Let's Talk Online Dating Tips (Page 29)

Reader Question: Over the years, I have seen this several times: a guy will be really into a girl and he will want to see her. Then he doesn't want to see her, but he will text her every day. What is going on? If he's not interested, why make the effort to text every single day? Why doesn't he just quit communicating all together? -Chelsea (Texas) Gina Stewart's Answer: I find men’s relationships to women...

As social networking sites such as Facebook and Twitter become less of a novelty and more ingrained in our daily lives, it’s becoming increasingly acceptable for singles to meet on social media. After all, if social media is already a part of your daily life, why not multitask and use it as an opportunity to connect with eligible bachelors? Facebook Dating has endeavored to monopolize on this social network trend,...

Nothing says more about who we are than what we eat and what we drink. It provides the ultimate insight into our health, appearance, income, lifestyle and even the kind of romantic partner we’ll be. That’s how I’d come to realize that checking my date’s fridge was the perfect preview to what lay ahead. Like the preview of a movie, you don’t get the full picture, but you get a damn good idea if you have a romantic...

The dating scene is tiresome and discouraging these days. Women are frustrated about not meeting quality guys and men are tired of feeling like a last resort. This burnt-out attitude results in people taking a different approach to their love life. For some men, this translates into taking it slow when it comes to sex. Women are so used to guys trying to get in their pants that it is confusing when a guy turns them...

Some say 30 is the new 20, but I think dating in your 30s is better than ever. You've learned from the mistakes you made when you were younger and your outlook on love has grown. Our 10 Best Dating Blogs for 30-Somethings are proof that life doesn't stop after 29. My Thirty Spot BEST OF Bragging...

Illinois natives and first cousins Jenny and Melissa McCarthy (yes, they are cousins!) entered Hollywood from opposite sides of the spectrum. Jenny started out by becoming a famous Playboy model and hosting the TV game show “Singled Out” on MTV. Melissa was an unknown actress until her big break came as a brusque and overzealous bridesmaid in “Bridesmaids,” along with her success on the TV show “Mike and...

I have been on the single scene for 12 years and have met my fair share of men I am not interested in. I am often asked for advice from women who find themselves suddenly single. I think the most common question I get asked today is: Why is the guy I'm seeing ignoring me all of sudden? I like to call this playing dead I am just as mystified as everyone else when men do this. Surely if they are not interested, they...

There’s a really funny viral Craigslist ad making its way around the Internet this week. This stepfather in Gainesville, Fla., posted an ad on Craigslist offering a free ticket to the Florida-Tennessee football game. The circumstances were such that the person would be going to the game with his stepdaughter, whose date (“his loss”) had canceled. Pictures of his attractive daughter were included, as well as the...

Reader Question: I am a pre-op transsexual, hoping one day to afford sexual reassignment surgery. I am 38 now and have actually taken the steps to transition for the past four years. I am strongly attracted to women, but I do not know how to approach women with my situation. Do most  lesbian women take issue with gals like me? How should I go about meeting women for the long term? -Robyn (South...

Reader Question: I have recently entered the world of online dating. So far, the experience has been frustrating to say the least. Rather than give up, I have hired a dating coach. In your experience, have you seen men get better results with this option, or am I wasting my money? -Rich (Canada) Gina Stewart's Answer: One of my favorite quotes is “Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again but...

Reader Question: I am a senior male (68) and a virgin in the gay community. For several years now, I have dreamed of having my virginity taken. How and where are the best places to meet for this encounter? I want to meet a nice, kind and gentle man. -Ray (Washington) Brian Rzepczynski's Answer: Hi Ray! While sex is plentiful for gay men online, at bathhouses and with escorts, these settings can be fraught...

Reader Question: How do you find an honest and real lady on the Internet? I have found 99.9 percent of ads are scams, as well as the sites. -Delmar (Pennsylvania) Gina Stewart's Answer: Keep to more established sites and follow the saying to heart that if it seems too good to be true, it probably is. Most of the women who are overly aggressive on sites are not real, so be careful with them. Also, many...

What ever happened to old-fashioned romance? You know, the kind of romance where the guy lays his coat on a puddle for a woman? Well romance is still alive and kicking at our 10 Best Romance Blogs, and we have the hearts to prove it! Smart Bitches, Trashy Books BEST OF Bragging Rights: all...

One of the things virtually every client going through a divorce tells me is they can't imagine dating. They're not ready to even think about dating. It's not on their radar. It's the last thing on their minds. This thinking often continues post-divorce. I know you're hurt and unsure and the marriage has been a bad experience in one way or another. Maybe it's been a terrible experience. The thing is, you once made...

If you think the selfie photo in the mirror turned her off, that is not the only reason she is taking a pass on your email introduction. It is no secret that online dating is a numbers game, and popular dating sites and apps like Match are no longer filled with 90% men. The percentages of men and women are pretty much equal. Does this make you wonder why guys are not getting luckier online? Here is the deal: When a...

The best dating podcasts make us laugh, make us learn, and make us think about our relationships in a new way. We all live busy lives, and sometimes it's nice to tune into a love-oriented podcast while you clean, drive, relax, or work. Podcasts are quickly becoming a necessary component for dating coaches and matchmakers to reach their target audience: singles looking for a date. And our 10 Best Dating Podcasts get...

We have all seen it -- the much older man walking around hand in hand with a much younger woman (or vice versa). Most people will usually have one of three reactions to this sight: Admiration. They think, "Man, that guy is cool to have pulled that off." Disgust. They think, "Shame on them. People should date people their own age." Ambivalence. They don't think anything about it at all. If you are one of...

Most women take a passive approach to online dating. Often we think about the old dating rules, which clearly state men should be the ones to pursue women. With digital dating, the old rules are obsolete. I am telling you to toss away your feminine ego and dating rules of the past if you truly want to get more dates and meet the man you could possibly fall in love with. Sure, male biology is accurate and men do...

Last week I wrote an article about the reasons men were bad at online dating. It all comes down to one underlying goal: Men just want to meet as quickly as possible. They aren’t like women, who are hungry for information about a potential match, want a solid sense of a guy’s personality and are concerned they won’t like someone. Nope, a lot of men don’t have the patience for online dating. These dudes just want to...

I call myself (mostly to myself) "a profiler." Nope, it has nothing to do with crime solving, unless you count dating lousily (mine, many moons ago, included) a criminal act! Some might. Some should. What I’ve discovered when coaching Handel Group clients on dating is you can fairly easily sniff out people’s past in their current online dating profiles. Maybe that’s a duh. I mean, what else would be in there? But...

Whether you currently remember your dreams or not, science has shown that everyone dreams. Dream study is a practice that goes back to at least 3,000 B.C. Many cultures throughout history have viewed dreams as a powerful way to receive divine guidance and assistance. Modern psychology proposed that dreams are a way to access unconscious thoughts and feelings that are interfering with healthy and happy...

I’m working with a woman who’s so anxious about her online dating experience that she logs on to dating sites three times a day, not to look for someone new or to answer an email, but to check the status of a person she used to date. She constantly wonders and worries if he’s replaced her and counts the amount of times she sees his profile with the banner of “Online Now.” She’s so obsessed about him and the ease of...

You took the dive. You put up a profile on an online dating site. Now what do you do? Well let me ask you: Are you looking for a pen pal or an in-the-flesh, hold-her-at-night girlfriend? You’re looking for a girlfriend. Right, I knew that but wanted to check with you. If you’re looking for a girlfriend, then lets get clear on how to use online dating to get that result. 1. Make sure you complete your...

Let me tell you about my most devastating breakup. Jim and I were together for 18 months. We just didn’t have long-term compatibility. It took us a while to figure this out and even longer to end the relationship - not because of inertia, but because we had something really special. Human life is a solitary thing. We come in alone. We go out alone. And in between it sometimes feels like we are, basically,...

Have you ever had a woman who seemed really interested in you when you first met her, but when you called her or texted her later, she never called or texted you back? If you’ve had this happen to you before, then you’re not alone. However, understand that when a woman acts interested in you in the beginning, but totally flakes out on you or goes “no contact” on you immediately afterward, it’s because of one of...

With online dating, new mobile apps and technology can enhance your love life in a variety of ways. Often your date could live in another city, state, or even in another country. There are so many success stories of couples who have found love on the internet by simply changing their zip codes and casting a wider net for a search. Dating sites like Match and dating apps like Hinge have incredibly high success rates...

Reader Question: I am a 50-year-old who doesn't know what to do. My partner left a year and a half ago and the grieving is over. My issue is more that I have a disability and am not in the hippest lesbian area. I have been on dating sites and they suck. Social events are great. However, with my multiple sclerosis, I am very unreliable and tend to let my anxiety turn into stress. In addition, I am not able to...

There are difficulties and advantages for both sexes when doing online dating. For women, it can feel complicated. Women play a mental game of, "Should I reach out first, or should I let him be the aggressor? Do men like that?" Thus, they often spend a lot of time waiting for men they're interested in to contact them. Men think women have it easy, that they can just put up pictures and emails start cascading in...

Texting can change the whole emotional climate of your relationship. Gwen, a client in our Love Mentoring program, used it to get the commitment she wanted from her boyfriend, Karl. After being together just a few short months, Gwen was pushing Karl away because she was demanding to meet his kids and family, know where things were heading and so on. This was causing him to back off. We asked Gwen to stop her...

I had broken up with my girlfriend/fiance after being with her for four years. Several months later, I was about to go on my first “first date” in four years. I was understandably nervous and excited. We went to a restaurant and a movie. The next day, my friend and I had this conversation: Friend: So how was the date? Todd: It was good. I had a nice time. Friend: Tell me about her. Describe her to me. Todd:...