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Coming out stories are part of our culture as lesbians. We all have one. Your story may be pretty short or pretty long. It could be really simple or very complicated, but where you are in the process has implications for how you live your life and how you date. Dating and your level of outness has implications for who will date you. We can move beyond attraction and chemistry and how well you get along to how far...

Do you approach dating with the best of intentions by only screening guys who fit your personal requirements but then throw that all out the window when that hot Mr. Wrong winks at you from across the room? Worse yet, do you find it difficult to keep all the guys you’re dating straight and then follow up on a conversation with one that was from a meeting you’d had with a different man? Yikes! For better...

Reader Question: Can you give me some tips on how to find a steady girlfriend at my age of 64? -Joseph (North Dakota) Dr. Wendy Walsh's Answer: Joseph, This is an excellent question, and I've got a great answer for you. Go on one of the online dating sites geared to people over 50. OurTime.com is a good one. Put some realistic, recent photos up and make a profile that is authentic. It is better to really...

Online dating is one of the best ways to meet women. You always have an endless supply of women who are looking for love.  In order to be successful at online dating, however, you need to avoid these seven key mistakes men make when they meet someone for the very first time. So let's talk today about the biggest mistakes people make in those first meetings and how you can avoid them so you can have fun dating online...

With so many gay dating bloggers claiming to be "experts," it's hard to weed out the real experts from the rest. Whose tips do you follow? What dating style is right for you? Well we've gathered the 10 Best Gay Dating Bloggers right here. Whether it's their coaching services, multitasking abilities or social clout, these bloggers know how to walk the talk when it comes to giving the best gay dating...

If you’re a senior man in your 50s and facing getting back into the singles game after your divorce, and if it’s been more than five years since your last date, then dating again can feel truly daunting. If you’ve got teenagers, you might be feeling ridiculous with them observing your adult dating behavior and even feel a little embarrassed at the scrutiny. However, your own social life is important. You’re...

As a digital matchmaker and online dating expert, if I could grant you one wish, it would be for you to find your dream date the first week you join an online dating site. Even though there are so many happy success stories, most of the couples who’ve run into the digital sunset together did invest the time to get organized and schedule their dates efficiently. After all, isn’t the goal of online dating -- at least...

Well, 2012 whizzed by in the blink of an eye, and now here we are all fresh into 2013. What were you were doing on New Year’s Eve? Were you surrounded with people at a house party? In a bar drunkenly eying up some man candy? Or at home with a television, watching the old faithful countdown to the New Year? So what are your New Year’s resolutions? The old cliches? Lose weight, use that gym membership, further...

So, it’s a brand new year filled with hope and possibility! You’ve probably already crafted your New Year’s resolutions for going to the health club more often, saving more money, eating more nutritiously, and maybe even making a career transition. And while we might even go as far as proclaiming this will be the year we’ll be able to say goodbye to that single status in exchange for a new boyfriend, often times we...

Reader Question: I have been single for three years and I’m just stepping out into the dating world after a 13-year marriage that ended in a divorce. I have met guys who were a letdown but finally came across a really nice and respectful guy. We have gone on three dates, and this last date we were on he surprised me with a kiss good night. I have also met another guy who I’ve only been out with once, but he seems...

Reader Question: I just met someone online and they are moving real fast and asking me about my past relationships. I do not want to tell them anything about this area of my life. We are both over 55 and divorced. What should I do? -Lesa (Arizona) Dr. Wendy Walsh's Answer: First of all Lesa, you are right to exert some personal boundaries at the beginning of a relationship. Disclosing too much too soon...

We have become a society full of “gottabes." “I’ve got to be this, I've got to be that...” People who have this mindset have been going out and dating based on validation, based on a need they have. They’re not dating based on any raw desires, but based on being validated by the other person. A man will look at a woman and tell himself right off the bat he wants her to like him. He needs to be validated by her. He...

Jan. 1 is the universal day for starting new, making changes and beginning destined-to-fail dieting strategies. I may not be able to stop you from taking late night snack breaks, but I can at least make your commitment to online dating your successful ticket for 2013. Feel free to put these as your screen saver and repeat them daily. 1. “I will set goals.” It's amazing what happens when you set specific, hard,...

The other day I was talking to a good friend of mine. We were talking about taboo subjects. And it’s funny because most people are afraid to talk about taboo subjects — especially when on a date. We're so afraid to talk about what we really want or how we really want to be treated. So we exchange the boring resumes. We talk a little bit about our job. Where we grew up. What we want to do in our life. But we...

Reader Question: I have been on five dating sites and I haven’t had any luck. I’m wondering if it’s me. All I want is that serious commitment. What else should I do? -Anthony (New York) Dr. Wendy Walsh's Answer: Anthony: Wow. That’s fast. You want to go from one click to a serious commitment? With so little information to go on -- how you profile yourself and behave online -- I can’t really give you any...

Reader Question: I am a 55-year-old lesbian. I am retiring this year after teaching elementary school for 35 years. I am not a big bar person, but I want someone to share my life with. How can I meet healthy lesbians? -Lori (Ohio) Dr. Wendy Walsh's Answer: Dear Lori: Congrats on the long career. How fun to be so young and retiring already. I’m sure you’ll have a wonderful life ahead, and yes, it will be...

Gone are the dial-up days. All hail instant notifications! In a world where we update our status, download books and text rather than call, our lives now have a digital dynamic. When you are single, your virtual impression extends beyond your dating profile, regardless of where you met your date. If your match does some digital digging and finds information that makes you less attractive, you might have some...

If you are aware of your HIV status, it can be a nerve-racking experience to let a new partner know if you are positive. Some people are completely upfront on their dating profiles, and in life generally. However, others feel very insecure about telling people. Perhaps they haven’t told anyone or kept it secret from friends, family and work colleagues. Ultimately, when you tell is completely down to you. However,...

Here are the five relationship trends to look for in 2013. 1. Single parents next Internet dating trend. If 2012 was the year for the silver-haired to flock to online dating, I predict 2013 will be the year for single parents to meet and greet online. With 14 million time-strapped single mothers raising one in four American kids, and plenty more single dads doing the same thing, the Internet is a convenient,...

The year is coming to a close and if you've managed to avoid the awkward holiday questions from relatives about your love life, go buy a lottery ticket because many others haven't been so lucky. The holidays are hard. They are harder when you're single. You feel the sting of being alone a little more this time of year. But where there is a ying there is a yang. Here are three reasons why this season is the perfect...

Senior single women can have and enjoy a healthy dating and social life. In fact, with so many of the age biases disappearing in the 21st century, a modern woman can enjoy a healthy, stimulating social life through all the decades of her life, whether she is 35, 55 or 95 years old. The key to her enjoying a healthy dating life is her desire to have one! Yes ladies, the good news is it all begins with you. Decide...

Reader Question: My boyfriend passed away in 2009. Later that year, I decided I did not want to spend the rest of my life solo. I still have not found someone special. I have been online three years now. I have found I have to meet the person before I really feel any sort of a connection. All the hours on the Internet have turned me off and I am tired of the Internet dating. I have gotten scammed by guys requesting...

Reader Question: I have been divorced for six years and feel I am ready to start dating. I have put my profile online, but in the meantime, I met a guy through my job. He initiated the first date and I did the last two dates. At first he would respond to all my texts. Now he does not. When he has his son, I am out of the picture. When he doesn’t have his son, I am in the picture. Am I being oversensitive? Or is...

It’s so exciting to be dating someone special when the holidays arrive. It’s all so much fun, but I’m going to share a few words of caution. It’s also easy to get carried away with presents and event planning with your new sweetie. First off, if this is your first time celebrating the holidays with your sweetie, it would be good to discuss your plans and make sure you and Miss Right are on the same page. If...

I often get asked if I get hit on by my male clients. It's a natural question, and it's certainly a valid concern for any man I date personally. However, the interesting theme I've noticed is most of my male clients seem to be more excited by the prospect of me helping them get multiple dates, and the idea of pursuing singular me never looks like the better option. In other words, they place their money on the...

Think about your last relationship. Think about how wonderful the woman was when she was still new. You remember the first time you met her, how wonderful it was to see her. She presented the perfect version of herself. It’s almost like when you go buy a car. There’s nothing like a brand new car: the smell of the leather, the way the steering wheel feels in your hands, the way it feels when you drive it. Then...

The holiday season is one of the most romantic times of the year, and it can be lots of fun if you're dating someone new. In order for your relationship to last into the New Year, here are some holiday dating do's and don'ts. 1. Don't give extravagant presents. Gifts like jewelry, electronics, vacations or any other high-ticket item might seem like a good idea in the moment, but they can quickly derail your...

At this time of fast-paced life with technology moving faster than the human body and mind, slow movements are emerging all over the world. First came the Slow Food Movement, which strives to stop mass high-tech agriculture and return to locally grown foods, family dinners and healthful tables. The slow movement then expanded to travel and design, advocating a cultural shift toward slowing life’s pace. And in...

I like online dating. There are also things about online dating I don’t care for. What I love about it is how using these sites makes you feel like a little kid all over again. Remember when you were a little boy and you went to school and you had a crush who you saw every morning in class and one day you talked to her and she was mean to you? And the next day you woke up, went to school, and you had a new...

When you’re 50+ years old and single, online dating is a must. You’ll meet people outside of your social circle…and won’t have to worry so much about whether or not they have a ring on their left finger. In fact, baby boomers represent roughly 20 percent of the eDating population, according to a study by IBISWorld. Whether you’re a member of a niche site specifically for seniors or are eFlirting on a big,...