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Are you interested in being a man of solid, upstanding character? You should be. These are the kind of men who deserve and attract the kind of women who will make their lives wonderful in the long term, rather than a living hell. If you want to attract a wonderful woman in the long term, you want to be a man who has a solid foundation to his worldview. You need to be a man whose word is his bond. You have to be a...

Recently, I was in a South Beach hotel hanging out. I decided to check out the in-room movies, and there was this movie called “Warm Bodies.” I had a look to see what it was about, and it turned out to be the story of a zombie falling in love. I was thinking, “Zombies in love?” I've seen many zombie moves in my time, "Dawn of the Dead" and "Evil Dead" to name a couple, and all the zombies in those films want to do...

If you’re a mature single man and interested in a long-term relationship with a boomer woman, then you might be having some difficulties in meeting quality women and getting to know them. Most of the baby boomer men enjoy pursuing an active lifestyle more so than their fathers. By their 50s and 60s, they have learned to eat better without following any fad diets. They watch what they eat and are quite active....

Men always give me a million reasons for why they don’t have any success with women…they’re full of excuses or explanations or existential concerns. As a dating coach and seduction expert, I've heard it all. More often than not, what they say to me is never the actual reason behind their inability to succeed with women. It’s always an excuse. This being said, the following 14 things about yourself are the real...

Most women take a passive approach to online dating. Often we think about the old dating rules, which clearly state men should be the ones to pursue women. With digital dating, the old rules are obsolete. I am telling you to toss away your feminine ego and dating rules of the past if you truly want to get more dates and meet the man you could possibly fall in love with. Sure, male biology is accurate and men do...

You’re single and ready to mingle, but you can’t seem to seal the deal. In my nearly 10 years as a dating coach, I’ve discovered this means you’re in one of two categories. You’re either a "Watcher" or a "Pusher." Watchers are the quintessential nice guys. They’re so afraid of offending a girl, being rejected or getting a drink tossed in their face that they won’t make the initial approach. With online dating,...

So how did you get yourself into this fix? When first encountering a girl they like, many guys will try to avoid instant rejection by going the “just friends” route first, thinking that once the girl sees what a nice, thoughtful guy he is or how much they have in common, he can just flip a switch and turn the “friendship” into a “romance." This, of course, rarely works out the way the guy plans, and he ends up...

The physical act of going on dates and getting to know someone new can be exhilarating, but you actually have to get someone to go out on a date with you first! Our 10 Best Pickup Artist Blogs have all the right moves - just check them out for yourself. Love Systems BEST OF Bragging Rights:...

Throughout my days, I was fortunate enough to score quite a decent amount of girl-girl-guy threesomes. I’ve had the guy-guy-girl ones, too, but let’s be honest - you can’t really compare the two. Whenever I did get girl-girl-guy threesomes, it was down to two very distinct methods. Both methods require a high level of experience, and a threesome is definitely not something that will happen overnight. However, if...

So you’re getting out and socializing at a variety of groups, associations and activities. Good for you! And you’re attending a senior singles event. Good job! Well, just because you are going to this networking event does not mean you will attract and meet the next great love of your life that day. Even so, that needn’t mean this evening and your time was wasted. Whenever you attend a social event, I recommend...

It’s true: Being funny is a very attractive trait for a guy to have. It is often said if you can get a girl laughing, you can get her to do anything. But how do you actually get her laughing? What do you do? In my experience as a social confidence coach, most guys who want to be funnier will employ an ineffective approach: They’ll try to find funny lines and routines to memorize and use in conversations. The...

One of the most important make-it-or-break-it moments in dating is your introduction when approaching a person you’re interested in getting to know better. Since first impressions and judgments are formed within the first couple of minutes (or less) of meeting someone, your presentation during your approach is critical in ensuring that hot guy you want to strike up a conversation with reciprocates an interest. This...

When it comes to being good with women, there’s actually a lot of things that can influence your success. Today’s list focuses on one major trait many guys seem to overlook - uniqueness. Being unique is a quality that’s incredibly important to women, but it’s also the one thing that makes us who we are. Instead of doing what everybody else does, you should aim to be different and give women a reason for wanting to...

Besides making your body beautiful and adding years to your life, gyms can have an infamous reputation for being meat markets. So what? If you spot a hottie, use it to your advantage. 1. Earbuds out. I know you love jamming to Katy, but she’s not going to get a guy to talk to you. Take your earbuds out. Headphones make you look closed off and unapproachable. If you have to have your music (I get it), only use it...

Nobody said meeting Mr. Right was going to be easy. Like all good things in life, finding a partner takes patience and a bit of trial and error -- and maybe a trusty dating app on your side. At DatingAdvice.com, we understand meeting single men can seem like a chore at times. That’s why we’ve compiled a list of the top six ways to meet the man of your dreams. So in order of best to next best, here you go: 1. Online...

Sure, there are plenty of attractive women who can hold a somewhat interesting conversation, but it’s no easy task finding a woman you’d want to take home to Mom. At DatingAdvice.com, we understand the trials and tribulations associated with dating. With that said, we’ve constructed a list of the top eight ways to meet single women. So kick up your feet and relax. We’ve done a lot of the work for you. 1. Online...

It’s no secret that finding viable candidates for a relationship takes work – especially if you’re a gay man. At DatingAdvice.com, we recognize the complexities that come with dating. That’s why we’ve compiled a list of the top six ways to meet gay men. So whether you like to party it up at the club or prefer to keep it mellow, here are some tips, tricks and tactics to finding the man of your dreams. 1. Online...

If you’re serious about meeting a guy, you’ve probably already read a ton of articles with different points of view on the best way to conduct yourself when meeting Mr. Right. When you are ready to meet the man of your dreams, it’s important to know the right way to act. One mistake can cost you the chance of meeting a great guy, send you home with a tub of Ben and Jerry’s and leave you wondering why the universe...

Communication is the foundation to all of our relationships. It is key to establishing a connection with someone new and getting to know your date. Communication exists beyond what we say and the words we chose to convey our thoughts and emotions. Communication goes much deeper than verbal language, as our actions and behaviors show others who we are. Your nonverbal communication (body language, eye contact,...

Women love sex just as much as men do - note the use of the word "men." As a man, you don’t want to be aggressive (that’s what boys do). Women know when they are being hit on by a boy. A boy tries to force the situation. A man allows the situation to flow naturally. A boy has an agenda. A man has no agenda. A man can walk away, which means she will probably want him to stay and get intimate. You see, if intimacy...

Reader Question: When it comes to striking a conversation with a woman, I lack confidence or knowledge on what to say. What can I do? -Michael (Texas) Dr. Wendy Walsh's Answer: Dear Michael, Your problem may be that your anxiety about being liked by a woman shuts down the winning personality you use with men. The very fact you think women want or need different subjects when striking up a conversation...

"How do I know if the woman I'm interested in is lesbian?" This is a question I hear often from lesbians who are new or inexperienced in the dating game. How you approach an “unknown” woman shouldn’t be much different than how you approach a known lesbian - or anyone for that matter. Introduce yourself, say hello and ask her name. Tell her you found something about her interesting and perhaps ask, “Are you from...

Reader Question: How do you approach a woman when some people still don't believe in same-sex relationships? -Veronica (Illinois) Dr. Wendy Walsh's Answer: Dear Veronica, Here’s a gentle tip: When you become truly, deeply accepting of yourself and your sexuality, it will be much easier. Yes, even gay people can feel homophobic. I once met a lesbian woman who was so accepting of herself that she told me...

Reader Question: I am over 50, in good shape and have a great sense of humor. I listen well to other people and am a great person to talk with, but I cannot attract women. I am sad about it because women hold too much on attraction. I guess I am not attracted enough. Do you have any ideas? -Brad (Virginia) Dr. Wendy Walsh's Answer: Dear Brad, Did you notice your Freudian slip? You said, “I guess I’m...

Reader Question: I’d like to find out if I have a shot with this girl at my job. We laugh and joke but I haven’t gotten to know her that well. I know she has a boyfriend because he works here too. So that MIGHT be an issue. I’d just like to see what happens. What do you think my next move should be? -Chase (Georgia) Dr. Wendy Walsh's Answer: Dear Chase, Well, you are an optimistic man. You have a...

If you’re a senior single, I’ll bet one of the challenges you’re facing in your dating life is where to meet other quality singles. As the weather warms up, you now have more opportunities and venues open to you where you can meet quality mature singles. Some of the core attributes senior singles tell me they want in a mate is they have an active lifestyle and are interesting. You want a life partner whom you can...

Something like 98% percent of women tell me there is one particular thing they LOATHE about men that is also a deal-breaker. This particular thing will RUIN your chances of success with women. Women LOATHE cocky men. Cocky men try too hard to impress. Cockiness hides insecurity. Cockiness is low self-esteem turned outward and is the very antithesis of an assured, strong man. A cocky man attempts to win a woman...

Men are led to believe they have to do the "courting" in a traditional heteronormative relationship. From the outset, we are set up for rejection from women -- some of us get used to it, others refuse to accept it and a few of us work out how to get around it. When it comes to meeting girls and trying to get a date, most men are trying too hard and most women have had enough. Remember that girl in the supermarket...

“There’s nothing tragic about being 50. Not unless you’re trying to be 25.” That's what Joe Gillis said to Norma Desmond in the movie "Sunset Boulevard." (Shortly thereafter, she shot him.) Many women are startled at how fast the years have flown by and how quickly old “Father Time” sneaks up on them. It can be a revelation to see how much older your peers are looking these days. In moments of painful honesty, you...

“You’re either born with it or you’re not.” I hear that a lot. I hear it mainly from guys who have trouble socializing “naturally,” so they turn to systems and methods that change dating into a scientific experiment. These guys break down the dating process into a step-by-step procedure, analyzing each part. And the most overly-analyzed aspect of the dating process is getting her phone number. "When do I ask her...