Let's Talk Attraction (Page 10)

Nature draws men and women together for a purpose other than friendship. There are a few exceptions that totally eliminate the likelihood of attraction. If you first meet a woman as the girlfriend of a good friend or relative, your sexual antennae are also turned off, and you might discover that you cannot even become attracted to her if she later becomes available. If you meet a woman with a husband or...

Have you ever felt an overwhelming attraction toward a man that you couldn’t explain? He’s no hunky movie star but there’s just something about him. And then there’s that other guy who has everything on your checklist but you just don’t feel a connection. Is there really such a thing as romantic chemistry? And should you depend on it to guide you in selecting dates and taking relationships to the next level? Let’s...

Those first weeks or months of encounters and dates seem to be filled with such great promise, high hopes and exciting possibilities. And then the balloon pops, the sizzle fizzles and the spark goes dark — at least for him. All of a sudden, those nights filled with LOLs turn into days full of WTFs. Why do some guys lose interest when things seem to be going so well? Here are a few thoughts that might help you make...

What does it take to turn your man on? Better yet — what does it take to turn your man on in a tasteful manner? These questions have hounded women for ages. After all, women are caught in a tough spot when it comes to their sexuality. On the one hand, women are incredibly sexual, at least as sexual as men, and have powerful desires and needs they need met, needs which can only be properly satisfied by ruthlessly...

When you first become involved with someone, you can’t get enough of each other and it’s all you can do to keep your hands to yourself. There aren’t enough hours in the day to satisfy your desire to gaze longingly at each other, talking about absolutely nothing. Calling 200 times a day just to hear her breathe is totally acceptable in the early days, when you’re spending every dime of your paycheck to impress...

Comedian Adam Sandler once said, “Chemistry can be a good and bad thing. Chemistry is good when you make love with it. Chemistry is bad when you make crack with it.” All kidding aside, chemistry is one of the most important ingredients in any relationship. But with so many relationships now forming via the Internet, is online chemistry possible? Chemistry is defined as, “the emotional or psychological interaction...

Seduction is very much a part of the courtship process, if not the most influential element of physical attraction. Webster’s Dictionary describes seduction as "something that attracts or charms” or “an invitation to sexual intercourse.” Being enticing, attractive and charming is very important when you’re dating, because you want the man you’re after to find you irresistible so he’ll come after you. I cannot...

In this age of instant gratification, we sometimes assume that we have to get the “hots” for our date right away or it’s a lost cause. Not so fast. Love and attraction are two very different things. • Attraction (lust, if you prefer) is a kind of built-in radar combined with a visceral urge that nature gave us so that we would not forget to make babies and keep the species going. It lives in the physical, sexual and...

Hair is one of the first things men notice about a woman. Hair is also the perfect way for you to distinguish yourself from the crowd with your own style, and you can change your appearance with a new “do” that everyone will notice right away. Long hair does have the advantage of flowing as you move, which is very attractive and attention-grabbing. When it’s up in a bun and you let it down, it also has a dramatic...

TV has given us some great philanthropic and heart-warming programs. “Extreme Makeover: Home Edition” builds new homes for families with special needs children or deserving humanitarian families in need. “Shark Tank” brings billionaire investors together with rank-and-file middle Americans with an idea to make it big in a business venture. And “Secret Millionaire” puts millionaires into volunteer roles with...

Every woman is a mystical enchantress with the power to captivate and win the hearts of many men. So it is really no big deal for you to expect that you can have a good man of your own one month from today. As a woman, you know that you could drag most any guy home in 10 minutes with a simple indecent proposal. That same hypnotic power can be diluted to get his attention, capture his imagination and make him eager to...

Rule number one, if you want a girl to like you, then please disregard everything you thought worked in elementary school. Don’t throw sand at her, don’t drop a worm down her shirt, and don’t be a complete jerk. If you’re looking to attract a woman with substance, then be a “normal” human being. Most women appreciate thoughtfulness, right? So put yourself in her shoes — not literally, but figuratively — and think...

Throughout history, famous bad boys have become objects of lust for women all over the world. Young film icon James Dean, vampire Eric Northman (a.k.a. Alexander Skarsgard) of “True Blood,” actors Russell Crowe and Colin Farrell, singers Tommy Lee and Dave Navarro and rapper 50 Cent to name a few. But do girls really like bad boys and if so, why? It’s a topic that has been around for centuries — since gladiators,...

Knowing how to kiss the guy you're dating and turn him on seems like a no-brainer. Logic dictates if a man finds you attractive, then he should be turned on every time you kiss him. But as we all know, this just isn’t the case. There are times when your kiss doesn’t seem to light much of a fire within your man. There are times when your man seems like there are a half dozen other things he’d rather be doing in the...

When it comes to body image, guys crack me up. I watch you spend thousands of dollars on gym memberships, expensive jeans and fancy watches all to impress a girl. To be frank, you have no idea what really makes a woman’s motor run. You worry about all the wrong things. When it comes to physical appearance, we care a lot less than you think we do. Sure, we want our guy to look fly, but when you get down to...

No one has yet found a perfect answer to the question of what women want. Throughout centuries of examination, romance, poetry and real life, the ultimate answer continues to elude us. Nevertheless, let’s see if we cannot at least glean a little insight into what today’s women want and how to give it to them without compromising your own needs. Of course, every woman still has a bit of “girl” in her. She wants to...

As far as I am concerned, true love is blind. It knows no color, age or affliction. There is nothing taboo about falling in love with someone much older than you. Age is but a number, and if you and your man are OK with your age difference, that is all that matters. Compatibility, mutual respect, and an ability to communicate and laugh together, in my opinion, have far more bearing on attraction than physical...

“Abandon hope, all ye who enter here,” is the warning inscribed above the gates of hell in Dante’s Inferno. The prospects of success are nearly as grim for those who dare to enter that other-worldly dimension — where a woman keeps her harem of emasculated gophers, handymen and confidants — known as “The Friend Zone.” Never ask a woman what she is looking for in a man because she has no clue. Really, she has no...

Yes, your appearance really matters, and no it has absolutely no bearing on your “dateability” whatsoever. How’s that for an answer?! On the one hand, it is important for all of us to put our best face forward. This means dressing neatly and wearing clean clothes, fixing your hair, washing your hands and at least acting like your appearance matters to you, even if it doesn’t. On the other hand, personality matters...

Men and women should always structure their first dates with this worst-case scenario in mind. Instead of committing to a long night of dinner and a movie with someone you aren’t sure you’re attracted to, arrange for a short and casual date where you meet for coffee or a drink. If you feel attracted to your date after getting to know each other for half an hour, then you can continue on and grab food, see a movie...

German theologian and philosopher Albert Schweitzer once said, “At times our own light goes out and is rekindled by a spark from another person. Each of us has cause to think with deep gratitude of those who have lighted the flame within us.” Actors, writers and artists talk about feeling the “creative spark,” but when it comes to dating or finding a life partner, is there such thing as a “spark” that makes two...