Let's Talk Signals

No matter how old or how experienced we are with dating, whether we've been out as gay for 20 years or two months, it somehow never gets easier to tell whether another woman likes us. Is she just friendly? Does she want to be friends? Despite how it may feel, it's not impossible to tell. Here's how lesbians act when they like you: 1. Bringing Up Queerness in Conversation If a lesbian or queer woman is...

One of my favorite episodes from “Modern Family” is the one where Cam tricks Jay into joining an all-gay bowling league.  The premise in itself is comical, but what really made this episode hilarious was that Cam’s rival Martin insisted that Jay wasn’t gay because his “gaydar” wasn’t going off — and so Cam lied that Jay had a crush on Martin to throw him off. When Martin said, “My gaydar is highly...

Before becoming a dating coach, I learned a lot from totally screwing up my own love life. Talking with my clients today, I've noticed something we both had in common. We kept falling for the same type of person with a different face. You know the ones I'm talking about. They seem amazing at first, then emotionally distant later. And it always felt like something was just… off. I used to be the queen of chasing...

When I was single, I wish someone had told me the heart-racing, palm-sweating chemistry I felt with my exes was just my body being attracted to the unknown… and not in a good way. I spent my 20s chasing that spark. You know the one. When you get butterflies in your stomach, can’t eat, can’t sleep, agonize over when the next date will be. And where did it lead me? Right back to square one, dating the same...

I've noticed something fascinating in my years of coaching singles: we’re absolutely obsessed with red flags! When I ask singles what they want in a relationship, they usually give me a list full of qualities they don’t want in a relationship, but quickly go completely blank when I ask what they're actually looking for. I might ask, "What do you want in a partner?" I typically hear: "Well, I don't want someone...

The Short Version: Dating coach Kelsey Wonderlin helps women identify when a potential partner isn’t ready for a long-term relationship. Outright asking “Are you emotionally available?” doesn’t guarantee an authentic response, which is why Kelsey gives women tips, tricks, and tools to help reveal just how ready a man is for a serious relationship.  It’s a story dating coach Kelsey Wonderlin has heard time and...

There's a pretty strong possibility that once in your life, you laid eyes on somebody you just met and felt a little nervous. It could be their laugh, their physical appearance, or maybe they just feel like a kindred spirit. These signs of romantic attraction can impact you even if you're not necessarily looking to partner up with anyone.  Romantic attraction doesn't always happen suddenly — sometimes it can...

How do you know if a man is a keeper? What are the hallmarks of a healthy relationship? Many women wonder what qualities a man should exhibit if he’s marriage material. We’re here to shed some light on that topic. Here are some undeniable must-haves for the ideal mate. 1. He Treats You Well The most obvious sign that the man you’re dating is a keeper is if he treats you well. Is he consistently kind? Is he...

The early days of dating someone new can feel exciting and confusing at the same time. The exhilaration of meeting a compatible man you are attracted to while also figuring out what’s in store for the future can be an emotional rollercoaster. That comes with the territory of falling in love. There were many times when I thought I was building a real relationship with a man only to be ghosted weeks later. Or the...

Relationships are never drama-free.  You are going to fight and argue and not see eye to eye sometimes.  When these times happen, it could just be you’re going through a rough patch with some external stressors that will soon resolve themselves.  But sometimes, enough is enough.   How can you tell if it’s really the end of the relationship and not just something to work through?  Only...

This may seem like a foreign concept to many men in dating today – but it’s true that a lady will actually help you and encourage you when she likes you. You see, I think many men have these falsehoods in their heads: Women play hard to get. Relationships are difficult You just have to hang in there, eventually she'll see what a great guy you are Here's the deal -- and this may seem like Captain Obvious...

We’ve all been in dating situations where it’s hard to get a good read on the other person. Is your date interested in building a relationship? Or are they just being polite? It can be difficult to tell sometimes, and that’s why seeking the advice of an experienced dating expert can be very helpful to the typical single person. Sherri Murphy is an elite matchmaker. Sherri Murphy is the founder and CEO of Elite...

Falling in love is the greatest thing in life and one of the most powerful experiences that humans can go through.  The oldest known love poem was written on a tablet over 4,000 years ago in ancient Mesopotamia. It reads, in part, “Your spirit, I know where to cheer your spirit, Bridegroom, sleep in our house until dawn, Your heart, I know where to gladden your heart, Lion, sleep in our house until...

Many of us have been there. You’re hanging out with friends and making jokes, and one of the women in the group says something flirty to you. It seems like she's making a play for you. Unfortunately, you don’t feel the same. We hear a lot about the friend zone when it comes to an amorous man talking to an uninterested woman, but the reverse happens as well. If you're in this situation, you want your brush-off...

Remember back in high school when you had a crush on a girl and wanted to know if she liked you back? What was the method you used to discover the answer to this great mystery? Like most high schoolers, you were probably too scared to be upfront and just ask her how she felt, so, more than likely, you sat on the sidelines waiting for a clear sign or hoped she would tell you herself. That tactic didn’t really work...

When you're in the honeymoon phase of a relationship, everything is so exciting because you’re getting to know someone, and no one can do any wrong. As time passes, you may start entering into the commitment stage, and then you start seeing if your partner’s habits are something you can deal with for the long term. Let’s identify seven of those key qualities that can cause someone to fall out of love. 1. You...

Trying to decode mixed signals can be one of the most frustrating parts of dating. You think you know how he or she feels, but you could actually be all wrong about their body language and actions. This is why so many people turn to dating quizzes -- they're looking for some insights. Specifically, if you're wondering "Does she like me?" we've found the nine best sites to take this kind of quiz. We want to...

Every time we meet another person, we automatically size them up, trying to figure out who they are. This is even more true when it comes to dating. The moment men make contact with an attractive woman, dozens of questions run through their minds: Is this the type of person I like? Does she want me around? Is she already taken? Nothing is worse than spending a lot of time with a new crush and thinking you have a...

The Short Version: Katia Loisel, an internationally acclaimed expert on dating and relationships, helps singles master the art of body language and flirt more effectively on a date. Over the years, Katia has designed and conducted hundreds of keynote speeches, workshops, and seminars to impart her relationship insights to over 10,000 people worldwide. She also works one on one with singles who are having dating...

All of us struggle at times to show someone we like them or to figure out if they like us. When I was a boy, if I liked a girl, I would push her down or tease her. Real mature, I know, but I was still learning. When I was in high school, I’d pinch a girl's butt to get her attention. After a few talking-tos, I realized that wasn’t the best way either. Even in college, after I bought a girl roses with a singing...

Sometimes the hardest step in dating is figuring out if the girl you are flirting with likes you or not. Is she just being friendly, or is she really into you? The answer lies not just in what she says -- but in her non-verbal cues as well. As a woman, I feel I can tap into not only the science, but my experience of being into certain guys and trying to show it to help shine a light on reading a girl's cues. 1. Her...

Asking me, a man, how to tell if a guy likes you is like getting your hands on the other team’s playbook. I can give you insight into the male mind that the guy you’re interested in wouldn’t ever give you. Here are five signs — straight from the mouth of a man — that will show you if a guy is into you: 1. He Initiates Contact I’ve talked to a lot of guys about this, and they’re in universal agreement. We just don’t...

You meet someone and there’s a strong physical attraction. You share common interests and you start going out. The new coupling provides lots of thrills, excitement and new adventures. Several months into the relationship, you’ve given your heart and your body, only to discover you’re not as well-suited as you’d thought. Then you either stay in a relationship that doesn’t make you happy, or you end it and someone...

Nothing can be more frustrating than finally finding a guy you feel want to settle down with — only to not be able to shake this nagging suspicion that your beau is still pining for or thinking about his ex-boyfriend. While you can understand that he has a past, you also would hope that he wouldn’t be distracted by those old flames who broke his heart and would instead be excited and driven by the prospect of a...

Dating someone who is not committed to you can be extremely challenging. You may feel chemistry, or even love, but it takes more than that if a relationship is going to stand the test of time. A man who isn’t committed to your relationship will often give various signs that he’s not in it seriously or for the long haul. He may see your relationship as something to participate in as he pleases, but this isn’t being...

Not sure how to tell when a woman is interested in you? Well, check out this clip from ABC’s hit show "Once Upon A Time." It shows you an example of the top signs she’s flirting, as well as a clueless dwarf (from Snow White) totally missing the signs. I don’t want you to be as clueless as Dopey and miss out on awesome women throwing themselves at you! Watch this clip here.

This reader question came to us from Mel in Minnesota: "I met this guy online, and we have been on three dates so far. He doesn't converse with me in between dates. He only texts to set up the date. When we are together, there's chemistry, but I'm not sure if he's REALLY interested. We have only kissed. Is he interested or passing time until he finds someone better?" A common dilemma most women face Many women go on...

I’m sure you know by now that women and men are VERY different, but the biggest difference between men and women is the fact that women are subtle and men are ... not so subtle. This is why it can be difficult to tell whether or not a woman is flirting with you or just brushing her hair away from her face because it’s bothering her. I found this awesome clip from ABC’s "The Bachelor," which shows about 10 different...

If you have ever been or are currently in a relationship with a woman, then you have experienced being “tested." I put the air quotes around the word tested because, as a woman, I know what you may view as testing is not actually testing. There are some women who definitely test men, but most women do not test for sport. They don’t sit and think “How can I get my boyfriend/husband to mess up?”What they are actually...

Most first dates don’t become second dates. Then most second dates don’t become third dates, so by the time you are on a third date, you might be thinking this could be serious. And if you’ve had sex already, you do think it’s serious. Right? Yeah and that’s a big mistake. Then there are the 30, 60- and 90-day breakups. It happens all the time. It’s happened to me a number of times, and it’s happened to my...