Let's Talk Self-Worth & Confidence (Page 10)

Reader Question: I have borderline Asperger syndrome, anxiety/panic/depression that is controlled by meds and PTSD. The Asperger's forces me to disclose everything whether its appropriate or not. I'm a hopeless romantic with all of this baggage. I usually torpedo things by the third date. Is there any hope for me? -Frank (Rhode Island) Brian Rzepczynski's Answer: Hi Frank! We all bring "baggage" to the...

As a man, there’s nothing more attractive to the women you meet than you being masculine and being able to express that. Most of the dating advice geared toward men is really advice on how to “step up” as a mature man, both in dealing with women and life in general. This poses a challenge for most men because masculinity has become somewhat of a lost art, and most men don’t even know what it really is (let alone...

What’s a plus-size romantic to do in a world obsessed with skinniness? Heavier people can certainly face a different set of challenges on the dating scene, and our 10 Best Blogs for Plus-Size Dating were selected for the contentious, creative and fun ways they explore this field. Plus-Size...

In my professional and personal life, great single men looking to meet someone special constantly tell me they held back in approaching a woman they were potentially interested in because she seemed too intimidating. Single women also tell me they are out and about and consider themselves open to love, but they are having trouble meeting men despite being surrounded by them. It is all too common to think you are...

If a tree falls in the woods, does anybody hear it? If you swipe left or right on Tinder, does anybody really care? Have you experienced the weird and wacky world of Tinder yet? Let me tell you something. Tinder is not for the weak at heart. In fact, if you don’t have a very healthy ego and you can’t handle rejection, I strongly suggest you stay well away from Tinder. For those who haven’t run into Tinder yet, let...

Sometimes being single friggin' sucks. Before you roll your eyes at me, let me also state that if you are a regular reader of my blog, you know I in no way feel you need a man to complete you, be happy or live a fulfilled life. I have been happily single for more than four years now and have written more than 50 blog posts demonstrating that. Now with that disclaimer being said (well, typed), let me also...

One day at work I met a man who looked to be about 60. When I entered his name into the computer, I sat down beside him to ask him his birthday because I thought the year was a typo. “No, that’s right," he said. "I turned 98 this year!” “Wow! You look decades younger. What kind of anti-aging beauty cream do you use?” He laughed. “I still drive. I still play bochi ball. I’m still very active.” “So at 98 years of...

Are you wondering how to find the right people to date? You are not alone. Many people want to date or be in a relationship, but they feel very frustrated because either they have no clue how to go about finding the right people to date or all of the ways they have tried are not helping them meet the right people to date. When a client expresses to me these feelings of frustration and discouragement when it comes...

A few years ago, I went on a couple of dates with a guy who was really into me, but I wasn’t that into him. Then one day I found out he had started dating someone else. As soon as he was no longer available, I became obsessed with him and was kicking myself for missing my chance. Playing hard to get is one of the oldest and best tricks in the book on how to get someone to want you, and it's for good reason. When...

Being a lesbian doesn’t mean you should accept less than the best in a relationship. That’s not the world we live in anymore. It used to be lesbians didn’t live their lives openly, and when a queer woman showed up in your life, you took her for better or worse. Well, straight society has sworn off on that promise and so should you. Not only is living with the crumbs of love demoralizing and lonely, but it means...

There’s a lot of advice out there for hetero dating and much more now on gay dating, but the bisexual world doesn’t get enough ink. This is unfortunate because it can be one of the most confusing areas to be in. Not only that, but many times instead of being accepted by both groups, they are shunned. To try and remedy that, myself and DatingAdvice.com's lesbian dating expert, Mary Gorham Malia, are going to be...

All week leading up to the Patriots game, we heard about Peyton Manning's legacy. Will he win the game, and if he loses to the Patriots, how would that change his legacy? We're talking about one of the greatest quarterbacks to ever grace the field! We’re talking about a guy with 55 touchdown passes. A lot of the records in the NFL are held by Peyton Manning. Yet people will criticize him and say if he didn’t...

The most fascinating thing about dating is how what we want and expect to happen on a date doesn’t always correspond to what really happens on a date. For a couple of seconds, I want you to think back and remember a guy you dated who you were immediately attracted to on the very first date. Remember how that very first sight gave you butterflies? Remember how just thinking about him made you tingle? Remember how...

Have you ever wondered how someone truly forgives themselves after cheating? It’s an interesting question that requires a look into honesty, self-acceptance and desire. Here's what you can do to forgive yourself: 1. Realize your desires were OK. What was wrong was not disclosing it to your partner. If you decided to pursue someone else, there is nothing wrong with that. The problem comes when your current partner...

It's a new year, which means it is time to start a new dating adventure. Use these five tips for successful dating in 2014 to make this dating year one to remember. 1. Do stop worrying about time running out. This only puts unnecessary pressure on you and will ensure you are detracting and not attracting. The more you think your time is running out, the more you will be sending out the "I’m desperate to settle...

Finding the confidence to follow your heart can be an uphill battle for many people. Our 10 Best Blogs for Dating Courage were selected for how well they explore issues from awkwardness and being shy, to helping people find their best dating identity. Just Call Her BEST OF Bragging Rights: dating...

There’s no denying that today, in this modern and somewhat feminist era, there is an abundance of smart, successful and independent women. These women have taken control over their lives and have the power to do whatever they want in our society -- something that wasn’t possible for generations before. However, as successful and independent as they are, many of these women have a very hard time succeeding in their...

Have you ever been in a situation where you like a girl more than she likes you? Let’s break down some of the concepts behind this ghastly situation and what causes it. You have to take action to get a result. As an example, let’s say John likes Jennifer. However, John doesn’t really say anything about it and gets nervous at the thought of telling Jennifer. Every time he sees her or hangs out with her, he...

A broken heart, disappointment, disillusionment, pain. Sound familiar? Yes, just about every person on this planet has experienced a heart-wrenching breakup at one time or another in their lives. And you know all the cliches (which, thankfully, I’m not going to repeat) that are supposed to help. But no matter how much you try to move on, you’re still pining over your ex. There is a solution to this problem. You...

The Christmas gifts have all been unwrapped and the wrapping paper and bows disposed of into the recycling bins. Another Christmas season has come and gone. Did Santa bring you what was at the top of your wish list this year? No? So a Senior mate wasn’t in your Christmas stocking? Then that means it’s up to you, and now’s the time to get busy. If finding a baby boomer mate and possible new spouse is something you...

“Eventually I saw that the path of the heart requires a full gesture, a degree of abandon that can be terrifying. Only then is it possible to achieve a sparkling metamorphosis.” -Carlos Castaneda When I turned 40, I was single with a relationship history filled with a long string of heartbreaks and disappointments. Other aspects of my life seemed to be going smoothly, so I didn’t understand why real love seemed so...

Are you getting walked on in your relationship? If so, you have no one to blame but yourself. As a man, it’s up to you to be assertive and speak up about your needs in your relationship. If you have a naturally deferential personality, you don’t have to become a totally different person. You do, however, need to start cultivating a few simple habits that are going to guarantee you remain autonomous and don’t become a...

For those of you who aren’t big followers of the NFL, there have been some really amazing stories this year. One of those stories is Josh McCown. If you don’t know Josh, Google him and check out his stats. They’re terrible in all ways. The year he was the starting quarterback for the Arizona Cardinals was atrocious. He threw for only 2,500 yards. In fact, Josh McCown was so bad that he’s been out of the game twice...

There are three distinct concepts I want to talk to you about. These are: understanding that women are women, trusting is the process of letting go and trust in yourself rather than put that focus on women. The first concept is women are women. What I mean by this is women will do what they need to do in order to achieve what they desire. Putting your trust in women is a gamble because they are going to do what they...

Reader Question: How do you show your guy friend, whom you've been having sex with for the past six months, that you're worth more than just sex? How and what do you do to make them realize it? -Melissa (Louisiana) Gina Stewart's Answer: How do you un-ring a bell? Where is Ponce de Leon’s fountain of youth? What is the sound of one hand clapping? These are all very important questions to which many people would...

Having the right attitude toward the women you want to bang is absolutely paramount if you ever expect to have any sort of success. Women are always able to pick up on the vibe you are giving out and a positive one is attractive because it shows confidence and control. The right attitude enables you to make the people around you feel good. If everyone around is feeling good and eating up your amazing vibe, you can...

One of the most torturous symptoms of the breakup blues is struggling with being able to let go of your ex. This is especially the case when you are the partner who didn’t want the relationship to end, but even initiators of a relationship termination go through this as well. You know how it is. Your mind becomes preoccupied with thoughts of him that just won’t go away. You can’t stop thinking about him and what...

Romance - we are all suckers for it. Surely you remember feeling the excitement as Jerry Maguire and Dorothy Boyd shared the romantic words, “You complete me.” Let’s be honest. Don’t we all want someone to feel that way about us? I know I did. However, the romantic myth that kept me daydreaming when I was young and impressionable was one defined by Snow White: “Someday my prince will come.” As human beings, we are...

I find your behavior, conversation style and emotional reactions during a date will largely be determined by your mindset, how you think about the date and what your mind is focused on. In order to improve their dating success, many guys learn various conversation tricks and techniques to apply during a date. However, unless they have the right mindset, that will do little good because their mindset will keep...

Being shy is painful. It keeps you trapped and unable to live life and enjoy the endless possibilities that come from meeting new people. It can be the kiss of death if your shyness keeps you from being able to meet someone and develop a relationship. Being shy is not the same as being introverted. Introverts are people who have only one or two close friends. They share their inner thoughts and feelings with these...