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Reader Question: I am a senior male (68) and a virgin in the gay community. For several years now, I have dreamed of having my virginity taken. How and where are the best places to meet for this encounter? I want to meet a nice, kind and gentle man. -Ray (Washington) Brian Rzepczynski's Answer: Hi Ray! While sex is plentiful for gay men online, at bathhouses and with escorts, these settings can be fraught...

Reader Question: How do you find an honest and real lady on the Internet? I have found 99.9 percent of ads are scams, as well as the sites. -Delmar (Pennsylvania) Gina Stewart's Answer: Keep to more established sites and follow the saying to heart that if it seems too good to be true, it probably is. Most of the women who are overly aggressive on sites are not real, so be careful with them. Also, many...

What ever happened to old-fashioned romance? You know, the kind of romance where the guy lays his coat on a puddle for a woman? Well romance is still alive and kicking at our 10 Best Romance Blogs, and we have the hearts to prove it! Smart Bitches, Trashy Books BEST OF Bragging Rights: all...

One of the things virtually every client going through a divorce tells me is they can't imagine dating. They're not ready to even think about dating. It's not on their radar. It's the last thing on their minds. This thinking often continues post-divorce. I know you're hurt and unsure and the marriage has been a bad experience in one way or another. Maybe it's been a terrible experience. The thing is, you once made...

If you think the selfie photo in the mirror turned her off, that is not the only reason she is taking a pass on your email introduction. It is no secret that online dating is a numbers game, and popular dating sites and apps like Match are no longer filled with 90% men. The percentages of men and women are pretty much equal. Does this make you wonder why guys are not getting luckier online? Here is the deal: When a...

The best dating podcasts make us laugh, make us learn, and make us think about our relationships in a new way. We all live busy lives, and sometimes it's nice to tune into a love-oriented podcast while you clean, drive, relax, or work. Podcasts are quickly becoming a necessary component for dating coaches and matchmakers to reach their target audience: singles looking for a date. And our 10 Best Dating Podcasts get...

We have all seen it -- the much older man walking around hand in hand with a much younger woman (or vice versa). Most people will usually have one of three reactions to this sight: Admiration. They think, "Man, that guy is cool to have pulled that off." Disgust. They think, "Shame on them. People should date people their own age." Ambivalence. They don't think anything about it at all. If you are one of...

Most women take a passive approach to online dating. Often we think about the old dating rules, which clearly state men should be the ones to pursue women. With digital dating, the old rules are obsolete. I am telling you to toss away your feminine ego and dating rules of the past if you truly want to get more dates and meet the man you could possibly fall in love with. Sure, male biology is accurate and men do...

Last week I wrote an article about the reasons men were bad at online dating. It all comes down to one underlying goal: Men just want to meet as quickly as possible. They aren’t like women, who are hungry for information about a potential match, want a solid sense of a guy’s personality and are concerned they won’t like someone. Nope, a lot of men don’t have the patience for online dating. These dudes just want to...

I call myself (mostly to myself) "a profiler." Nope, it has nothing to do with crime solving, unless you count dating lousily (mine, many moons ago, included) a criminal act! Some might. Some should. What I’ve discovered when coaching Handel Group clients on dating is you can fairly easily sniff out people’s past in their current online dating profiles. Maybe that’s a duh. I mean, what else would be in there? But...

Whether you currently remember your dreams or not, science has shown that everyone dreams. Dream study is a practice that goes back to at least 3,000 B.C. Many cultures throughout history have viewed dreams as a powerful way to receive divine guidance and assistance. Modern psychology proposed that dreams are a way to access unconscious thoughts and feelings that are interfering with healthy and happy...

I’m working with a woman who’s so anxious about her online dating experience that she logs on to dating sites three times a day, not to look for someone new or to answer an email, but to check the status of a person she used to date. She constantly wonders and worries if he’s replaced her and counts the amount of times she sees his profile with the banner of “Online Now.” She’s so obsessed about him and the ease of...

You took the dive. You put up a profile on an online dating site. Now what do you do? Well let me ask you: Are you looking for a pen pal or an in-the-flesh, hold-her-at-night girlfriend? You’re looking for a girlfriend. Right, I knew that but wanted to check with you. If you’re looking for a girlfriend, then lets get clear on how to use online dating to get that result. 1. Make sure you complete your...

Let me tell you about my most devastating breakup. Jim and I were together for 18 months. We just didn’t have long-term compatibility. It took us a while to figure this out and even longer to end the relationship - not because of inertia, but because we had something really special. Human life is a solitary thing. We come in alone. We go out alone. And in between it sometimes feels like we are, basically,...

Have you ever had a woman who seemed really interested in you when you first met her, but when you called her or texted her later, she never called or texted you back? If you’ve had this happen to you before, then you’re not alone. However, understand that when a woman acts interested in you in the beginning, but totally flakes out on you or goes “no contact” on you immediately afterward, it’s because of one of...

With online dating, new mobile apps and technology can enhance your love life in a variety of ways. Often your date could live in another city, state, or even in another country. There are so many success stories of couples who have found love on the internet by simply changing their zip codes and casting a wider net for a search. Dating sites like Match and dating apps like Hinge have incredibly high success rates...

Reader Question: I am a 50-year-old who doesn't know what to do. My partner left a year and a half ago and the grieving is over. My issue is more that I have a disability and am not in the hippest lesbian area. I have been on dating sites and they suck. Social events are great. However, with my multiple sclerosis, I am very unreliable and tend to let my anxiety turn into stress. In addition, I am not able to...

There are difficulties and advantages for both sexes when doing online dating. For women, it can feel complicated. Women play a mental game of, "Should I reach out first, or should I let him be the aggressor? Do men like that?" Thus, they often spend a lot of time waiting for men they're interested in to contact them. Men think women have it easy, that they can just put up pictures and emails start cascading in...

Texting can change the whole emotional climate of your relationship. Gwen, a client in our Love Mentoring program, used it to get the commitment she wanted from her boyfriend, Karl. After being together just a few short months, Gwen was pushing Karl away because she was demanding to meet his kids and family, know where things were heading and so on. This was causing him to back off. We asked Gwen to stop her...

I had broken up with my girlfriend/fiance after being with her for four years. Several months later, I was about to go on my first “first date” in four years. I was understandably nervous and excited. We went to a restaurant and a movie. The next day, my friend and I had this conversation: Friend: So how was the date? Todd: It was good. I had a nice time. Friend: Tell me about her. Describe her to me. Todd:...

Call me old-fashioned, but at least my guy and I are on the same digital page. We’re exclusive, we met on an online dating site, we’re happy, and we’re not friends on Facebook. When Mashable released their survey results showing that one out of four singles think it’s fine to become friends on Facebook before they meet IRL, I was shocked to see how the trend has loosened up. With the Facebook relationship status...

Forget the Seven Deadly Sins. Committing these mistakes will send you to your digital dating grave. 1. Not writing anything about yourself. This includes saying things like, “I’m an open book. Ask me anything," or "Not sure what to write here. Check back later.” Women go on online dating to get to know about men before they go out with them. If you give her nothing to help her determine whether she’ll like you,...

When a single person finds out I’m a dating coach, they immediately ask, “What advice do you have for me?” It’s pretty impossible to give individual feedback without knowing another person, so I’ve had to think long and hard about what my number one tip is for guys, regardless of who they are or the issues they face in their love lifes. Here it is: TAKE INITIATIVE. Men make decisions. So take what you think is...

Perhaps number one on everyone’s list when selecting a mate is finding someone of quality. This is somebody who will treat you well and with respect, balances you on all levels, makes you number one in their life, is compatible both sexually and psychologically and is a soul mate you can communicate with concerning just about anything. Mutual trust and honoring your commitments is essential for success, but trying...

He loves me. He loves me not. Gone are the days when single men and women sit at home and wait for the phone to ring after a date. Need help finding a date? Match.com is the largest dating site out there, and the best part is you can try it free for 3 days. When it comes to digital dating, it turns out the cell phone has now become a single dater’s best friend. Here's how to determine how long you should wait...

While some dating tips work for every dater, there comes a time and a place when only the specialized advice will do. Our 10 Best African-American Dating Blogs cater to the love needs of our African-American daters out there, and no one could do a better job - just see for...

Your girlfriend’s sister tells you about this great guy she thinks you should meet. Immediately you go on her Facebook page to check him out. The second you see his picture, you decline the offer to be set up, trying your best to avoid bad blind dates. Or, even worse, he doesn’t have a Facebook photo. You agree to the date and the minute you walk into the restaurant and see him, you feel frustrated that you now...

This article should be one word. No. But because I care about your dating success and your love life, I will expand on my perfunctory tone. I want to make it very clear that I abhor game playing when it comes to dating and mating. I also espouse that anyone of the male gender should be taught to behave like a gentleman by their parents, and if this has not been instilled in you by the time you can read properly,...

“A good man often appears gauche simply because he does not take advantage of the myriad, mean little chances of making himself look stylish. Preferring truth to form, he is not constantly at work upon the facade of his appearance.” ~Alanis Morissette Perhaps the biggest question mature single women ask is where and how to meet a good man. Let’s define what the term good means. In this context, let’s say a good man...

Finding a compatible man or woman you want to spend time with isn’t like shooting fish in a barrel – especially if you’re in the later stages of life. At DatingAdvice.com, we understand that meeting fellow seniors can seem like more of a pain than a pleasure. That’s why we’ve put together a list of the six ways to meet a senior man or woman – or at least someone for a good round of golf or friendly game of...