Let's Talk Online Dating Tips (Page 34)

The gay world can be very open minded about many things. In previous decades, being gay seemed to eradicate (for a while anyway) social distinctions — class, money and employment status. Many relationships worked very well (a CEO dating a waiter, for example) and status wasn’t really an issue. In the straight world, when an older man dates a younger woman, these relationships can work successfully for both...

Reader Question: I really like this guy and he has said he really likes me. We have texted for the past week, but now when I text him, it takes him hours to respond. I don’t want to look obsessive, but I want to talk to him. Should I just not text him and wait for him to text me? -Danielle (Ohio) Dr. Wendy Walsh's Answer: Dear Danielle, I have two bits of advice for you. 1. Stop texting. Wait for...

Reader Question: I am a 52-year-old gentleman who just finalized a not pleasant divorce after 27 years of what I thought was a great marriage. She evidently had not agreed and proved it with several other long-term partners. I want to meet someone, but the Internet dating buzz and what I've seen scares the life out of me. How can I start without getting beat up again? -Tom (Washington D.C.) Dr. Wendy...

Reader Question: I met a guy online who lives 500 miles away. He's 34 and I'm 53. He did tell me he had a girl he dated "locally" and that he was just on the site looking for friends. Three months later we realized we have feelings for each other. Meanwhile, he still indicates he's having issues with his girlfriend, who is not someone he's "dating" locally. He’s living with her and they've been together for four...

I hear it all of the time. It's a question I get asked a lot. It goes something like this: "Client: David, how important is a car for meeting women? Me: . . ." Well, firstly, you need a car to get around. You don't want to pick a woman up on your bicycle. You certainly don't want to drive around in your moped and pick her up. So a car is important. I'd call it one of your biggest assets in your dating life, but...

Reader Question: I re-entered the world of dating after being divorced almost four years. I find myself in an awkward category: 59 years old, mental health administrator, very young looking and high energy level, an 11-year-old son who spends increasing amounts of time with his father. A few gentlemen who I felt were interested backed away upon reflecting they did not wish to be involved with a woman whose...

We’ve all been there, some many times, when we've met a guy and we think they’re "The One." They tell us all the things we want to hear. He has a reputation. Our friends try to warn us. His friends try to warn us. But that little inner voice says, “With me, he’ll be different. I can help him change.” Hmmm…this is a tricky one. Do players settle down? Do they eventually become faithful and perfect boyfriend...

Finding a new relationship can be challenging, but the digital landscape has never been easier. Online dating has morphed into social dating, where singles are also connecting and reconnecting on Facebook and flirting on Twitter. In the online dating world, your entire bucket needs to be full if you want to be successful with the process. Sure it’s exhausting, but did you know many singles actually go out on...

Who do women turn to when they're in need of a pick-me-up in their dating lives? They look to our 10 Best Women's Dating Experts. These experts are all about giving women the tools they need to be smart, confident and successful in their everyday lives as well as their romantic relationships. Dr. Alexandra...

If you’re a senior single in your 50s, in addition to your desire for a new life mate, you want to add more new friends to your circle. If you're single in your 50s, that means you no longer have a spouse to take you to and from a doctor’s appointment when you need it. You might still be on good terms with an ex-spouse, but perhaps they live outside of the area. And even if you have grown kids who’d help...

Here we are again. Valentine’s Day is right around the corner and you might be asking yourself why you are spending another Valentine’s Day alone. You tell yourself  it’s not a big deal and it’s just a normal day like any other, but a slight feeling of awkwardness starts to creep over you when people ask you how you are going to celebrate. You might even feel a bit envious watching your coupled friends make...

If you’re single, and don’t want to be, the Valentine’s Day holiday can be torture. And there seems to be no escape from it when everywhere you go you see what appears to be happy couples, not to mention being bombarded with Hallmark advertisements and gifts at every turn. But you can survive this illustrious day! It is, after all, just another day. It’s all about perspective. If you place a lot of emphasis on the...

Sometimes it can feel like your dating life is going nowhere. Maybe you’ve been on a handful of first dates now, and just none of them really went anywhere. You might feel like your social life is stuck in the spin cycle. Nothing is just really moving forward. What can you do? Well, you can be proactive to advance your social life, not just your romantic life. Maybe it’s the sorority sisters thing, but I was...

I'm curious about something. If you had a winning lottery ticket in your hands, would you give yourself a pat on the back or go cash the sucker? Unless you're an idiot, you'd want to cash it. So why is it when most guys get a woman's phone number — a free-for-all ticket to fun and sex — they don't use it? Not knowing what to say isn't an excuse. Most dates are confirmed via text, so if you can update...

Does religion matter to you while looking for love online? In a survey of 2,700 U.S. singles conducted by JDate and ChristianMingle, their findings showed Jewish singles are nearly three times more likely to use an online dating site than Christian singles. The primary reason both Christians and Jews join online dating sites is because they weren’t meeting enough people through friends and family. Spark Networks,...

Let’s face it, sometimes men need a little help when it comes to attracting the opposite sex. You may have a great personality and a lot to offer, but when it comes to talking to a beautiful woman, you crack under the pressure. Dating is a skill, and sometimes working with a professional dating coach is the way to improve it. Relationship coaching may help you get comfortable in the dating world. If you're working on...

Dogs are their own version of love machines. They are loyal and true. They never lie or cheat. They don’t steal your stuff or crash the car. They don’t scream, holler, yell or throw your belongings out the window. Dogs are really cool that way. What dogs do is bring a consistent flow of happiness into their lesbian’s life. And yes, if we have a dog, the dog owns us. We are her people. I share my life with a small...

For once, the guy has lived up to expectations. He was charming. You found him attractive. You even laughed out loud together. You want to see him again. The fact your first date went well is good news. But hold on a minute before you start telling all your friends you’ve found Mr. Right. These early flights of feeling are fantastic, and enjoy them. It's all real and part of the joy of life. But it may not,...

You may have seen the headlines. A woman filed a 10 million dollar lawsuit against Match.com. She met a man through the site, went on a few dates and ended it. Months later, he broke into her home, waited in her garage and stabbed her 10 times in an attempt to kill her. She was in the hospital for months with several painful reconstructive surgeries. In her lawsuit against Match.com, she says the site...

Online dating can be frustrating. Which site do you choose? How do you avoid a scam? What do you put in your profile? That's where our 10 Best Online Dating Experts come in. These men and women have done all the legwork so users like you can get the best advice there is. Julie...

With the Super Bowl around the corner, it’s a reminder to most women Valentine’s Day is only 11 days later. If your relationship status is “Single” and you’re hoping to find a date online by Valentine’s Day, know you’re not alone. Most online dating sites have reported a record number of sign-ups since the first of the year, ranging from 22 percent to 50 percent. Are you ready to get started? Here are...

Celesbians isn’t a term you’ll find in the dictionary...yet. And if you’re lesbian, you know who the celebrities are in our little lesbian world. There’s Ellen. We might call her the kingpin of celesbians. She started a movement. She came out on TV in 1997. That went so well that she was then able to write a coming out scene into her popular TV show named…tada...Ellen! Of course, with Ellen we also have her lovely...

Reader Question: How can you tell if the person you’re talking with is real and not a hoax? -Jessie (Wisconsin) Dr. Wendy Walsh's Answer: Meet face to face in a public place soon after meeting online. And then continue to meet in person and by phone. Online relationships are not real, even if a real person is at the other end of a keyboard. No counseling or psychotherapy advice: The Site does not provide...

Reader Question: We've been talking and stuff for a while, not official, but we've already had that initial first date and first few chats (it’s been a month). She refuses to text/call me first. I don't want her to think I'm clingy, nor do I want her to think she has complete control and she can ignore me for days and I'll always come running. She has hinted she won't text/call the guy first before, but I've...

Matchmaking services, how-to books, interactive radio shows and real-life stories: These are some of the tools our 10 Best Lesbian Dating Bloggers use to help daters like you find what you're looking for. The world of lesbian dating wouldn't be the same without these women. Mary Gorham...

A year or two ago I got a call from a good friend of mine. She told me she had just Facebook chatted with Matt Leinart. I am not the biggest sports follower but my dad is a former, albeit for a short time, NFL quarterback and indirectly he keeps me well informed on the landscape of all things quarterback related. When they are handsome, I am all the more interested in the details my dad relays of these guys (Aaron...

If you’ve been following the Manti Te’o story, you’re probably wondering how the Heisman Trophy runner-up could have been duped in an Internet dating hoax. When the story broke on Wednesday, I was attending the Internet Dating Conference. My phone rang for several days with questions from both the media and online daters asking how such a thing could happen. Was it a hoax, or was he in on it? How can a person who...

Let me say right out of the gate I am a BlackBerry user. In fact, I conduct a lot of business every day – phone calls, emails and text messages – using my BlackBerry. So for those of you who were worried this would be an anti-cell phone article, you can relax. While I am all for the convenience things like cell phones, iPhones and BlackBerrys afford us, there is one major drawback: Our constant attention to them...

Reader Question: I am talking to two women who I met on a dating site. I have been texting one very consistently who I know I like, and I have a date with her soon. The other has been seldom. I know I could achieve the same quality of a relationship from both. Both are very attractive. I do not want to hurt anyone. How do I handle this? -Jeremy (Hawaii) Dr. Wendy Walsh's Answer: Jeremy, You have a...

My last article was intended to point new online daters in the direction of exploring a dating site that meets their relationship goals. Before you go all-in, you need to know online dating isn't just commercials of caressing couples and engagement dates. Here are the five warnings to make you a smarter online dater: 1. Spammers. Did you just start the initial sign-in process and find your inbox is cascading with...