Let's Talk Self-Worth & Confidence (Page 13)

Reader Question: I'm a 62-year-old widower. I was married for 31 years. It's now four years after my wife's passing. I am anxious to begin dating again, but my concern is I was born with a micro penis. I am reluctant to go through the embarrassment and rejection all over again. Any advice for me? -Steve (Florida) Dr. Wendy Walsh's Answer: Dear Steve, I know men really, really get concerned about their...

A study has found objectified college women are more likely to accept the status quo and are less likely to engage in social activism. After conducting two experiments, University of Kent researcher Rachel M. Calogero found college women who define themselves by their appearance and sexual desirability were less likely to actively support expanding women’s rights or challenge existing gender-based...

There truly are plenty of fish in the sea, but that’s not always a good thing, especially when it comes to how you’re going to stand out to the rest of them. The good news is if you put a little effort into it, it’s easy. How? Be interested and, more than that, be interesting! So many women think they should dumb themselves down on the first date, be agreeable, be nice, nod a lot, not reveal too much…be...

Let's get open and real today. I'm going to ask you a question, and you're going to give me an honest answer. What is your eye contact like? Do you even know what your eye contact is like? Are you aware the eyes are the way to turn a woman on? Do you also realize the more powerful your eye contact is, the more quickly you’ll turn her on? Most guys suck at eye contact. When most guys approach a woman for the...

I think most gay men would agree with me one of the biggest dating challenges unique to the LGBTQ+ community is the whole riddle of the “closet.” Some guys are in it, and some guys aren’t. Some men kind of just chill there for five days a week and then parade out of it on the wings of a feather boa when Saturday rolls around. Others are kind of perpetually half-in and half-out, depending on their whereabouts. Some...

Reader Question: I'm a 38-year-old gay man. I have spent my entire adulthood working my ass off, going to school, then working my ass off again. I am scared I missed the "love boat." I am sure I am not the only one out there looking for love in their late 30s. How do I get started, and how do I attract men at my age? -Moe (Michigan) Dr. Wendy Walsh's Answer: Memo to Moe: 38 is the new 28. You are young...

I don’t know about you, but I really love perfume — I mean a lot. When I’m out meeting men, I want to make sure I’m not only looking good, but smelling good as well. Now let me ask you a question: How attractive would I be if I opted for roach spray rather than the floral scent I usually wear? I'm talking about good old-fashioned Raid roach spray, sprayed all over my tiny body. Oooo yes, doesn’t that just ooze sex...

Lurking at the back of a single person's mind is a nagging worry. For those who truly aren't looking for a relationship, this doesn't apply. But for anyone who wants to be in a fabulous and satisfying love relationship or marriage…and isn't...it can be frequent and unwanted. This worry creeps up when your co-worker announces her engagement. It taunts you in the night when you're trying to sleep. It rears its...

Approaching women on a regular basis is the first key step to dating success as a man. Unfortunately, it's not enough to approach women. If you want good results, you also need to do it in a particular way. Your mindset and your behavior have to be in the right place. Most guys fail miserably when they approach women because they make three big mistakes. I'd like to show you what these mistakes are so you can...

It’s a common saying these days. All your friends are whispering it in your ear: “She’s out of your league.” My first advice is not to hang out with these discouraging friends of yours. Secondly, she’s not out of your league. In fact, she’s extremely obtainable. Let me explain. 1. We all have flaws. Imagine it now: You walk down the street to get a cup of coffee and you see your dream woman walk past. A...

Reader Question: I re-entered the world of dating after being divorced almost four years. I find myself in an awkward category: 59 years old, mental health administrator, very young looking and high energy level, an 11-year-old son who spends increasing amounts of time with his father. A few gentlemen who I felt were interested backed away upon reflecting they did not wish to be involved with a woman whose...

We’ve all been there, some many times, when we've met a guy and we think they’re "The One." They tell us all the things we want to hear. He has a reputation. Our friends try to warn us. His friends try to warn us. But that little inner voice says, “With me, he’ll be different. I can help him change.” Hmmm…this is a tricky one. Do players settle down? Do they eventually become faithful and perfect boyfriend...

Who do women turn to when they're in need of a pick-me-up in their dating lives? They look to our 10 Best Women's Dating Experts. These experts are all about giving women the tools they need to be smart, confident and successful in their everyday lives as well as their romantic relationships. Dr. Alexandra...

Here we are again. Valentine’s Day is right around the corner and you might be asking yourself why you are spending another Valentine’s Day alone. You tell yourself  it’s not a big deal and it’s just a normal day like any other, but a slight feeling of awkwardness starts to creep over you when people ask you how you are going to celebrate. You might even feel a bit envious watching your coupled friends make...

If spending a few minutes browsing Facebook leaves you feeling vaguely dissatisfied, you’re not alone. A study found one in three people leave the site feeling worse than they felt before logging on. Researchers looked at the social networking behaviors, and subsequent emotional reactions, of 600 people and noted negative reactions revolved around an experience of envy "leaving them feeling lonely, frustrated or...

If you’re single, and don’t want to be, the Valentine’s Day holiday can be torture. And there seems to be no escape from it when everywhere you go you see what appears to be happy couples, not to mention being bombarded with Hallmark advertisements and gifts at every turn. But you can survive this illustrious day! It is, after all, just another day. It’s all about perspective. If you place a lot of emphasis on the...

"Take spring when it comes, and rejoice. Take happiness when it comes, and rejoice. Take love when it comes, and rejoice." - Carl Ewald Do you ever feel like the chance for love or romance has passed you by? You may be looking for love for the first, second, third or umpteenth time. You may just want some fun or steady companionship, or even just a delicious kiss to make your toes curl. Whatever you may want...

Your eyes catch the handsome stranger from across the bar and you find yourself captivated — he’s just your type. “Go talk to him,” your friend nudges. As your head swirls with imagery on how you might approach him, your body tenses with anxiety. You begin to worry about how you might be perceived or misunderstood. Fears of rejection and embarrassment immobilize you. Frozen in place, you try to muster up the...

I just finished a coaching session with a new client. Throughout the whole time we were out in the field and I was having him approach and talk to women, he kept asking me questions about what others (the women he was approaching and the "bystanders" who were in earshot) were thinking about him. This raises such an important issue, and I want to share with you what I told him about this issue. I bet many of you have...

Reader Question: I dated a guy for five years. He told me he would get out of his relationship with a guy he was living with for 10 years. We hit it off great and he was happy with me. I don't know why he just dropped me and told me he would let me know when he is single. He doesn't email me anymore or call. It is coming around a year and I can't get over him and move on. In the gay world, have I been played? Any...

We have become a society full of “gottabes." “I’ve got to be this, I've got to be that...” People who have this mindset have been going out and dating based on validation, based on a need they have. They’re not dating based on any raw desires, but based on being validated by the other person. A man will look at a woman and tell himself right off the bat he wants her to like him. He needs to be validated by her. He...

Reader Question: I’ve been dating this girl for almost two years. The thing is her ego is so big that she won’t listen to what I say or anything. She won’t tell me anything anymore. She won’t tell me I love you or that she doesn’t want to lose me. She blows me off. How do I tell her how I feel and make her see? -Emily (Georgia) Dr. Wendy Walsh's Answer: Dear Emily: And why, may I ask, do you love this...

It’s the new year again. You’re still single. You’re discouraged. You’re done with online dating. You don’t go to clubs or bars. You hate parties and can’t stand potluck suppers. Your social scene consists of you, your three dogs and a couple of good lesbian friends who are a couple. Good gracious, what’s a lesbian going to do if this represents the choices you’ve been making about dating and finding love? First,...

Can you believe we have such little time left on this planet before the end of the world comes on 12/21/12? So what are you doing with your limited time? Are you actually asking out women you've never asked out before? Because I think you should. Here's my suggestion: Let's say the world does end on Friday. Let's say it's over. It ceases to exist. Why are you wasting time on the Internet right now when you could be...

For women who are more extroverted and gregarious, holiday parties and mixers can bring excitement. However, they can also stir up a great deal of anxiety in women who tend to be shy. Well rest assured dear introverts, this article is for you. Together we will break down the common dating obstacles so you can move forward toward getting what you want — a happy relationship. Dating for the introverts can feel...

I get lots of letters from guys asking how to become a more skilled flirt, and while it seems like a very sophisticated and crafted social skill, it really isn’t as mysterious and elusive as it may seem. It’s not about performance. It has more to do with you being yourself and exuding a relaxed demeanor and confidence. Those with good self-esteem and who are comfortable with their sexuality tend to fare better...

Taylor Swift may have a hit song on her hands with "We Are Never Ever Getting Back Together," but her heart is in a pickle. She sings about the frustration of an on-again, off-again relationship pattern that is so hard to fully break up from. This pattern is quite common for one simple reason. Women love to fall in love with hope. Hope he will come back. Hope he will be different. Hope that after a few early...

We are in the final stretch now of our countdown of the top characteristics that personify a sexy single gay man on the dating market. These are the qualities that can help maximize your success in the gay dating world. If you missed Part 1 or 2, you can access those articles here. What are some of your strengths? What are some of the areas you’d like to hone or integrate further into your repertoire? It’s all...

The Damaged Goods Hypothesis (the DGH) has been thrown into question by a recent study suggesting women who perform professionally in pornos have higher self-esteem across a number of different qualities than the average woman. DGH states that women who perform in porn do so because they have “higher rates of childhood sexual abuse, psychological problems, and drug use compared to the typical woman.” However, the...

Welcome back to the second installment of our article series on the characteristics that can help you become an “attraction magnet” in the gay dating market. If you missed Part 1, you can access it here. So what else personifies sexy? Let’s get back into it! 8. Practicing the fine art of courtship. Whoa! Pull back on the reins and slow things down a bit! One of the most sabotaging behaviors in new dating...