Let's Talk Breakups (Page 3)

Sometimes you're driving around, going about your day-to-day business, when all of a sudden a simple song starts playing on the radio that makes you cry because you're having a breakup flashback. By the time you get to the chorus, you’re cry-singing. Cry-singing is a displeasing musical technique, where sobbing and muttered obscenities replace the actual lyrics. Songs seem more relatable when you're hurt, angry or...

When we think of widowhood, we most often think of wives losing their husbands, but almost as often it is the man who is left to carry on alone. These six great sites were selected for how well they approach this sensitive topic and for the valuable content they've gathered on the subject. Life as a...

Losing a spouse is one of the most difficult challenges life can throw at us. It can be a heartbreaking experience, but it doesn't have to be an isolating one. Many widows have found strength by joining a community of people who have lost someone dear to their hearts. There are plenty of spaces for bereaved spouses to come together, share their feelings, and build close friendships. We've handpicked several blogs...

Love can hurt, and often it hurts one person more than the other. A new study conducted by the University of New Mexico finds adolescent girls are more at risk of experiencing mental health issues following a romantic disappointment compared to their male counterparts. Researchers looked at data from more than 5,300 high school students gathered for the National Longitudinal Study of Adolescent Health. Specifically...

When a relationship ends even though you long for it to continue, lingering feelings of loss and sadness (among others) commonly surface. You may feel heartbroken and devastated if it was his choice to end the relationship, or you wished you had acted in ways that might have prevented the breakup. Breakups can be excruciatingly difficult, especially if you have a special place for him in your heart and want him...

Here I am: 52 years young and in a place I thought I had long ago left behind - never to revisit. I lovingly refer to this as my dyslexic dating stage, as the last time I was single was in 1985 and I was 25. I am not sure how I ended up in this strange land. I packed my bags, bought a one-way ticket (or so I thought) to paradise, buckled up and took off on a journey, only to arrive at an alternate destination due...

Women around the world wake up every day and realize their marriage isn’t working and it’s because they are attracted to women. Is that you? Are you married and unhappy? Have you started to wonder about that subtle attraction you have to women? Do you fantasize about kissing a woman or having sex with a woman? Does that make you a lesbian? It can be a big shock or a big relief to realize you are lesbian when you’re...

We know breakups can be difficult, and we have found the following tips extremely helpful in dealing with an emotional departure. We have interviewed thousands of men and women and these tips are the most popular we have found. It's important to always remember this quote when dealing with a breakup, “He/she who angers you, conquers you.” Do's Get over it! We know this is harsh, but it's the reality you need to...

Reader Question: Me and my ex recently had a son. I see will never get back together due to too many lies in the relationship. I only get to see my son once a week because she is breastfeeding. Every time we see each other, it's like we fall in love again. Then she goes home to her now-boyfriend. I miss her. What do I do? -Brad (Pennsylvania) Rachel Dack's Answer: Hey Brad, You are absolutely in a...

Wow, right? It’s an amazing feeling when you fall in love as a lesbian for the first time. My first love is still vivid to me. She was everything I’d ever dreamed of in so many ways - beautiful, smart, loved reading, into poetry and so elegant. I fell hard and fast. She seemed to feel exactly the same way, at least with the falling hard and fast part of love. Having come out later in life, falling in love for the...

Reader Question: Is OK to be married but separated and dating at the same time? -David (New Jersey) Rachel Dack's Answer: Hey David, This is a great question and only you can assess your own readiness about dating while separated. After the end of a marriage or relationship, it is so crucial to spend adequate time to grieve the loss of the relationship, process feelings, get to know yourself and create a...

Reader Question: I met my ex on a dating website. We were together for three months. He told me he is drifting apart from me. He said “I don't feel like having a girlfriend and I don't want to date anyone.” Last week, we hung out and he still paid for my dinner and slept over. We still acted like we were a couple. However when I texted him, it seemed like he didn't want to talk to me. I know he texts other...

One of the big “question mark” situations that is quite common among singles is when their ex-boyfriend comes back into the picture. Sparks start flying again and you both begin to ponder the possibility of reconciling and starting a new relationship with each other. You feel torn because you’re feeling a renewed attraction with someone familiar and have a resurgence of fantasies of what could be, while at the same...

You’re in love with her. You can’t stop thinking about her, but she broke your heart a year ago. You drive yourself crazy every day, wondering to yourself what you could have done wrong. You had everything. You had so much fun together. As time goes by, you start to feel a little better about things.You start to get yourself back together as a man. But guess what happens? You run into her one day. You end up having...

Reader Question: My ex has panic disorder and depression. She went through a rough time and didn't talk to me for a couple of days, but then she decided to say she couldn't handle the relationship because of her emotional problems. It broke my heart, but when I was out with two co-workers who are straight, she got mad at me. She called to work things out. I feel like it's all head games, but she wants to be...

How common is "revenge sex," that highly dramatized practice of getting over someone by getting under someone new? And how does it stack up next to "rebound sex"? New research aims to find out in a study titled “Rebound Sex: Sexual Motives and Behaviors Following a Relationship Breakup.” Conducted at the University of Missouri, the study involved some 170 college students, each having experienced a recent...

Most of us have heard this phrase "It's not you, it's me," at some point in our lives, and it will rock your world in the worst way. It can seemingly come out of the blue, but that’s only if you have blinders on. Often you’ll realize you’ve been on a diet of love crumbs for a while before she announced the “It’s me, not you” death sentence. She tells you you’re so wonderful, good, handsome, pretty, sexy, funny and...

Reader Question: I have been in a two-year relationship that has just ended abruptly. Within the first two months, she cheated on me. I only found out through my own research. I forgave her. Things were great, but I also saw signs of her possibly cheating still. Basically she has been cheating or flirting with the same girl now that she swore she would cut off. Each time I found out something, she would leave with...

No matter if you’ve dated only a few women or many, there will always be that one placing a permanent imprint upon your mind. Perhaps she’s “the one that got away” or she left battle scars along your chest that you’re still healing from. Or maybe, in your mind, you’re still trying to make it work despite her continued rejection. There could also be repeated mutual attempts at long-lasting love that never seem to...

Did your lesbian relationship come to a crashing end during the holidays? It happened for lots of lesbians. Now you’re suddenly single, feeling fragile and unsure, and your friends are telling you to just jump back into the dating game. They may even be telling you to jump into bed with that old story about the easiest way to get over somebody is to get under somebody else. Does that really work? No, it doesn’t....

Reader Question: I dated this girl for a short time. In that time, we had fallen head over heals for each other. One day out of the blue, she just breaks up with me and says she's not over her ex. After a couple of weeks, we started chatting again. She is back with her ex mostly (she says) because we were together for such a short time and it never happened to her before, falling hard for someone so...

Social media has completely changed the way couples in long-distance relationships (LDRs) communicate with each other. But could Facebook be doing more damage to LDRs than good? According to a new study by relationship charity OnePlusOne and The Student Room, one-third (36%) of young couples feel Facebook played a part in the breakdown of their LDR. One-fifth (20%) of participants said they broke up with their ex...

Settling back into single life presents a whole host of challenges, whether you’re in your 20s or in your 60s. The 10 Best Blogs for Divorcees thrive at providing content and insights to help divorcees embrace their new life with greater confidence. Divorced Girl Smiling BEST OF Bragging...

A broken heart, disappointment, disillusionment, pain. Sound familiar? Yes, just about every person on this planet has experienced a heart-wrenching breakup at one time or another in their lives. And you know all the cliches (which, thankfully, I’m not going to repeat) that are supposed to help. But no matter how much you try to move on, you’re still pining over your ex. There is a solution to this problem. You...

It happened. She broke up with you. It wasn’t your choice. You thought things were OK, or you knew there were problems but thought you were working on it. Looks like she thought otherwise. You thought if you could just make it through the holidays, you’d be OK, but that wasn’t what happened. Right now you’re feeling devastated, betrayed, deeply hurt and unsure about how you’re going to move on. You’re not sure...

Reader Question: I recently broke up with my partner of two years. He cheated on me three times that I'm aware of, but I still forgave him and tried to make it work. The problem was the trust was gone and all it did was cause hurt and arguments. I've since found out my ex-partner is dating someone. I'm a bit resentful of that, thinking did it mean more to me than him? I want to be able to move on, meet someone...

There comes a time when you are on the fence about staying with a woman. You can feel your mind teeter-tottering back and forth on the edge of staying or going. Before you make that decision, consider some of the following aspects of your relationship: 1. Are you both on the same page? You want to gauge what levels you are both at. For example, you may want to have fun downtown with the guys and flirt with women at...

The holidays are wonderful and tough. There’s the magical part of the holidays: music, romance, gifts, time with friends and family and lots of good food and alcohol. Then there’s the really tough part of the holidays. It’s the perfect storm for breakups to happen. When you look at the chart above, you’ll see two big peaks: from Thanksgiving to Christmas and from Valentine’s Day to spring break. What’s...

One of the most torturous symptoms of the breakup blues is struggling with being able to let go of your ex. This is especially the case when you are the partner who didn’t want the relationship to end, but even initiators of a relationship termination go through this as well. You know how it is. Your mind becomes preoccupied with thoughts of him that just won’t go away. You can’t stop thinking about him and what...

When is your “Flashbulb Moment?” In other words, when does that little voice inside speak up and say, “You’ve done all you can do. This relationship isn’t meant to be, at least not for you.” Dating can be extremely challenging when one or both people aren’t firing on all cylinders. We all go into relationships hoping for the best and desiring a great outcome. For most, this means marriage and children, or at least...