Let's Talk Online Dating Tips (Page 36)

Think about your last relationship. Think about how wonderful the woman was when she was still new. You remember the first time you met her, how wonderful it was to see her. She presented the perfect version of herself. It’s almost like when you go buy a car. There’s nothing like a brand new car: the smell of the leather, the way the steering wheel feels in your hands, the way it feels when you drive it. Then...

The holiday season is one of the most romantic times of the year, and it can be lots of fun if you're dating someone new. In order for your relationship to last into the New Year, here are some holiday dating do's and don'ts. 1. Don't give extravagant presents. Gifts like jewelry, electronics, vacations or any other high-ticket item might seem like a good idea in the moment, but they can quickly derail your...

At this time of fast-paced life with technology moving faster than the human body and mind, slow movements are emerging all over the world. First came the Slow Food Movement, which strives to stop mass high-tech agriculture and return to locally grown foods, family dinners and healthful tables. The slow movement then expanded to travel and design, advocating a cultural shift toward slowing life’s pace. And in...

I like online dating. There are also things about online dating I don’t care for. What I love about it is how using these sites makes you feel like a little kid all over again. Remember when you were a little boy and you went to school and you had a crush who you saw every morning in class and one day you talked to her and she was mean to you? And the next day you woke up, went to school, and you had a new...

When you’re 50+ years old and single, online dating is a must. You’ll meet people outside of your social circle…and won’t have to worry so much about whether or not they have a ring on their left finger. In fact, baby boomers represent roughly 20 percent of the eDating population, according to a study by IBISWorld. Whether you’re a member of a niche site specifically for seniors or are eFlirting on a big,...

We are in the final stretch now of our countdown of the top characteristics that personify a sexy single gay man on the dating market. These are the qualities that can help maximize your success in the gay dating world. If you missed Part 1 or 2, you can access those articles here. What are some of your strengths? What are some of the areas you’d like to hone or integrate further into your repertoire? It’s all...

Reader Question: I'm a single father who has raised all three of my children. My youngest is now 18 years old. I have been out of the single arena by choice and dedicated myself physically and mentally to raising my children. Now I'm 42 years old and feel completely lost on how to meet mature women. With all the single websites, that seems to be the place people are meeting. I have to admit it is a little...

The countdown is beginning — everywhere you go you hear Christmas songs and see tinsel, baubles and inflatable Santas. You may have little desire to go back to see parents or relatives for Christmas dinner and experience pitying looks and pointed avoidance of mentioning your “lifestyle choice.” And let's not forget the delighted smiles when talking about family friends who’ve recently been blessed with loveable...

You’ve been single for a most of the year and you’d really like to have a boyfriend to unwrap on Christmas day. Be very wary of getting involved with someone just because it is the holiday season, as it can be like shopping on Christmas Eve: You’re roaming around the department store aisles looking for an amazing present, and if the shops are about to close, you end up settling on something that’s OK but doesn’t...

Think about that for a second: Is being alone on a Saturday night really that bad? Actually, it's really one of my favorite nights, and I am going to explain why. The typical Saturday night is full of hope and wonderment. But it’s really full of chasing the night. Saturday night is the end of the week. (All right, I know there's Sunday, but if you think about it, in a single person’s mind, Saturday night is...

Dating mistakes are not unique to gay men. They are common across every gender and whatever sexual agenda you are coming from. We’ve all had the Homer Simpson “Doh” moment when you just slap your forehead and wish the ground would open up and swallow you. Remember, nobody is perfect (not even me as a dating and relationship expert), and mistakes will happen and should be viewed as useful learning...

Since Helen of Troy’s unparalleled beauty launched a thousand ships and brought about the Trojan War, men have been trying to figure out what goes on in the mind of a woman. We are finicky creatures. But once you understand what it is we look for in a mate, your dating life will become much more fulfilling. The following are the top traits women look for in men. Pay attention and the rewards will be bountiful. 1....

Your dating past is always a tricky conversational topic to broach with a lady you’re going out with, but it’s even more problematic when you’re older and you have a long and extensive dating past to discuss. Here are a few important points to keep in mind to make this conversation go as smoothly as possible. 1. Give a summary and that’s it. You’re under no obligation to tell your new lady every single thing...

Dating can be an elusive activity, particularly in the gay community where no roadmap was offered to us during our socialization as kids on how to negotiate man-to-man intimate relationships. Left to our own devices, many of us have stumbled trying to figure out the best method for snagging our Mr. Right, only to be frustrated with our efforts when the guy never calls back, we can’t seem to find him in the first...

Dating can be really tricky if you’re gay and live in a small community. Part of this difficulty is nothing more than simple math. Gay people naturally represent a relatively small percentage of any population. The smaller the population, the smaller the number of gay people in it. Taken at face value this math is hard enough on gay people in small communities, but it’s made even worse by the fact that gay people...

Most men don’t have a clue about what women really want in a man. It’s no wonder then that their partially-filled-out online dating profiles don’t usually give a woman a clear idea of what she really wants to know. And the longer they’ve been away from the dating scene, the worse it can be. So, how can a senior lady spot the men who are looking for the kind of long-term committed relationship that she...

Gay women are everywhere but we’ve yet to start adorning ourselves with a scarlet “L” on our foreheads. We’re also not all wearing rainbow colored earrings or T-shirts declaring our sexual preferences. Well OK, some of us are wearing the T-shirts. In the meantime, I’m asked every week where and how to find gay women. So here’s my insider secret — meetup.com.  Yes, it’s that simple. There are more than 111,000...

There are a thousand good reasons why a woman might still be living at home with her parents. She might be furthering her education, helping with household expenses, caring for a parent or younger sibling, going through an employment transition or post-divorce readjustment, or maybe she just enjoys the company and support of her family. Whatever the reason, “failure to launch” is not necessarily indicative of any...

With the presidential election behind us, many people have been feeling particularly prickly about the state of affairs. For months you couldn't look at a Twitter or Facebook feed without an opinion being shouted and three others being retorted. But where does politics belong in online dating? There is a reason politics gets lumped together with religion when talking about things you shouldn't talk about....

Reader Question: I met a guy and we hung out three times in two weeks. He text me about every day. On date three, we kissed and I kept it to that. He still text after that but less regularly. It has been a week and a half (not that long, but still) and he has not asked me out again. Do I ask him what's going on, do I just go with it, or do I stop responding? -Stacy (New Jersey) Dr. Wendy Walsh's...

Mr. Right is out there, along with a host of Mr. Wrongs! Like a fairy tale princess, you may have to kiss a lot of frogs to find your prince. The key to finding Mr. Right is simple — stop dating Mr. Wrong. I hear you say, “Oh, yeah! That’s really dumb advice." Well hear me out on this one. We all continually repeat the same behavior patterns, whether it be making a cup of tea or getting ready in the morning....

Reader Question: I would like to know more about what women want in life? -Nicholas Dr. Wendy Walsh's Answer: Nicholas, you are as confused as the women themselves. Right now women are faced with so many choices — to marry or not, to live together, to have sex and date like a man, or to put education and career above their intimate relationships. Here’s my advice to you. Make your own relationship life plan...

While the mistakes men make in online dating could outnumber the national debt, there is one damning, fatal missed opportunity that supersedes all the rest. It's this (arms stretched open wide) big, people. This is because the biggest hurdle a man faces in online dating isn't figuring out what to write about himself or even cheesy unflattering pictures in his bathroom mirror (but please stop with these). No, the...

You’ve picked an appropriate dating website to fit your needs and have the type of guy who hits your desired demographic as an ideal match. You've set up your profile, included an informative and fun summary of your goals, likes and dislikes, and sketched out an outline of your ideal guy. That wasn’t hard was it? Actually, it takes time and trial and error to get something that fits, but spending the time to get...

As a woman who has done a lion's share of online dating, nothing used to upset me more than men not pursuing me like I wanted. I put up flattering, thoughtfully chosen and interesting pictures. I spent hours writing and rewriting about myself in unique and witty ways. I explained what I wanted and didn't want in my mate in detail. But my effort-to-return ratio was way low. I got plenty of winks, a good amount of...

Reader Question: I met the girl of my dreams with many common interests and values. We had a great first date, and she text the next morning thanking me for the great conversation. I then texted, and texted and texted without calling for almost a week. Now she will not call back even though I called and offered no excuses and sincerely apologized. Do I send an email for why I miss her, or do I just give it time...

Let’s face it, 2012 has been a great year for lesbians. The sky’s the limit when it comes to being a woman who’s in to women and having a gangbuster career people admire. Here is a list of 2012’s top five best lesbian role models and why we chose them. 1. Rachel Maddow. American television host, Emmy winner, political commentator and author, Rachel Maddow is the host of “The Rachel Maddow Show,” which airs on MSNBC...

The first and most important rule to dating in our little lesbian world is know thyself above all else. It seems obvious, but let me tell you that it’s not so easily done. When you are lonely, frustrated and you don’t want be alone for another weekend, holiday, birthday or vacation without a girlfriend, those feelings can be the tipping point into really bad relationship choices. When we let these feelings make...

Over the last 20 years, we’ve seen a real change in public perception regarding gay people. While I’m not ignorant to the fact the gay community continues to fight a number of very large and very important battles, it’s undeniable that over my lifetime I’ve seen a (well-documented) shift in the way we think about gay people, to the point where we now have far more openly gay men who can be seen as role models than we...

Reader Question: A few days ago I went on a date with someone who is two years younger than me from an online dating site. Our date lasted four hours and we had a good time. At the end of the date, he suggested that next weekend he would want to hang out and even offered to walk me home. But I am going crazy thinking he's not into me because he doesn't message me on Facebook or on the dating site as much now. Is...