Let's Talk Approaching & Flirting (Page 10)

The phrase “pickup line” is usually associated with men. In fact, I’ve never heard a guy say, “So I was at this bar last night and this woman came up to me with the best pickup line I’ve ever heard.” I’m not even sure a woman anywhere in the world has ever delivered a pickup line. Ever. In case you’d like to utter the inaugural female pickup line, I’ve listed a few suggestions and a few to avoid. Guys love humor....

Nobody is born with confidence. Like riding a bike, writing in cursive or baking a chocolate-raspberry torte - it is a learned skill. For men, being shy can spell disaster on the dating scene. Most women prefer men who exude confidence and voice their opinion. So guys, how do you get over shyness - especially shyness that’s affecting your ability to meet the girl of your dreams? Overcome shyness with confidence....

Reader Question: How do you show a guy you like him? -Emily B. (Utah) Expert's Answer: Hi, Emily. It sounds like you want to send a signal to some great guy to let him know he should go ahead and ask you out or at least spend a little more time talking to you. That shouldn’t be too hard. After all, you’re a girl, and he’s a guy. That’s half the battle right there. The four cornerstones of flirting are:...

You can meet good guys at church and at family reunions — and even then it’s a crapshoot. Actually, there are great guys online and at bars, but they’re hard to pick out among the other grains of sand. The real bottom line is that you have to use your instincts (the higher ones, not the lower ones) to guide you in your selections. You can probably improve your odds of finding good guys if you go to the same places...

I recognize that in many ways I’m old fashioned. I believe, as a rule, men should initiate the “firsts” in a relationship. He should call you first, ask you out first, kiss you first and definitely say “I love you” first. But rules are meant to be broken and there are always exceptions. If you meet a guy you’re into, flirt with him to let him know you’re interested. Usually, the guy will ask you for your number...

If you’ve developed feelings for one of your female friends, then you are not alone. At one point or another, every man has gone down this same path, and while your situation seems extremely complicated and uncomfortable, every man has found his way through this ordeal. Once you realize you’ve developed feelings for one of your female friends, you have to tell her immediately. To keep your feelings to yourself and...

Most of us have a guy friend who we go to when we need, well, advice about guys. He’s someone who tells you like it is, someone you are comfortable not wearing makeup around or someone you don’t mind taking the last slice of pizza from. But what happens when your friendly feelings become more than friendly? Friendships between men and women have always been complicated. How do you tell your friend you want to be more...

Who says bars and the Internet are the only places left to meet men? Technically, you can meet men anywhere. Though, what I recommend is checking out some less-than-conventional places for meeting guys. I don’t mean just talking to random guys but, rather, to guys who are a lot more likely to be date-worthy than others. Check out these three slightly unusual places to meet men. 1. Retirement homes. No, you’re not...

It’s not hard to think outside the box when you’re looking for new places to meet women. Just remember that wherever you go in your daily routine, there are bound to be women there, too. The key is to turn off that white noise of business and sports in your mind that shuts down your powers of observation so you can “see” them wherever you go. At checkout counters everywhere. Leave your iPod in the car when you run...

There is no three-day rule or anything else that governs when you should call a girl. Presumably, you’ve been talking for a while before you got her number, so there may not be a lot more to say an hour later. But sooner is usually better than later. A few tips: • Before you say goodnight, make an excuse to call her the same night or the next day. Maybe you will check the date of your friend’s party, find out...

This is a great question! I live in a small town, and I am quite familiar with the challenges that accompany this situation. With a population of 10,000, my area is made up of young families — 30-somethings raising kids — and retirees who have come to spend their fortunes and enjoy small-town America. Might I add, there’s not a lot of people like me living around here — single, career-driven, no kids, etc. I have...

The world is full of nice guys. You pass them by every day in grocery stores, hallways and parking lots. Most of us climb into our bubble and shut down our romance antennas during everyday activities, so we never notice the possibilities all around us. The very best place to meet nice guys is in “real life.” When you're at the gym or dance club, you have your shields up, and the sexual tension can become too overt...

Even in today’s progressive world of relative gender equality, there are still a few “final frontiers” that men and women have yet to cross. In the world of dating and relationships, one of the last bastions of rigid gender roles lies in the expectation that the man will always make the first move and ask the woman out. But it’s entirely possible for women to ask men out, and even with gender expectations as they...

He seemed so nice when you met him. You gave him your phone number, which you haven’t given out to the last 200 guys who asked for it, and now that silent cell phone in your handbag seems to mock you every time you look at it. Ten days and still no call? Were you duped again? Don’t worry about it! There are a lot of legitimate reasons why guys don’t call. If you understand the reasons, it might be easier for you...

Half the people on the planet are women — so they aren’t hard to find!  Why, then, do we make such a big deal about finding them? They’re everywhere! The real question is: Why do we keep going to bars and nightclubs to meet women? Could there be a more hostile environment for introducing yourself to a lovely lady? Her defenses are already up. Think about it. Her shields are set to maximum because she “knows” what...

As someone who spent most of my life in the “friend zone,” I can empathize. You were a tomboy as a kid — riding bikes, jumping off rope swings and being dared to eat worms. Then in middle school, you looked for acceptance and started collecting baseball cards. Take us to high school and you were the girl offering to wear a team jacket and take scores at hockey games. So what happens when you get to college or...

In my 30-plus years, men have said probably a thousand things to me that have given me the willies. Here’s a rundown of the “lucky 7” phrases and why they suck. Guys, pay attention — stay away from these and it may just help you score date number one, date number two or even just a conversation in a bar. 1. You’re hot. Why it sucks: I’d rather be pretty, beautiful, cute or nice. A guy who tells a woman “you’re hot”...

Long before the “Rules Book” on dating came out, girls everywhere were being told by their mothers and grandmothers if you so much as smile at a guy first, it makes you the proverbial cow giving him free milk all over the place! Is it any wonder why so many women don’t want to make the first move and initiate when it comes to dating? We’ve been told for so long that initiating anything, from first interactions to...

So you’ve signed up to a top online dating site, procured the perfect profile, and you’re ready to start meeting potential partners. But you’re not quite sure how to initiate the online meet and greet. We’ve got you covered. Here’s a list of what to say and, more importantly, what not to say. And remember to mind your Ps and Qs. This is not a quick text to your best friend. Be cognizant of your grammar and...