Let's Talk Self-Worth & Confidence (Page 9)

The Short Version: Hayley Quinn is a love and life coach who uses her own struggles with childhood bullying, low self-esteem, and dating to help singles (especially women) who are experiencing similar situations. Her down-to-earth approach demystifies "dating rules" that often hinder people, and her relatability inspires them to become truly happy with themselves — which she says will ultimately lead them to the...

My previous article discussed five signs that you are an unavailable dater. These include: A perception that there are no available men or all of the “good guys” are taken A lack of interest in men who treat you right A disconnect between your actions and values about dating A lack of effort and time for dating A persistent fear that holds you back from connecting with men To determine what might be...

Asking a girl out on a date is perhaps the most important scenario you’ll want to master. If you master this, she could become the greatest thing to ever cross into your TV-watching, sports-obsessed, beer-drinking, repetitive-night-on-the-town-with-the-guys, never-ending bachelor lifestyle. Here are 4 ways to get it right: 1. Look At Yourself (Inside & Out) First Are you emotionally balanced? In other words, are...

Take a pause to appreciate all of the wonderful, trustworthy, honest, intelligent, funny AND, most importantly, available men out there. Soak in the reality that these men do exist and one can be yours. You might have a number of reactions to this exercise, such as: "No way!" "How can I be grateful if I haven’t met any?" "What’s there to appreciate when I’m still single?" Or: "Yes, that is true." "I am willing to...

Have you ever loved, cared for, supported or wished for a relationship with someone and it just wasn't meant to be no matter how hard you tried? Made you someone you weren’t? Caused you to lose part of your soul in the process, leaving you empty-handed after weeks, months or even years of trying? Well, you’re not alone. But why do so many keep hanging on when clearly the object of their affection just doesn’t feel...

On paper, Frank has it made. He’s in his early 60s, in fairly good shape, nice looking, semi-retired from a very successful business that runs itself, has a convertible sports car and a sailboat. He has the freedom, time and resources to travel. Frank is recently divorced from a long-term marriage. His children are grown, educated, living independently and are financially self-sufficient. Is it fear of getting hurt,...

Do you think of yourself as a person living in doldrums? Are you going to have to be resigned to a life of solitude? In the film "The Secret Life of Walter Mitty" (spoiler alert), Walter is a lonely negative asset manager (double meaning?) interested in a co-worker whom he knows is on eHarmony. He joins the site in an effort to contact her. We see him as his finger-hovers over the mouse debating with himself to...

We’ve all heard stories of people doing almost anything for love. From billboards or personal ads, to romantic love songs or YouTube videos with professions of love, some might consider these grand acts extreme, desperate or absolutely brilliant. Regardless of your interpretation and if you would ever consider partaking in any of the above examples, they offer us real-life presentations of the different levels and...

I’m curious about whom you think you should call if you want a date. Quite possibly you already feel like you’ve called everybody and have more than given this dating thing your all. You've tried every family member and friend, every site and every tele-whatever. You've looked into matchmakers, private executive clubs and, what the hell, triathlon clubs (when you don’t run, bike OR swim). No? What About Your...

Now that the clock has turned and you are over 50 years old, you have surely noticed how dating is different. Thank goodness you’re not 20 years old, ladies, and hitting the singles bars. That’s not where men over 40, 50 and 60 are. What's better now? You know what it really takes to find mature love! 1. This is the body you’ve got  Body acceptance has fully kicked in. This is the body you’ve got. Embrace it. No...

If you read my last article on the seven types of girlfriend you don’t want to be, it is only natural some of the feelings, behaviors and personalities mentioned resonated with you. We all have moments of anxiety, desperation and insecurity. However, how we deal with these emotions is essential to our own health and the health of our relationships. These emotions create problems in relationships when we utilize...

Social media is often a love it or leave it form of entertainment. While many women dabble, some avoid it all together and some dive in with full force. Sharing information about your likes and dislikes, such as books you’ve treasured or favorite films, might be fun. However, can sharing too much be a sign of neediness? New research found the more information women reveal online, the lonelier they are. The...

Oftentimes the focus of dating is to determine if a potential partner is a true match. You invest time in this person to get to know each other, discover if you have similar interests, values and relationship goals and to continue to learn if the attraction and spark are there. You might realize your date or someone you have been dating for a period of time is not exactly what or who you are looking for and make...

Dating in your 50s is different than dating in your 20s and 30s. In fact, many baby boomer men prefer dating women around their own age over single women in their 20s. My coaching clients are all searching for love with women in their age group. There will always be a certain percentage of men in their 50s and 60s who aspire to date a woman who is much younger. However, the majority of senior men seek a...

I'm driving around in my car when the new dance tune “Summer” by Calvin Harris blasts out of the radio. “When I met you in the summer, to my heartbeat sound, we fell in love…” the lyrics go. The Memorial Day weekend marks the beginning of the wonderful summer season. The sun is out in full force, as are all the men with their shirts off. You know you sneak a peek! Everyone’s out and about. There’s an energy this...

So you’re single and although you’re happy for your friends and their relationship success, you are tired of feeling like you’re the only one who can’t find The One. Finding and attracting a man is possible, but you have to be willing to put in the effort. Follow these steps and you will be experiencing relationship bliss soon. 1. Put your list in check. Focus on the relationship you want and the characteristics a...

In order to date other people happily and courageously, I believe we need to start by dating ourselves. All too often we approach dating as some kind of giant jigsaw puzzle for jagged hearts. We believe all we need to do to feel happy and heal past hurts is to meet our perfect fit – our Mr. Right. Phrases like "other half," "soul mate" and "twin flame" rain down on us like heart-shaped confetti, encouraging us in...

New research is challenging old conventional wisdom that says rebound relationships are a bad idea if you’re still pining for another. However, the somewhat cruder advice that the best way to get over someone is by getting underneath someone else may actually carry some truth. At least, according to researchers at City University of New York. The study found in relationships where one partner maintained romantic...

Here I am: 52 years young and in a place I thought I had long ago left behind - never to revisit. I lovingly refer to this as my dyslexic dating stage, as the last time I was single was in 1985 and I was 25. I am not sure how I ended up in this strange land. I packed my bags, bought a one-way ticket (or so I thought) to paradise, buckled up and took off on a journey, only to arrive at an alternate destination due...

Most people really love a challenge. We see it as chasing something or someone that really gets our blood boiling, and when we finally wrap our arms around our target, it can be the best feeling in the world. But sometimes we men go after women who not only enjoy the chase but like it so much they don’t know when to stop. I don’t know about you, but after a while, this becomes exhausting and taints the formation of...

Every woman will date or has dated a guy for his potential (myself included). I remember dating guys who were 70 percent of my ideal, hoping the 30 percent would fall into place. When the 30 percent didn’t transpire, I was let down. Here’s what I learned: Dating a guy for his potential led me to have expectations of who he could become and how he should be. Since I was being with who I thought he could be...

Femininity is something that eluded me for a long time in my 20s. At one point, when I was single and struggling through my fair share of dating drama, I hired a dating coach who told me he thought I needed to be more feminine in order to attract higher quality men. I remember hanging up the phone from that call, looking at myself in the mirror and thinking, “What is he talking about? I’m already wearing a...

Having insecure moments is a natural part of life. As we push ourselves to go after our goals, take social and emotional risks, make mistakes and try new things, we are bound to feel insecure at times. As our healthiest selves, we are able to persevere through our insecurities, embrace our strengths, accept our limitations and keep moving forward even in the toughest of moments. Many single women report insecurities...

Reader Question: I am so lonely. I just want to meet a nice woman to date. I am lesbian. I get this rush when I see a pretty woman - never with men, always women. Please help. I can't take it anymore. It's eating me up. -Tracy Mary Gorham Malia's Answer: Dear Tracy, It's time for you to start asking yourself some questions to help you move forward. How about starting with, "I wonder where the lesbians...

There’s not a day that goes by when I don’t find myself in a discussion in my counseling sessions that consists of someone looking for a little dating advice. After all, if there’s one thing just about all of us can agree on, it’s that love is an important part of our life’s journey and being in a strong, secure and stable relationship can definitely make the trip that much more special. Yet while sitting in...

Young women under the age of 20 are less likely to be sexually active if they are focused on their future, according to a new study. For their report, researchers from the University of Alabama spent half a year analyzing Internet posts at forums frequented by teen girls. During this effort, they attempted to gauge the individual maturity and confidence levels of those who were posting. The posters’ attitudes...

Women around the world wake up every day and realize their marriage isn’t working and it’s because they are attracted to women. Is that you? Are you married and unhappy? Have you started to wonder about that subtle attraction you have to women? Do you fantasize about kissing a woman or having sex with a woman? Does that make you a lesbian? It can be a big shock or a big relief to realize you are lesbian when you’re...

We know breakups can be difficult, and we have found the following tips extremely helpful in dealing with an emotional departure. We have interviewed thousands of men and women and these tips are the most popular we have found. It's important to always remember this quote when dealing with a breakup, “He/she who angers you, conquers you.” Do's Get over it! We know this is harsh, but it's the reality you need to...

Reader Question: I'm a very quiet guy when alone. All my friends say when people first meet me, people feel like I'm about to beat them/kill them. They say it's the way my eyes are, but I don't know how that makes guys so afraid of me. I'm not bad looking, bit overweight, not particularly tall (just 5 feet 9 inches), so I don't why this seems to drive men away in fear. How do I stop being creepy? -Jay Brian...

Love is an easy concept for advertisers to cling to. It helps sell everything from cars and mouthwash, to condoms and beer. But do the people on Madison Avenue risk turning off singles when they use romance and love as a selling point? New research says they do. To test it, a team at the University of Southern California asked volunteers to simply evaluate different TV spots and the products they promote. Some ads...