Let's Talk Attraction (Page 6)

One of the most common questions I get from guys I am teaching is probably the most basic: What are women really attracted to? Let's be honest, what men are attracted to is pretty straightforward. Guys might differ in their particular tastes, but most guys know what qualities in a woman turn them on and what qualities turn them off. With women, attraction is more complex. Some women will find a man attractive from...

Could the popularity of online dating be contributing to greater polarization among people in the U.S.? A new study examined how online advances might be steering people only toward the politically like-minded, defying the old adage that opposites attract. Researchers looked at "positive mate assortation" where online daters consciously or subconsciously dispose of potential mates (or at least their profiles) based...

It's long been established in films and TV shows that men are the ones more likely to give in to temptation. Now experts are saying that depiction could be based on reality. In two new studies conducted by Paul Eastwick, of the University of Texas-Austin, and Natasha Tidwell, of Texas A&M University, men were found to be more likely to succumb to temptation, with researchers identifying the problem as one of...

Are you a frugal person? There may actually be sex appeal in being thrifty. According to new research, having the self-control to budget may be more attractive to potential partners over extravagant spending. The findings come as part of a study from the Ross School of Business at the University of Michigan, cleverly titled "A Penny Saved Is A Partner Earned," which was co-authored by Jenny G. Olson. The study...

There are a lot of things out there that will directly affect your success with women. The items on this list are probably the easiest and quickest things you can apply right now in order to get almost instant results. 1. Believe all women are equal. This is probably one of the best things you can EVER do. Think about the least attractive chick you’ve ever banged. Let’s say she was a five (out of 10) and that’s...

Your biology is ancient. Your Prius and Jimmy Choos may be new, but they cart around a biological control panel that's designed for your survival. And choosing a healthy mate increases the chances you will live a long life and your offspring will survive, too. Our cavewoman ancestors felt romantic love, but they also practiced rational love as a survival strategy. In fact, choosing a long-term mate based on...

You’re single and ready to mingle, but you can’t seem to seal the deal. In my nearly 10 years as a dating coach, I’ve discovered this means you’re in one of two categories. You’re either a "Watcher" or a "Pusher." Watchers are the quintessential nice guys. They’re so afraid of offending a girl, being rejected or getting a drink tossed in their face that they won’t make the initial approach. With online dating,...

When you think about what’s required to attract an amazing love relationship, what words come to your mind? Is it “sex appeal," “charm” or “allure"? How about “goofball” or “hilarious?” For anyone who’s ever considered what qualities are necessary to attract a partner, having a good sense of humor might not be among the first things you think of, and this is because most of us don’t associate love with levity. We...

Do you only buy purses, clothes and shoes with designer names on them? You may be sending a message to other women. According to new research, women may buy certain luxury items to specifically signal their committed relationship to competing women. Conducted at the University of Minnesota, the study involved 649 single and taken women of varying ages. The findings also revealed it does not matter who purchased...

It’s true: Being funny is a very attractive trait for a guy to have. It is often said if you can get a girl laughing, you can get her to do anything. But how do you actually get her laughing? What do you do? In my experience as a social confidence coach, most guys who want to be funnier will employ an ineffective approach: They’ll try to find funny lines and routines to memorize and use in conversations. The...

This question is one of the most popular ones we get from our female readers. It’s funny how the answers have evolved over time, especially with the power of technology. Below are our top five signs a guy is into you. 1. Text messaging. We are huge advocates of old-fashioned communication, like picking up the darn phone and calling a lady when a guy is interested in taking her out, but we also understand the power...

Your girlfriend’s sister tells you about this great guy she thinks you should meet. Immediately you go on her Facebook page to check him out. The second you see his picture, you decline the offer to be set up, trying your best to avoid bad blind dates. Or, even worse, he doesn’t have a Facebook photo. You agree to the date and the minute you walk into the restaurant and see him, you feel frustrated that you now...

How long a man envisions spending with a particular female partner may have a lot to do with the femininity of her facial features, according to research. The research, which was led by Anthony Little from the University of Stirling and Benedict Jones from the University of Glasgow, discovered men prefer women with more feminine faces for flings. This preference was especially prevalent among men who were already...

A study is attempting to define how common, how frequent, and under what circumstances women have orgasms. Appearing in the latest edition of Evolution and Human Behavior, women with dominant or masculine men as partners were found to have a greater frequency of orgasms. Conducted at the University of Pennsylvania, the study involved surveying heterosexual woman about the frequency and timing of their orgasms,...

If people notice you when you walk into a room, it means you’ve already put your best foot forward. Getting noticed in a social setting as soon as you make your appearance is always a good thing, and it's often the start of some very good social experiences. If you want to get noticed more when you walk into a room, here are four simple ideas that are guaranteed to create instant results for you. 1. Dress to stand...

Reader Question: When I was younger (I'm 27 now), I was a jerk. I lied, cheated, used drugs, didn't care about my appearance, had no talent or education, was out of shape. And women ADORED me. I now have a great job, a wide circle of friends, a fit body, artistic talent and sharp clothes. I'm handsome, honest, sweet, understanding, educated. Now that I've gotten my life together, women don't seem very interested...

This is an exclusive study conducted by DatingAdvice.com, which surveyed respondents over the course of three weeks to reflect an accurate representation of the U.S. population. While we all can’t be the next Jerry Seinfeld or Tina Fey, new research suggests having a good sense of humor is an important quality to have when it comes to dating. An exclusive study conducted by DatingAdvice.com found one in four...

Does having a tattoo affect a woman's chances of being approached by men? A  study finds men consider a woman with a tattoo more approachable, but those men also think she is more promiscuous. While this study did not attempt to determine the cause, psychologist Nicolas Guéguen, of the Université de Bretagne-Sud, said the results were nonetheless striking. For the study, researchers had 31 men identify the 11...

Reader Question: I’m dating this guy and it’s a long-distance relationship. He says all the right things and I could see a future with him, except for two deal-breakers. One is there is a 10-year age difference that doesn’t really bother me, but I do worry about what my family would think. Deal-breaker number two is there is no physical attraction on my part and he’s so far from what I normally go for. I don’t...

Research reveals that despite the frequent Hollywood headlines, the cougar and sugar daddy dating trends don't appear to be catching on. On the contrary, the study found more people of similar ages are marrying each other. Published in the Review of Economics and Statistics, the results also show those who marry someone significantly older or younger have lower cognitive skills, less education and are less...

While searching for Mr. Right, it is easy to get caught up in a fantasy about love or a fairy-tale ending. Romance feels exhilarating and fun, but will it lead you to the lasting love you are looking for? You are moving in the right direction in finding a man worthy of your admiration and love when you pay attention to his personal qualities and spend time getting to know him beyond his looks. You are on the right...

It's a common saying that "Men don't understand women," but new research seems to back up this statement. A study conducted by Boris Schiffer at LWL Hospital in Germany found men may have twice as much difficulty reading a woman’s emotions based on her eyes as they would with another man. The study involved 22 men aged 21 to 52 who underwent magnetic resonance imaging during the testing. They were then presented...

While most dates consist of a few hours at a nice restaurant and then a movie, a new study suggests speed dating may be the way to go. By analyzing recorded speed dating sessions, researchers from Stanford University have determined four minutes is enough time to forge a meaningful relationship. Published in the American Journal of Sociology, the study consisted of nearly 1,000 heterosexual couples - mostly...

This is an exclusive study conducted by DatingAdvice.com, which surveyed respondents over the course of three weeks to reflect an accurate representation of the U.S. population. When you’re on a first date that’s going well, do you lean in for the kiss? Or do you prefer to wait? Research shows a majority of Americans don’t mind locking lips on the first date. In a sweeping study conducted by DatingAdvice.com,...

John Mayer, Eddie Van Halen, Jack Johnson: Can women resist a man with a guitar? A study conducted at the University of South Brittany in France found women were twice as likely to give their phone numbers to a man carrying a guitar than the same man who was empty-handed. Behavioral scientists employed a 20-year-old man to approach 300 unknown women aged 18 to 22 in an area shopping center. The man would comment...

This is an exclusive study conducted by DatingAdvice.com, which surveyed respondents over the course of three weeks to reflect an accurate representation of the U.S. population. Despite what Hollywood would have moviegoers believe, it appears single men have a greater overall belief in “love at first sight” than single women. A study conducted by DatingAdvice.com found single men were 33% more likely than single...

Reader Question: I am overweight but a great person. Men don’t want to give it a chance unless they want just sex or money. Why are men so superficial? -C.J. (Pennsylvania) Dr. Wendy Walsh's Answer: Dear C.J., Men tend to be more visually wired than women. Couple that with a hyper focus on youth and beauty in the gay community and good men like you often get overlooked. I assure you that you are not...

I recently received an email from one of those large dating sites which posed the question, “Age – How Much Does it Matter?” As someone who dates intergenerationally, in gay parlance I am a Daddy (an older guy who prefers to date younger), I definitely believe age matters…to a point. You can’t imagine how much flack I receive from guys my own age for this preference. Recently I met a nice young man through a...

Reader Question: What arouses a woman today seeing that I'm in my early 50s and she isn't? I want her to be attracted to me, but I do not want to push the issue of her seeing me as an older man. -Stan (Ohio) Dr. Wendy Walsh's Answer: Dear Stan, Women are attracted to the same things men are: good health, loyalty, intelligence and honesty. Men might also add in beauty and women might add financial...

Does size really matter to women? The question has been up for debate for decades. But a study found penis size actually does matter to women to some extent. Published in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences, the study found women consider men with longer penises to be more attractive but men with substantially larger-than-average penises are seen as less attractive. The study consisted of 105...