Best Dating Apps For Introverts

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11 Best Dating Apps for Introverts and Shy People (Feb. 2024) 

Mackenzie Buck

Written by: Mackenzie Buck

Mackenzie Buck

Mackenzie Buck is an experienced writer who earned a master's degree with distinction from the University of Manchester. Her relationship advice has been featured on the New York Post, among other publications. She has worn a variety of hats in the digital marketing space over the years and is excited to bring her unique voice and storytelling chops to DatingAdvice.

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For 24 years of my life, I told all my friends and family that I wanted to find my person organically. Meet cutes at the local hipster coffee shop, introductions from coworkers or colleagues, the classic “friends to lovers” slow burn — you know the drill. Then, I was introduced to reality. And adulthood. And a little thing called Covid-19. 

With my naturally shy tendencies and the less-than-ample opportunities for meet-cutes in my everyday life holding me back, it seemed like dipping my toes in the apps was the smartest thing to do to put myself out there. And I’m so glad I did. 

Oversaturated dating platforms like Tinder and Bumble made me feel lost in the crowd, but spending time exploring some of the apps listed below gave me confidence that online dating doesn’t have to be this big, scary beast we think it is (and that maybe meet-cutes are, in fact, way too overrated). 

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Best Overall Dating Apps for Introverts 

The following three platforms have been turning “Hey, you”s to “I do”s for the past several decades. And they continue to prove that their methods to the dating madness are effective in their own right. In fact, I’d be willing to bet that even if you haven’t personally used these three apps, you’ve certainly heard of them. Say hello to Match, eharmony, and Christian Mingle, our top three best overall dating apps for the quiet hearts looking for love. 

1. Match

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Since 1995, Match has been bringing couples together over the internet. It’s the dating platform that walked so that pretty much every popular dating app could run. 

To start the search process as a free user, you simply clarify your personal details, specify what you’re looking for, and fill out various icebreaker prompts (such as “On Sunday morning, you’ll find me…” or “My biggest regret is…”). The algorithm works its magic to find compatible singles in your surrounding area based on your profile, interests, and preferences. 

Match stands out among the rest for a few reasons. Its membership is unique because 81% of users are above the age of 30. This certainly doesn’t mean that college students and younger professionals in their 20s won’t have any luck on this platform, but it’s something to keep in mind as you begin your journey to seek love. Additionally, you may have gotten the impression that Match is for more “serious” daters. Although this claim is difficult to prove, the fact that the app-website combo offers subscriptions that cost up to $40.41 a month tells us that it just might be true. 

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Our Experts Say: “Simply put, eharmony is where you go if you’d like to speed up the marriage process. Complete a free questionnaire, get matched for free, and find your lifelong partner all in one fell swoop…” Full Review »

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To all the Enneagram addicts, Myers Briggs maniacs, and Jungian junkies out there: You’re going to love the eharmony questionnaire. 

eharmony, a matchmaking platform started by clinical psychologist Neil Clark Warren back in 2000, uses the responses from an in-depth personality test to help match people based on compatibility. These questions, which reveal insights to your preferences, communication style, habits, and values, help to create your Personality Profile and a calculated compatibility score, the latter of which will change depending on the person you’re matched with. 

For the more serious daters reading, it’s important to note that although messaging is allowed with the free subscription, it is limited. If you need a little bit lengthier of a conversation to feel comfortable prior to meeting up, you’d likely benefit more from the Premium memberships, which allow for unlimited messaging and other features designed to spruce up the interaction. 

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If having a faith-based relationship with a person who prioritizes worship in their daily lives is important to you, the Christian Mingle platform could be the answer to a prayer. This niche service offers a great way to start off your love-seeking journey on a solid foot. 

Simply create a dating profile, answer some questions about your preferences and church-going habits (how often you attend, your chosen denomination, etc.), and you’re off! You can even write several paragraphs in your profile summary if you’re really looking to get into the nitty-gritty of who you are and what you’re looking for. 

Only paid subscriptions starting at $49.99 a month give users the option to send and receive messages with respective matches. If you’re taking a more casual approach to your dating experience, you may find that Christian Mingle isn’t the ideal route for you. 

Best Senior Dating Apps for Introverts 

Love has no bounds. And, thanks to the senior dating platforms out there, there are millions of seniors out there serving as living proof. With the help of top-of-the-line algorithms, value-based personality tests, and senior-friendly designs (large text options, we’re looking at you), shy and introverted users from all over the world have found love and companionship in the safety of these online communities. 

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With a name like OurTime, it’s easy to understand the goal founders Matthew Segal and Jarrett Moreno had in mind at the app’s conception: to help users 50 and over feel empowered to explore meaningful connections later in life.

With a quick and easy profile setup, user-friendly dashboard, and large text and photo features, members can simply and efficiently search for local singles and browse profiles recommended by the OurTime algorithm. Plus, the platform is designed for both desktop and app use, making sure to include those who prefer scrolling on a larger screen. 

Although the app boasts a notable 2 million users worldwide, many have found the free account — which does not allow users to communicate with their matches — to be limiting. You’re required to upgrade to one of the paid subscriptions, which start at $15.96 per month, to read and respond to messages, send unlimited likes, and view who’s “Liked” you. 

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SilverSingles, a platform also tailored to singles aged 50 and up, has a few unique features that make it stand out among other apps in the age-based space. For one, the platform is only available in the U.S., the U.K., Canada, Australia, France, and Germany. Additionally, the senior dating site uses responses from a personality test to provide three to seven matches per day. 

SilverSingles offers a helping hand for romance-seeking seniors who are introverted and want to put their trust in a matchmaking algorithm. The dating pool of singles is smaller compared to mainstream swiping apps, and that can be less overwhelming for newcomers.

As a free user, you can create a standard profile, engage in basic communication (via “likes” and emojis), and view the profiles of your matches. To send direct messages, unlock access to pictures of all your matches, and receive a full analysis of your personality test, you’ll need to upgrade to a paid plan, starting at $24.95 per month. 

6. Stitch 

As the research on happiness grows, more and more studies are revealing that platonic relationships and sense of community are just as integral to life satisfaction as romantic partnerships are — who woulda thunk it? Luckily, apps like Stitch are around to make the search for both that much easier. 

Exclusively designed for those 50 and older, this social platform uses simple profiles showcasing interests and relationship preferences to foster a safe space for friends and singles to get to know each other.

The Stitch Community Helps Older Singles Expand Their Social Circles
Stitch is a social network where senior people can build connections.

For mature individuals interested in skipping the drawn-out digital correspondence and risk of catfishing, Stitch offers premium users in-person interaction through a range of community-based events. 

But if you’re in the mood to think globally rather than locally, Stitch may still be the app to make that happen. With a paid membership, you can connect with users from all parts of the world and walks of life (and finally put that fancy suitcase your brother-in-law got you for Christmas to good use).

7. SeniorMatch 

SeniorMatch is reserved for — you guessed it — users 50 and older looking for meaningful connections. Founded in the early 2000s, this dating platform uses a state-of-the-art algorithm search to find compatible matches based on preferences, interests, lifestyle habits, and other factors.

For those looking to take their love-finding experience into their own hands, the app also allows users to conduct intuitive and senior-friendly searches using filters of their own choosing. 

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SeniorMatch is a premium dating site for singles over 50 years old.

The standout feature of SeniorMatch is its community forums and blogs. That’s where singles can provide tips to other members, chitchat about their experiences, and connect with users from around the world, whether romantically or platonically. 

Best Gay & Lesbian Dating Apps for Introverts 

Lesbehonest (c’mon, I had to): Being gay in this world is tough enough as it is. Add being shy and the standard complexities of dating into the mix, and you’ve already got yourself a smorgasbord of issues to deal with as you start your dating journey. Here to put shy LGBTQ+ singles at ease and make the search for connection that much easier are the following apps: 

8. The Bro App 

Easy does it is the name of the game when it comes to this next app on our list. Born out of a desire to break free from the hypersexualized gay dating app scene, The Bro App creates a safe space for gay or bisexual men to explore connections with other like-minded men without the pressure to DTR. Whether you’re looking to explore your sexuality, find a FWB, or make some guy friends who “just get it,” The Bro App provides you with the platform to get it done — and at a pace that feels right for you. 

The Bro App helps single men find like-minded guys
The Bro App is an app where guys can mingle without pressure to hook up.

To get your bromance on, all you have to do is set up a free account, identify what kind of bro you are (“Preppy Bro”, “Hipster Bro”, and “Casual Bro” are a few of your options), and select the kind of relationship you’re searching for. But don’t worry: If you’re in the midst of your Confused Era and can’t pinpoint exactly what you want, you can always tap the “Whatever” option and be on your merry way. 

Free users can shoot their shot with Fistbumps (the app’s version of likes or pokes), send direct messages, or start a meme war or two on the app’s sponsored Facebook group called Bros and Stuff. Users can snag a Premium subscription for only $5.99 per month and get access to more chat capabilities and premium features. 

9. HER

Is this an app exclusively designed for fans of American R&B singer H.E.R.? No, but we are planning on presenting that idea to the Shark Tank panel next week, so stay tuned. 

HER is a dating app made for any user who identifies as lesbian, bisexual, non-binary, pansexual, or queer. Frustrated by her own experience as a lesbian in the dating app world, Founder Robyn Exton brought HER into the mix in the hopes that single women in the LGBTQ+ community would find safety and inclusion in their exploration journey. 

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The HER dating app has over 13 million members, all of whom identify as female.

As a free user you can swipe through your local pool of singles, message your matches, and get connected with online communities of like-minded people. Users do complain about the onslaught of pesky ads while you scroll, however, so you’ll need to upgrade to a paid subscription to get rid of them. 

10. Lex 

The phrase “A picture’s worth 1,000 words” takes a back seat when it comes to this next dating app. Created to nurture connections based on common interests and sexual preferences rather than looks, Lex serves as a safe (and completely free) space for queer, trans, non-binary, and gender non-conforming people. Users can post photo-less personal ads, browse the ads of other users (whether locally or globally), and initiate conversation topics that go beyond the standard “Top or bottom?”. 

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Lex welcomes introverted women who want to find their tribe online.

What users look for from the Lex app varies widely. If you’re someone who enjoys a good sample platter, you’ll likely feel right at home. “I look for clarity and intention, first and foremost!” says Lex user Alannah, 25

“I look for mentions of kink or BDSM or sexting,” says Monster, 47. 

Others are more in it for the juicy dialogue: “It’s all about the conversation and banter/back and forth for me, because if that’s not there, I’m not interested for long”, claims Lex user Michelle, 26. 

11. Taimi 

Who doesn’t love a dynamic duo? Taimi, a popular LGBTQ+ dating app with 4.2 stars on Google Play and 4.4 stars on the Apple Store, blends many of the traditional characteristics of a standard dating app with capabilities of some of the most popular social media platforms. With a free account, not only can users carry out their typical left or right swiping sessions, but they can post daily stories to their profile, execute virtual dates via the app’s built-in video feature, and join interest-based online communities. 

Taimi dating app screenshot
Taimi is an LGBTQ+ dating app with engaging features for socializing and making friends.

One of its standout features is the prioritization of safety and security, which can be particularly important to an introverted LGBTQ+ single. The app is actively searching for and removing fake or inappropriate profiles to put users — especially those new to exploring their sexuality — at ease.

Despite these positives, there have been several customer complaints about the limited search options for free users. That being said, the kind of budget you’re willing to work with as you embark on the road toward connection is certainly something to consider. 

FAQs: What Are Good Conversation Starters for Online Dating? 

Similar interests are always a good place to start an online dating conversation. Big Harry Potter fan? Come in hot with your favorite movie line. Saw that they like to hike? Ask them which trails are their go-tos. 

If you don’t want to get too creative with it, stick with the basics and ask about their goals, hobbies, or pets (you know, the usual). 

At all costs, avoid dumb pickup lines! No one likes to feel like they’re the 300th person you’ve tried a cheesy line on. Get personal with it! 

Which Dating App Has the Most Detailed Profiles? 

When it comes to online dating, certain platforms have become known for putting quality over quantity. Match is the original dating site in the industry, and its mature membership has always been more interested in reading bios than swiping through selfies. Match bios include personal information about hobbies and goals that inform dating choices.

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Another dating platform with detail-oriented profiles is eharmony. This serious dating service provides compatibility assessments for users that take its personality quiz. The algorithm will rate how compatible two users are based on their answers regarding family values, temperament, lifestyle, and other important relationship factors.

And if you love quizzes, you’ll love OkCupid, which has over 4,000 questions in its virtually endless questionnaire. Singles can answer as many or as few as they like, and the more they answer, the more tailored their suggested matches will become! OkCupid profiles offer a range of interesting prompts on top of the questionnaire, so users don’t have to worry about not being able to express themselves here.

How Do I Get Over My Shyness in Dating Situations? 

Practice makes perfect! The more you take yourself out of your comfort zone, the more at ease you’ll feel. You can also set goals to keep your progress on track. For example: Set quotas for sending a specific number of messages per day and asking out a specific number of dates per week. You can even hire a dating coach if you’re ready to get serious with it and build a real relationship.

Introverts Can Break Out of Their Shells on the Right App! 

Online dating as an introvert is kind of like riding a roller coaster for the first time. You scream and cry (or was that just me?) for the entire hour-long line just to come out the other end smiling and saying “Wait, that was actually kinda fun!”. In other words, sometimes the anticipation is the worst part. And all it really takes is a healthy push — and a solid community of support — to feel empowered to move past your fears and fully absorb the benefits of this journey. 

With apps like those mentioned above, you’ve got plenty of options to help you find that community for yourself. Whether you’re a divorcee looking for a second chance at marriage, a bottom-loving butch hoping for a night of fun, or a fantasy-obsessed book nerd looking for a friend to attend renaissance festivals with, these apps provide the platform to help you get the job done. The rest of the work, of course, is up to you!

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