12 Best Free Lesbian Dating Apps for Hookups (2019)

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12 Best Free Lesbian Dating Apps for Hookups (2019)

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Marriage used to be the ultimate goal for most young girls, but times have changed. Now up to 25% of millennials may never tie the knot, according to census data projections, and they’re OK with that. Instead of daydreaming about bridal dresses and flower arrangements, some modern women dream about nights of romance and pleasure.

A growing number of single lesbians have used the power of online dating to land hot dates and pursue casual relationships. According to a Match survey, the average lesbian woman has had 12 sexual partners, and 56% of LGBTQ singles said they have dated someone they met online.

If you’re more interested in one-night stands than in one true love, then you’ve come to the right place. We’ve created a list of hookup apps designed to help women arrange steamy encounters without making a big commitment.

1

BeNaughty

★★★★★
4.5/5.0
BeNaughty

Available on: iOS, Android

  • Relationships: Casual Encounters
  • Match System: Sort profiles by zip code, appearance, more
  • About the App: "Try more new delights. Feel no limits!" is BeNaughty's promise to naughty singles. After you download BeNaughty, you're automatically given a free account. There aren't any limits on how many profiles you view, matches you receive, and chat rooms you participate in. On the app, you can be as racy as you want because your info and conversations are protected by SSL and 24/7 customer service.
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BeNaughty is a female-friendly hookup app designed to connect flirtatious and sexually active people. The Like Gallery allows users to swipe through potential matches by answering the question, “Cute or Not?”

Users can favorite, like, or message anyone who catches their eye online. The advanced search parameters empower lesbian women to seek dates who meet their standards in terms of age, location, appearance, and orientation.

BeNaughty offers many perks to help singles get into the action. If you want to increase your visibility on the dating app, you can enroll in a premium subscription for as little as 45 cents a day.

2

AFF.com

★★★★★
4.7/5.0
AFF.com

Available on: iOS, Android

  • Relationships: Hookups Only
  • Match System: Filter by distance, gender, encounter
  • About the App: One-night stands, full-blown affairs, threesomes, swinging encounters — you name it and Adult Friend Finder can help you find it. A favorite among iOS and Android users, this app is one of the most established and largest names in the hookup industry. Adult Friend Finder has more than 77 million members and is responsible for more than 4.5 million connections.
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With over 95 million users, Adult Friend Finder (AFF) prides itself on being the world’s largest dating platform for singles and swingers. The app was deemed too naughty for the Google Play Store, but the team came up with a workaround to help mobile users access AFF.

Now lesbians can mingle on Adult Friend Finder from any mobile device or desktop. Users don’t have to disclose their full names to register an account on this discreet platform, and only full members can view dating profiles, send private messages, and mingle in chat rooms.

The AFF community welcomes women of all orientations, and it offers nonjudgmental blogs, forums, and other spaces where they can express their desires.

3

FriendFinder-X

★★★★
4.4/5.0
FriendFinder-X

Available on: iOS, Andriod

  • Relationships: One-Night Stands, Threesomes, Affairs
  • Match System: Search on your own, plus receive matches
  • About the App: FriendFinder-X is a popular online sex community that welcomes singles and couples (who are at least 18 years old) with various sexual desires and of various genders, sexual orientations, and locations. Whether you're an iPhone or Android fan, you can download the app without having to pay a cent, and then you can take it wherever you go.
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Lesbian singles and couples can sign up for FriendFinder-X to spice up their love lives within a few clicks. This dating platform has distinguished itself as the place “where good girls do bad things.”

This mobile-friendly space encourages casual hookups and secret affairs. Millions of people have been drawn to its X-rated content and live chatting features.

Privacy is a top priority for the FriendFinder-X team, and it goes to great lengths to protect its members and allow them to browse the dating scene anonymously.

4

LesbianPersonals

★★★★
4.2/5.0
LesbianPersonals

Available on: iOS, Andriod

  • Relationships: Casual Sex
  • Match System: Browse by area, appearance, and other identifiers
  • About the App: Hooking up just got easier for lesbian singles and couples thanks to LesbianPersonals. The app, which won't cost you a penny to download, only requires you to complete six steps, and then you're free to start browsing profiles and connecting with millions (30 million, to be exact) passionate ladies.
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Unlike the other apps on the list so far, LesbianPersonals caters to the lesbian dating scene. A majority of members are lesbian, queer, bisexual, or questioning women. Straight men and women can only join if they identify themselves as part of a straight couple seeking a threesome.

LesbianPersonals has a quick sign-up process, so nothing stands between you and a sexy woman. The platform allows women to send instant messages, exchange photos or videos, and use a two-way webcam to get to know each other better online. Whenever they’re comfortable, they can take the conversation off the app and see if the chemistry is there in person.

While LesbianPersonals supports an international lesbian community, the app uses location-based features to help locals find one another and turn their online romance into a real-life hookup.

5. Tinder

Any list of hookup apps would be incomplete without Tinder. This dating app invented swiping in 2012 and thus gave singles endless opportunities to judge one another based on a photo and byline. Like it or not, Tinder offers a fast way to sift through local dates and discover mutual attraction.

Since its launch, Tinder has created over 30 billion matches in more than 190 countries. The team estimates that it facilitates over 1 million dates per week.

Screenshot of Tinder

Tinder has fueled countless hookups and casual flings with its swiping technology.

While other dating apps try to find a formula for love, Tinder liberates its users to trust their instincts and pursue hotties for the fun of it. The app calls this Swipe Life — and millions of singles have hopped on board the casual train. Queer women have also embraced Tinder and found sexual partners on the app.

Tinder is the king of the fling and the queen of the casual scene, so anyone looking for lesbian hookups should consider downloading this app.

6. OkCupid

In 2012, OkCupid became the first major dating site to release a companion dating app for Android and iPhone users. The app offers the same perks as the original site (which was created in 2004), but in a more convenient, mobile-friendly format.

From the outset, OkCupid has been a dating platform of the people and by the people. It offers 100% free and unlimited messaging as well as tons of matching and search features to help people connect. The app also calculates a unique compatibility rating that measures how much you have in common with each dating profile.

Screenshot from OkCupid

On OkCupid, lesbians can tailor their dating experiences to suit their personalities.

OkCupid satisfies casual and serious daters alike with its free communication and in-depth profiles. You don’t just have a photo to go on here. Many OkCupid users take the time to create lengthy bios describing their ambitions, desires, interests, and quirks. The app has many fun prompts, including “six things I could never do without,” “I’m really good at,” and “you should message me if.”

In 2014, OkCupid solidified itself as an ally to the LGBTQ community by introducing 22 gender options and 13 orientation options to its profile creation process.

7. PlentyOfFish

PlentyOfFish is a chat-friendly dating app where lesbians can fish for local dates one message at a time. POF members send over 1 billion messages a month on average, and the dating platform boasts supporting more conversations than any of its competitors.

Lesbians don’t have to pay a cent to send and receive messages on PlentyOfFish. The app’s free communication is part of what has made it so successful and popular among singles.

Screenshot of PlentyOfFish

Every day, more than 4 million people log into PlentyOfFish seeking love and romance.

PlentyOfFish administers a Chemistry Test to establish what singles are looking for in the dating scene. If you say you want a casual relationship, the site will suggest matches who live in the area and want the same thing. Many POF success stories have proven the efficacy of this matching system.

8. Scissr

From its unique profile setup to its kick-ass name, Scissr isn’t afraid to color outside the lines and shake up the dating scene. The dating app promises a “bespoken lesbian culture” where community comes first. As you can probably tell from its name, Scissr is dedicated to stimulating sexually satisfying relationships between two women.

Scissr caters to LGBTQ+ women who aren’t getting their needs met on general dating apps. The women-only space facilitates intimate conversation and networking with no limits on who you can like or message.

Screenshot of Scissr

Scissr is a women-only hookup app that satisfies its users’ lust for adventure.

Scissr is free to download on iTunes and Google Play. Its elegant design appeals to women who want to cut through the nonsense and create genuine connections that lead to the bedroom.

To use the words of the Scissr team, “Our goal is to create an experience where all lesbians can find satisfaction. It is your bespoken, custom-made experience.”

9. HER

A lesbian entrepreneur created HER (originally called Dattch) to give single women a community where they could feel a sense of belonging. It’s about more than just dating — it’s about bonding with LGBTQ+ women. This social dating platform is currently active in over 50 countries.

HER has over 4 million members, all of whom have been verified as genuine. Women must connect to an existing social media account to use HER, and moderators review and approve all profile content. Thanks to its proactive safety measures, HER can promise to provide a scam-free and dick-free zone.

Screenshot of HER's website

HER can inspire romance with its private messaging and events calendar.

Once you’ve downloaded HER and created a profile, you can start browsing dating profiles, commenting on users’ photos, and making genuine connections. The dating app also has a calendar of events for users to post queer-friendly happenings around town. You can read our full review of HER’s features and testimonials.

The HER team empowers women to celebrate their differences and embrace their sexuality, and it’s hard not to love such a warm and welcoming environment.

10. Fem

Fem is a straightforward lesbian dating app packed with valuable features, including video profiles and real-time chat. Women don’t have to make a video for their profiles, but it does add a little more pizzazz and personality, so it’s a great way to get someone’s attention.

The Fem app has private and group chat features available, and users can also send videos and photos to their matches. Only mutual matches can communicate on Fem, but these connections never expire. You can send unlimited messages for free forever.

Screenshot of Fem

The Fem dating app allows singles to see videos and photos of women nearby.

Many dating apps get poor reviews for having few real profiles or limited matching features, but women really seem to enjoy Fem, which currently has a 4.0 star-rating on Google Play. “The girls on here are gorgeous, and it’s setup so nicely,” said Amree in a review. “It’s easy to navigate.”

11. PinkCupid

PinkCupid offers a premium online dating experience for lesbians seeking short-term and long-term relationships. Since 2006, the dating platform has built an international lesbian community with thousands of active members.

As part of the Cupid Media network, PinkCupid has access to a database of 30 million singles. PinkCupid uses its resources to connect single women in the U.S., the U.K., Australia, and Canada.

Screenshot of PinkCupid.com

PinkCupid.com supports women in the search for local romance.

You can read PinkCupid’s testimonials to get a sense of how many women have found love and happiness here. You can make a match within minutes using this simple technology. The PinkCupid app is currently available on Google Play.

12. PinkSofa

Aimed at a more mature lesbian audience, PinkSofa invites women over 30 to mingle in a casual dating environment. Whether you’re seeking friendship, love, or sex, you can use PinkSofa to increase your odds of meeting someone special.

PinkSofa aims to inspire love, friendship, and community on its virtual sofa. In addition to private messaging, PinkSofa supports group discussion forums where women can chitchat for as long as they like.

Screenshot of PinkSofa

PinkSofa invites women to chat, flirt, and make quality connections online.

PinkSofa Founder, Liz James, came out over 20 years ago, and she has a pretty good idea what lesbian women want. “I often get asked how I came up with the name Pink Sofa,” Liz said. “It really came down to what I wanted to create, which was a comfortable, friendly space to sit and chat and meet each other.”

Does Online Dating Work for Lesbians?

The short answer to this question is yes. Online dating can help lesbians meet one another and enjoy promising first dates. It’s actually particularly useful for singles in the LGBTQ+ community. In 2017, 65% of same-sex couples said they met online, while only 39% of straight couples said the same.

Photo of a lesbian couple

Many lesbian couples have dating sites and apps to thank for introducing them.

Lesbians can have trouble spotting one another IRL, so mingling in an all-women singles database can be a liberating experience. “My wife and I met online in 2004,” one woman told Cosmopolitan. “Somehow it linked us together, and we met in person.”

Of course, dating sites and apps aren’t fairy godmothers with magic romance-creating powers. Singles have to put in the time and effort to build the relationships they want. Not every mutual match will lead to a real-life lesbian romance, but that’s no reason to give up on online dating completely. You have to be persistent if you want to get results.

As lesbian matchmaker Dr. Frankie Bashan said, “Staying positive and communicating clearly are important parts of the process. If someone doesn’t respond, there are infinite numbers of reasons why that have absolutely nothing to do with rejection.”

How Can I Stay Safe Online?

Many women have safety concerns when it comes to online dating. Meeting a stranger online is naturally nerve-wracking, and it doesn’t help that so many online dating horror stories are floating around out there.

Photo of online dating dangers

Lesbians should establish clear boundaries to keep themselves safe online.

When meeting people on dating sites and apps, lesbians should take some precautions such as always planning first dates in public places and telling a friend where they’re going. You should also avoid drinking too much alcohol on a first date, so you can keep your head and make sound decisions. You’ll also make a better first impression by staying sober.

Lesbian and bisexual women can run into trouble online too sometimes. Maybe a woman is asking for favors and money, or maybe a creepy guy wants a threesome and won’t take ‘no’ for an answer. You don’t have to let those negative encounters spoil your whole experience. If someone is harassing you, block the profile and report it to the dating site or app.

Many queer women feel particularly vulnerable to harassment and discrimination, so it’s important that they do their research, understand the potential pitfalls, and seek resources to help and support them.

“As queer people, we want to be treated as normal,” said one woman in a survey. “The thing is, ‘normal people’ harass and abuse. Straight men do it. Straight women do it. So do gay men and gay women. This is not a gender or sexual orientation issue. It’s about being human.”

What are the Best Ways to Flirt With Women?

Successful flirting strategies are very much situational. For instance, buying a woman a drink may work well at a bar, but it’s not going to fly at a coffee shop. And saying “hi, how are you?” is a pretty good opener at a party, but it’s one of the least effective openers on a dating site. You have to respect the social norms in place when you strike up a conversation with someone new.

These lesbian flirting tips can give you a few ideas of the small touches, jokes, and innuendos that can win women over in person.

“A single compliment, when done in a very sincere, charming way, can open a lot of doors.” — Lesbian News

In the online dating world, flirting can be as easy as sending a wink or a Super Like. Such moves can indicate you’re interested and invite the person to like you back or even send a message. Once you’ve initiated a chat, you should plan your messages carefully. Talking about sex too early on can be a turn off on general dating sites, but singles don’t usually mind it on hookup apps — because, after all, that’s why they’re there in the first place.

Overall, the best way to turn an online chat into a real-life date is by establishing mutual interest, so ask deep, interesting questions to get the ball rolling.

Chase Your Dreams on Lesbian Dating Apps for Hookups

The institution of marriage may be in decline in the U.S., but hookup culture is alive and well. Online dating has created more romantic opportunities than ever before, and that has forever changed how singles meet one another.

Lesbians no longer have to settle for just one partner for life — they can play the field, meet lots of interesting women, and enjoy being single. The top-rated hookup apps on this list can help badass queer women come into their own and find a sexual awakening just around corner.