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Reader Question: I've been divorced since 1988 and haven't really dated. I'm a very pretty woman. I have a master's, three grown married, professional children and seven grandchildren. My profile reads well. I speak three languages and I am really interested in everything. I have been on eHarmony for months but have had almost no response. What is the matter? -Rita (New York) April Braswell's Answer: I...

What are the dating rules? What is the order of things that should happen while dating? These are common questions I see from my dating clients. In an ideal world, this would be the format: 1. Meet online or in real life. First you meet a fantastic guy on a dating site like Match or an app like Grindr, and you hit it off. Or maybe you chat up a single man in line for coffee or groceries. Maybe you started dancing...

Last week I shared the first part of an ongoing series about online dating profile unplugging. It’s always one of the most popular questions singles looking for love online ask me. This is *Robin’s question: “Do I or don’t I ask him to take down his profile? We’ve been dating for a while, but I see he’s still logging on.” In this scenario, after only three dates with *Tim, Robin assumed they were in an...

You've met a new woman. You've been single for a while, and you just feel it's time to have a relationship. She's cute and fun, but you're not incredibly excited about her. Here's what happens: Whenever we go through long bouts of being single, we tend to get lonely. It's human nature. The problem with that dynamic is it clouds our judgment when it comes to dating. Eventually we hit a point where we say to...

The wonderful world of dating is full of joyous experiences and is soaked in potential for a dream-like future. However, the reality of it can be a mixed bag. Here are some of the top tips to make sure you get the most out of each experience. Create a foundation. The dating experience can feel a bit like a conveyor belt, with men passing by in front of you. Some will have an expiration date, like dairy products,...

Reader Question: I've been seeing this guy for about three months now. We met online and just recently decided to not see other people. We really enjoy each other and starting to introduce our families. He is still active on the dating website we met off of. He admitted to having casual conversations still from time to time. I'm not a jealous or insecure person, but this has kind of hit me wrong. Should this...

Reader Question: We have stopped seeing other people until we decide if we are right for one another. We met on a dating site. My subscription ran out and I decided not to renew. Her subscription is still active. She tells men who email her that she is seeing someone, but she will not make her online profile invisible. Her reasoning is we are not in a committed relationship, even though we have agreed to see only...

Your online dating profile is your digital billboard to tell other members you’re available and are willing to be contacted for a potential date. One of the most common questions I get asked as an online dating expert and coach is, “When should we take down our profiles? Do we do this together as a ritual, or should I take mine down and hope he or she does the same?” This isn’t an answer that comes in a...

Are you addicted to dating? In today's fast-paced, instant gratification society, do we give up on a new relationship too soon? I am not saying you should just settle down with the first person you meet, but you should give your dates a chance. We are all guilty of judging someone based on first impressions, and if they don't fit our fantasy "cookie cutter" ideal, we put a cross in the box and move on. I know I...

Let's talk about sex! Want all your sex questions answered? Our 10 Best Sex and Dating Experts can help you out. These men and women know all the tips and tricks to having a satisfying sex life. Emily Morse BEST OF Bragging Rights: Practices what she preaches A sex and relationship...

There is one rule in life that applies to just about all members of the human race: People always want what they can't have. Well online dating is no exception to this universal condition. It is for this reason that one must be extremely careful not to appear too eager when writing emails. Doing so can have disastrous effects on the amount of responses received and the eventual number of first dates...

When it comes to starting things off with a new guy, I have one piece of advice for gay men: Don’t do what I used to do. What I mean, specifically, is this: Do not eat an entire cheesecake while watching "He’s Just Not That Into You" repeatedly and decide you’re going to adjust your entire approach to dating based on the concepts contained in the film. I’ve learned the hard way that girl-boy dating rules don’t...

By now, everyone has probably seen the Nice Guys of OkCupid. If you haven’t, here’s the premise: Someone thought it would be funny to post pictures of unattractive, socially awkward men from OkCupid, along with painful clips from their profiles talking about how they are “nice guys.” While I can’t help but wonder what would happen if the gender roles were reversed here, it did get me thinking about “nice...

Reader Question: I am 43-year-old female and have tried online dating off/on for a few years, mostly unsuccessfully. At this age, I am really looking for a relationship, not just casual dating as I have never been married. Someone emailed me from Match.com before I ended my life as a profile. He is new to online dating at 48 years of age after being in a 19-year marriage. I am telling myself maybe it is not good...

Reader Question: I’ve been doing the online dating thing for a while now. Recently I met someone. It’s only been a couple of days of texting and talking on the phone, but we’ve both said we have a really good feeling about us. We’re trying to set up a first date. Unfortunately, our schedules this week are off. I’m wondering if it’s OK to invite her out with my friends. What are the negatives of this approach...

Reader Question: I don't know how to say this online, but I found out around 2001 I had hepatitis C. The biopsy showed it to be a one on a one to four scale. I never drink and don't need medication for it. I haven't had sex in decades, so I'm guessing I may have gotten it as a teen who, very briefly, tried some drugs by injection. I would like to enjoy sex in this life. How do I bring this up...

It’s springtime and love is in the air, as well as on your computers and mobile phones. On March 20th, along with the arrival of the spring equinox, several singles I’ve been working with in my Online Dating BootCamp changed their relationship status to “In a Relationship” and retired their online dating profiles since the first day of spring. What’s their secret in just one week? Preparation and careful planning...

A good magazine doesn't just entertain its readers. A good magazine also informs, raises questions and gives a voice to those who can't speak up. From compelling features to hard-hitting news, our 10 Best Gay Dating Magazines will have you ordering every issue. Out BEST OF Bragging Rights:...

In this digital age, we are all connected. Hey, if you are reading this, you are on a computer and more than likely you have messages coming at you from emails, blogs, social media and all the other forms of digital communication. Social media in regards to dating. More than likely you have a dating profile on one (or more) of the many wonderful dating sites available. If you have these available to you, so do...

How much should I tell this guy about me on our second date? I really like him and we clicked. I’m divorced, but my ex is still disruptive and mean to our two kids. I’m afraid if I tell too much about me to this new man, I’ll lose him. What should I do? -Andie (Ohio) Dear Andie, Those early stages of dating can feel as though you’re on a roller coaster. On the way up the hill, you like the excitement of...

Is it OK for a woman to text a man in the initial phases of communication? The simple answer is yes. The relevant answer is rooted in what you are looking for. As a man, my relationship with texting is bipolar. If I am looking to hook up with minimum fuss, then I love it. If I am looking for something meaningful, then I loathe it. Ladies, you should remember this is how a guy sees texting in its most basic...

So you're feeling pressured to have sex in the gay world? Here are some things to consider: Being picky Delaying the game "Will he call me tomorrow if I give him the goods?" "Will I get labeled a 'ho' if anyone finds out?" In the gay dating world, the pressure to have sex is very high. Gay men don't play around and will tell you right away what they want. If you don't give it to them, then they'll find...

Does being out affect your ability to get dates? It sure does. And it affects your ability to keep a date coming back. Being an out lesbian is not for everyone. There are lots of women who stay in the closet because of their family or their job or their church. You can still get fired in some states for being a lesbian woman. It's sad but true nonetheless. Coming out is a sacred process in my mind. For many women,...

Reader Question: I met this girl. We had three amazing dates where we both sensed our connection. All the dates have been fun, some kissing, lots of great conversations and generally promising. The problem is the fourth date was disappointing in comparison. I missed lots of opportunities to build on conversation threads, had less eye contact, less laughing, etc. We kissed good night and kept it open about who...

Reader Question: I am 65 years old, not bad looking, energetic, great sense of humor. I have been married twice. Since my last separation in 2011, I have enrolled in every dating site there is and have not had one single date. My profile on the dating site is honest, sincere and truthful. Why am I not getting a response? Where should I concentrate my attention to find a nice person? -Azad (New York) Dr. Wendy...

Reader Question: I am a 53-year-old white male. I can’t seem to shake off my coming off needy. I try to go slow but that doesn’t work. Do you have any advice? -Randy (Florida) Dr. Wendy Walsh's Answer: Dear Randy, What kind of needy do you mean? Do you smother women with too much attention? Do you have anxiety if you and your dates are not in constant contact? I want to remind you a relationship is an...

The racks of magazines lining the aisles at the grocery store seem to go on forever. How are you supposed to choose the best one? And once you choose one, are you sure you're getting the right advice? Well let your worries disappear because we've narrowed down the competition with our 10 Best Lesbian Dating Magazines. These publications provide readers with pages of compelling articles, glossy features and...

As great as online dating can be, there is also something mentally unhealthy about the process. Unleashing attractive men into a forum where they arrange an endless stream of dates is like unleashing a little kid into a candy store and telling him he can eat whatever he wants. For men who don’t have much will power, the endless temptations can be borderline debilitating. But when does online dating cross over from...

Wow, dating a millionaire! What would you do with all that money? Well, if you ever find yourself dating a millionaire, then you will soon realize it’s not your money. Just because you are dating someone of wealth, that doesn't necessarily mean you'll get access to his bank account. If you are being showered with gifts, then just be careful there aren't strings attached. In my dating past, I inadvertently ended...

Women today hold high hopes for their dream man: "He’s smart, wealthy, athletic, sensitive, good looking, funny…" The list goes on and on and on. But, the truth is, it is impossible to find a human who is the full package. It's more like he has one dominant trait and a couple other delicious pieces in his personality. Here are a few general schemas of men. Most likely his dominant trait will fall into one of these...