studies, researchers from the University of Rochester found men and women are not as psychologically dissimilar as previous studies have suggested. Researchers performed a statistical analysis of 122 different characteristics, from empathy and sexuality, to science inclination and extroversion,...

Could the weather kill your game? A study coming out of the journal Social Influence tested to see if women were more likely to respond positively to flirting when the sun was out, compared to when skies were gray. According to the study’s results, sunny weather dramatically increases the chances a woman will give out her number. Women gave out their phone number 22.4% of the time on sunny days and 13.9% of the...

Why do women find men with low-pitched voices attractive? One theory states secondary sexual characteristics in men, such as low voices, indicate those men are more fertile than other men with less defined characteristics. A study funded by the Australian Research Council Professorial Fellowships tested this theory and found men with low-pitched voices actually had a lower concentration of sperm than men with...

Men and women may choose their preferred interracial partners based on what types of faces they find most attractive, according to a study. In both the U.S. and the U.K., the pairings found within interracial marriages divide along gender lines, with white women more likely to marry black men than vice versa and white men more likely to marry Asian women than vice versa. While most other studies on the subject...

Men often feel greater positive internal feedback when seeing attractive women than when receiving money, according to a new study. A study asked 18 heterosexual men to determine whether they would rather see a fuzzy picture of an attractive female or receive a small amount of money. The study found men received greater internal positive feedback when they chose to see an attractive woman than when they chose to...

One attribute of dapper men and sartorial dressers is these men wear a cologne or aftershave that makes a favorable first impression. They wear a signature scent or might even have a selection of great scents which captivate the olfactory perception of women. Entice more of her senses with your masculine presence to increase feelings of attraction to you from her. Your scent should touch and appeal to her nose. I’m...

Testosterone levels spike in the presence of mutual attraction, according to a study aiming to evaluate the hormonal profiles of speed daters. The study, coming out of the University of Michigan in Ann Arbor, found testosterone levels only increased when participants shared mutual attraction. One-sided attraction failed to produce a jump in testosterone levels in either participant. Researchers looked at the...

A study published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior found the slimmer a woman’s waist, the lower the chances her partner will experience impotence. Whether belly fat contributes to lowered female libido or whether men simply find thin female waists highly attractive, the study found a slender female midsection correlated directly with more frequent sex, stronger male sexual performance and more powerful feelings of...

To say the date was “hot” is an understatement. Entranced by the delicious whiff of compatible pheromones hovering over the candlelit table, the man and woman barely spoke. They did giggle in embarrassment and avert their eyes from time to time to break free from their longing eye lock. As the date progressed, they both felt goose bumps and flutters of exciting bio-chemicals in their stomachs. This is what...

No one likes to reject a potential partner, but a study found women are much more sensitive about hurting an unwanted suitor’s feelings than men. The study looked at the ways people turn down unwanted advances, asking participants how they would respond to a request for a date from someone they didn’t want to go out with. Participants were presented with a date request via email or online dating message and told to...

According to a study, the average modern woman would take a 1950s man over his 2013 counterpart. Men’s grooming brand Scaramouch & Fandango released the study's results, finding more than half of all modern women (61%) consider the 1950s man to be more attractive and desirable than a modern 21st century man. Women stated they appreciated the good grooming, good style and good manners of the quintessential 1950s...